@aquarius09
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MY CANCER MAN DUMBED ME IN THE WORSE WAY
What Does Cancer Men Dismissal Mean for Relationships
Cancer men can be emotional and sensitive, but their reactions may seem dismissive during conflicts. Understanding their need for security and emotional depth helps interpret their behavior after breakups. Recognizing these traits can improve communication and help you navigate the breakup process more effectively.
Man said he doesn’t want kids!
You should had walk away.
You 2 want different things. And both feeling strongly about it. So...no compromise on any side means break up!
What else did you want him to do?
Keep arguing for another 10 years?
He will probably end up with someone who already have kids or willing to adopt. How really hard is this to understand?
Thanks everyone
I’m annoyed at myself for not listening to him the first time or bringing up the topic again- for someone to say they would kill and die for you I would assume he would also want to have kids...... I’m not satisfied with his reasons and I don’t think it’s over
Leo xxx
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Why adopt if you don’t want kids..that bits weird.
Exactly he is open to the idea of adoption and he is the God parent of 5 young girls
What's your sun and moon sign?
Leo Hun xxxx
Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax
What—!!! Why is he the heartless one? It's the woman being heartless in this situation, saying "one of us will have to compromise" meaning him! It seems a very legit reason to want to adopt instead of making yet another human being in this world, when there are so many kids and people, that are left in their own in a lifelobg struggle. So he wants to adopt and "save" one of them instead of making another.
Wether or not they broke up I have no idea, but mayb she should learn to have a little respect for him instead of bullying him like this.
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I am not bullying him I have compromised a lot for him and in his relationship and he knows that, there is no middle ground here, also to adopt you both have to both have clear records which sadly one off is does not have. Is he saying adoption to just bide my time or would he really go through the efforts of saving a child - it’s clear that we want different things but he did not have to come to my work place, drop all my things and say I don’t need your things and I don’t need you. That is someone who is acting out of anger rather than logic
I have a feeling you forgot to mention some other things, otherwise it doesnt make sense....
How old are you both? do you even live together? I assume not.... were you forcing him to live together or some other things?
why are you talking about children if you dont even live together?
maybe he thinks you are too bossy? his way of dumping you may suggest he is really angry... or you hurt him somehow...
so, what are the other things you left out? I think its not just about the children topic...
It's easy to force someone to become someone else and call it a compromise...
The way he broke up with you is undoubtedly immature but you also weren't right to tell him harsh things... sounds like you dismissed his point of view and he probably felt attacked for who he is
How old are you both?
I’m 27 and he is 32
I have a feeling you forgot to mention some other things, otherwise it doesnt make sense....
How old are you both? do you even live together? I assume not.... were you forcing him to live together or some other things?
why are you talking about children if you dont even live together?
maybe he thinks you are too bossy? his way of dumping you may suggest he is really angry... or you hurt him somehow...
so, what are the other things you left out? I think its not just about the children topic...
We don’t live together, I have my a Mortage and he lives with parents, he has always wanted to get married with me and wanted to move in however parents suggested it wasn’t a manly thing to do and we should look at buying a place together after marriage. I am 27 and he is 32 - this is the 2ns argument we’ve had in our two year relationship
Thank you all for your responses. It’s really appreciated x
Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax
What—!!! Why is he the heartless one? It's the woman being heartless in this situation, saying "one of us will have to compromise" meaning him! It seems a very legit reason to want to adopt instead of making yet another human being in this world, when there are so many kids and people, that are left in their own in a lifelobg struggle. So he wants to adopt and "save" one of them instead of making another.
Wether or not they broke up I have no idea, but mayb she should learn to have a little respect for him instead of bullying him like this.
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There’s better way of dumping people. Do you think anyone deserves to be dumped that way? And I never said she’s right for imposing her views on him.
I have a feeling you forgot to mention some other things, otherwise it doesnt make sense....
How old are you both? do you even live together? I assume not.... were you forcing him to live together or some other things?
why are you talking about children if you dont even live together?
maybe he thinks you are too bossy? his way of dumping you may suggest he is really angry... or you hurt him somehow...
so, what are the other things you left out? I think its not just about the children topic...
We don’t live together, I have my a Mortage and he lives with parents, he has always wanted to get married with me and wanted to move in however parents suggested it wasn’t a manly thing to do and we should look at buying a place together after marriage. I am 27 and he is 32 - this is the 2ns argument we’ve had in our two year relationship
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he is 32 and is living with his parents? is this some cultural thing?
his parents suggested it wasnt a manly thing to do to move in together.... how manly it is to live with his parents at 32? are the parents seriously ill and he is taking care of them?
