Advice Please- Virgo woman Wants Crab man back!

Hi there, to make my long story short we fell in love. I know this 100 percent. He left as he was working out of town. He seemed to want a long-distance relationship but I began to get insecure about many things and broke it off but left the door open for him to contact me if he came back in town or wanted a vacation buddy. He told me "goodbye forever I'm sorry you don't have the strength to continue this. It was fun." I told him I am suffering without him and I love him and what am I supposed to do since he is gone and I'm missing him terribly. No reply. Then I sent him another message saying I won't message him anymore and that I'm sorry we never discussed our plans for the future (we never did communicate about maintaining this kind of relationship). No reply. Today I sent him a final message (I will not send him anymore this time I feel more closure) with an apology about my insecurity and that I still hope for him and that I at least want his forgiveness and friendship. Still nothing. This has only been a week now. Do you think he will come around? I can handle the truth. Thanks for any insight on a Truly good Cancer man. 🙂

Posted by Gmoney
I know this 100 percent.

It's good, as opposed to 99% percent.

Posted by Gmoney
He seemed to want a long-distance relationship

I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and think of the scenario where he didn't actually say out "I want to have a LDR with you"..because I'm a Virgo and we have the tendency to want things verbalised. But if he did say that out..you have no excuse. If he didn't say it out but acted it out in taking an active interest on you..again you have no excuse.

Posted by Gmoney
but I began to get insecure about many things

So much for the 100% certainty.

Posted by Gmoney
"I'm sorry you don't have the strength to continue this."

I'd tell you exactly the same thing.

As for your suffering..if you don't want to work things out together with someone, you can keep on suffering. Ofc you got no reply because the other person doesn't need your suffering, they need you to be proactive and work at this if you're into it. As far as "I want your forgiveness and friendship", that is a total cop out and would piss me off if I was him. Why would he come back around?

Posted by Gmoney
I can handle the truth.

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We'll see about that. Can.you.handle.the.truth?

Yes it's hard to hear but I needed to hear it. Likely he is done with me and rightly so. Thank you 🙂

Note: Everything I said applies if this dude is into you and his actions proved that. I don't care if he never verbalised "let's do this ldr thing". I've been in a ldr and it worked out, we moved in together. But it's not for the faint of heart and it's meant only as an intermediary step. The point of any LDR is for those two people to actually live in the same city at some point.

I really think you're freaking out, overthinking and throwing the baby with the