God father to 5 girls, agree to adopt doesn’t want kids...something pedofilic screams out...no?
I have a feeling you forgot to mention some other things, otherwise it doesnt make sense....
How old are you both? do you even live together? I assume not.... were you forcing him to live together or some other things?
why are you talking about children if you dont even live together?
maybe he thinks you are too bossy? his way of dumping you may suggest he is really angry... or you hurt him somehow...
so, what are the other things you left out? I think its not just about the children topic...
We don’t live together, I have my a Mortage and he lives with parents, he has always wanted to get married with me and wanted to move in however parents suggested it wasn’t a manly thing to do and we should look at buying a place together after marriage. I am 27 and he is 32 - this is the 2ns argument we’ve had in our two year relationship
he is 32 and is living with his parents? is this some cultural thing?
his parents suggested it wasnt a manly thing to do to move in together.... how manly it is to live with his parents at 32? are the parents seriously ill and he is taking care of them?
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Hmmmm it’s not a cultural thing he supports his parents and pays for their Mortage as they don’t work for a strange reason, should he move out he wouldn’t be able to afford his own place whilst paying for his parents place. He doesn’t work at the moment either as he is studying his masters
He probably thinks he will not be fufilll your needs including having kids. also you said some harsh things according to your post, that's big no-no in a relationship, hurtful words can completely ruin your relationship
Most people say things out of anger what I said wasn’t that bad so I thought and I apologised I think that’s the first hurtful thing I said to him which was implying that he needs spiritual healing for not wanting kids and we should go church- he made the break up all about that rather than the kids- the manner in which he done it was cold and I don’t think it takes someone 2 days to throw away 7 years worth of knowing each other
God father to 5 girls, agree to adopt doesn’t want kids...something pedofilic screams out...no?
He is amazing with other kids but does not want his own
I’m annoyed at myself for not listening to him the first time or bringing up the topic again- for someone to say they would kill and die for you I would assume he would also want to have kids...... I’m not satisfied with his reasons and I don’t think it’s over
If your having sex with someone, repeated sex, you need to have this discussion of babies. Because what if you had gotten pregnant and he wanted to abort but you want to keep the child? This can get messy fast.
So the next guy your with bring up the topic before you fuck so that all cards are in the table. And first and foremost for a relationship to work you have to be on the same page with the big stuff.
God father to 5 girls, agree to adopt doesn’t want kids...something pedofilic screams out...no?
Your dumb af
Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax
your hatred of crab men is asinine
it's getting to be irrational
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Just because I’m repulsed by bad behaviour, doesn’t mean I hate crab men. Also, the only thing asinine here is your lack of comprehension of the OP
Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax
What—!!! Why is he the heartless one? It's the woman being heartless in this situation, saying "one of us will have to compromise" meaning him! It seems a very legit reason to want to adopt instead of making yet another human being in this world, when there are so many kids and people, that are left in their own in a lifelobg struggle. So he wants to adopt and "save" one of them instead of making another.
Wether or not they broke up I have no idea, but mayb she should learn to have a little respect for him instead of bullying him like this.
There’s better way of dumping people. Do you think anyone deserves to be dumped that way? And I never said she’s right for imposing her views on him.
Were they ever dating?
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I can’t believe I’m answering this dumb question. She mentioned ar the beginning that she’s in a relationship for 2 yrs. Also, the word “dumped” is used and that he dropped her things off and told her he doesn’t want to be with her anymore. Can you read?
Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax
your hatred of crab men is asinine
it's getting to be irrational
Just because I’m repulsed by bad behaviour, doesn’t mean I hate crab men. Also, the only thing asinine here is your lack of comprehension of the OP
yeah yeah live your Bs somewhere else, im not cosigning your BS today-You always take the 9th level when it comes to Crabs, I like to enjoy poking fun, but you really hate crab men. Not my problem.
BYE
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That’s great! I don’t care if you co-sign or not.
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
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So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
how is he leading her on? he was fine being with her without kids. if she doesn't like it she is the one to leave.
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He’s a pendulum. He says certain things to breadcrumb her into thinking that he would have kids and then other times he doesn’t want them. He’s leading her on. If he was consistent, this issue wouldn’t emerge. Either she was gonna leave with a firm no on kids or she would stay and give up on kids.
It’s better you all broke up now.
I feel like that should be a dealbreaker?
Trying to change someone isn’t the answer.
If someone says they don’t want kids, but you do, that should be respected on both sides with an understanding that you are not compatible.
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
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And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
I know your hurting now but consider this a blessing in disguise.
If you two stayed together for the long term, one of you would end up making a huge sacrifice for the relationship and end up bitter and resentful.
My thoughts exactly
God father to 5 girls, agree to adopt doesn’t want kids...something pedofilic screams out...no?
Your dumb af
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You are surviving so I guess I’ll survive as well...🤝
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
this happens far too often.
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Doubt it all the other women who got pregnant with him he told them to terminate the pregnancy at least I didn’t try to trap him
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
how is he leading her on? he was fine being with her without kids. if she doesn't like it she is the one to leave.
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He was leading me on because up until our convo he would mention having kids etc however he did express this before and he said because he loves me so much he would try and have a positive outlook on kids - should we had not that convo we would be fine and gotten married because he was going to propose then married me to then tell me no he doesn’t want kids - at the point he tried and his mind didn’t change that’s when he should have told me
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
how is he leading her on? he was fine being with her without kids. if she doesn't like it she is the one to leave.
He was leading me on because up until our convo he would mention having kids etc however he did express this before and he said because he loves me so much he would try and have a positive outlook on kids - should we had not that convo we would be fine and gotten married because he was going to propose then married me to then tell me no he doesn’t want kids - at the point he tried and his mind didn’t change that’s when he should have told me
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Ok darling...do you really want to have a kid with someone who doesn’t want children because he just goes with your wish?
Though...maybe it’s a bad example but I’ve seen so many people in life who hated animals but getting one accidentally - were changed people!
Basically would kill for their pup!!!
If that’s what you were hoping...possible...but it’s a whole human person we talking about!
He apparently loved you. Struggled to please you. At some moment got up from the wrong foot and...the end!
So...all said above...he seems like a man who had tried but you’ve missed his signals of struggle...and you broke him to the point that he made this childish move as a person who lost his mind struggling...not wanting kids took over! He was emotionally spent! And you haven’t seen it coming...weird for a loving woman...
I think...
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
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Exactly it’s not until I brought it otherwise he wouldn’t have said anything he has hurt so many women and has made them have several abortion, as any silly women you think that you’re different you can’t be right with all the lives you’ve killed because you didn’t want the child but then don’t take the right actions to make sure that doesn’t happen - I believe he doesn’t want kids not just with me but with any and every women he will be with
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
Exactly it’s not until I brought it otherwise he wouldn’t have said anything he has hurt so many women and has made them have several abortion, as any silly women you think that you’re different you can’t be right with all the lives you’ve killed because you didn’t want the child but then don’t take the right actions to make sure that doesn’t happen - I believe he doesn’t want kids not just with me but with any and every women he will be with
Who has the criminal record??
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Him
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
Exactly it’s not until I brought it otherwise he wouldn’t have said anything he has hurt so many women and has made them have several abortion, as any silly women you think that you’re different you can’t be right with all the lives you’ve killed because you didn’t want the child but then don’t take the right actions to make sure that doesn’t happen - I believe he doesn’t want kids not just with me but with any and every women he will be with
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Don’t sacrifice what you want for someone else. Go be with someone who also wants kids. Next time bring it up sooner. I just don’t like the way he handled the break up. It’s so off-putting...emotional outburst.
I know time bandits (not exclusive to Cancerians) like him in real life who have no intention of building a life(marriage/kids) with a woman but they have no problem leading her on (they give them false hopes/empty words which people see as them “trying” but the only thing they are trying is lip service) and wasting her time until the camel’s back breaks. The man can lead a naive woman on for years until the woman takes a stand for herself. If you don’t see it come to fruition within a reasonable time, you need to bounce, which is what you need to do NOW!
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
Exactly it’s not until I brought it otherwise he wouldn’t have said anything he has hurt so many women and has made them have several abortion, as any silly women you think that you’re different you can’t be right with all the lives you’ve killed because you didn’t want the child but then don’t take the right actions to make sure that doesn’t happen - I believe he doesn’t want kids not just with me but with any and every women he will be with
Who has the criminal record??
Him
Ok girl, why would you want his babies anyway?
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I know you’re right I’ve lost a friend and a boyfriend
funny i bet you in 6 months' he'll have a kid with some other chick
hahahhaha
I believe so too.
Crab men don’t mind staying in a relationship they see no future in. They won’t leave but they’ll wait until the other person messes up and use that as an excuse to get out.
She’s avoiding the question about which of them has a criminal history. It’s probably her and he doesn’t see a future with her
So then why can’t he be a decent human being and either communicate that to her or stop leading her on/wasting her time. This way she’s free to pursue a man who can give her what she wants. If she at that point decides to stay with him, then she has no right to expect kids or complain.
He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. There’s something about her that she needs to fix for him to see her as the mother of his children. That’s why he talks about his future children but when she specifically brings it up he says he doesn’t want them. He doesn’t want to hurt her feelings and tell her she needs to fix something about herself. She needs to figure it out herself.
And this is precisely the problem with passive men. Where is the communication? How is she going to know if he doesn’t tell her? The notion that doesn’t want to hurt her feeling is a cop out and helps no one. I’m placing my bet on that she’s Ms. Right Now.
Exactly it’s not until I brought it otherwise he wouldn’t have said anything he has hurt so many women and has made them have several abortion, as any silly women you think that you’re different you can’t be right with all the lives you’ve killed because you didn’t want the child but then don’t take the right actions to make sure that doesn’t happen - I believe he doesn’t want kids not just with me but with any and every women he will be with
Don’t sacrifice what you want for someone else. Go be with someone who also wants kids. Next time bring it up sooner. I just don’t like the way he handled the break up. It’s so off-putting...emotional outburst.
I know time bandits (not exclusive to Cancerians) like him in real life who have no intention of building a life(marriage/kids) with a woman but they have no problem leading her on (they give them false hopes/empty words which people see as them “trying” but the only thing they are trying is lip service) and wasting her time until the camel’s back breaks. The man can lead a naive woman on for years until the woman takes a stand for herself. If you don’t see it come to fruition within a reasonable time, you need to bounce, which is what you need to do NOW!
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Thank you so much x
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
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He has terminated 6 unborn souls let’s hope he keeps the one he has after me
Posted by intergalacticplanetary
Why adopt if you don’t want kids..that bits weird.
Not at all. He probably doesn't see the need to breed more children when there are plenty of neglected children already out in the world. That doesn't mean he's against the idea of parenting, just procreating (which would explain why he's a godfather). In fact, I know a several people with this mindset, and it has little to do with saving the environment, but more so providing a family for a child without that privilege.
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
He has terminated 6 unborn souls let’s hope he keeps the one he has after me
that's sick
what his placements?
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How do I find out his placement ?
I'm assuming you didn't find out about the abortions yesterday... Jfc.
Saying he 'aborted 6 souls' is a bit much. Unless shes claiming he took these girls against their will and found a doctor willing to commit a crime against an unwilling patient. Js.
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
He has terminated 6 unborn souls let’s hope he keeps the one he has after me
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He didn‘t terminate them. He wanted to but in the end all these stupid women did terminate their(!) pregnancies! 6x not being able to take birth control the right way? I mean it can happen.. but 6 times? And none of them took responsibility for their own failure but decided to terminate their babies just because some dude doesn‘t want kids with them. He is very irresponsible
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
He has terminated 6 unborn souls let’s hope he keeps the one he has after me
that's sick
what his placements?
How do I find out his placement ?
google cafe astrology birth chart
put in his birth info
click to expand
Sun 10 ‘17
Hi All,
Me and my Boyfriend (Cancer Male) have been friends for 5 years then got into a 2 year relationship. Things where perfect and we hardly fight. One year into our relationship he mentioned that he didn't want kids. We had a massive argument about it and he agreed to do his best to change his mind. From then he would mention how our kids would behave, what they would look like and who would be the God parents of them. Fast forward to last week the conversation of kids came up again. He said again he did not want kids and didn't see it in his future. The reason was that he feels the world is a bad place and kids are overrated. I said one of us needs to make a compromise, he said we can adopt. If he is willing to adopt then why would he not want his own child and go through the hassle of adoption? I got angry and said some harsh things about his spirit and mental state for not having a clear reason to why he doesn't want kids.Two days later he comes to my work place and drops off all my things- He said I don't need you or your things its over!! you live your life and I will live mine. You can imagine how heart broken I was. I followed him home pleading for forgiveness, we get to his house and he slams the door in my face. At this point I give up and walk away as I walk away he LOCKS the door. a few minutes later he sends me a message which reads "sorry it had to come to this, I came outside but you weren't there...……." I ignored the text. I have not heard from him ever since. What should I do...…. I am so confused has he actually broken up with me or if he acting out of spite, or is he doing the right thing by letting me go because he knows he can never give me what I want which is kids..... please help
He sure wants kids someday. But not with you.
Be thankful for this harsh end although its ugly and hurts. You‘ll find better 🌷
He has terminated 6 unborn souls let’s hope he keeps the one he has after me
that's sick
what his placements?
How do I find out his placement ?
google cafe astrology birth chart
put in his birth info
click to expand
Sun
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Wow! Now that’s the epitome of a heartless overreaction. What a punkass bitch! Have some self-respect and don’t entertain this piece of shit. You want him as the father of your kids? Eww! Do yourself a favour and don’t procreate with him.
If he wants to break up or have an averse reaction to children talk, there’s better ways to conduct yourself. #repulsedtothemax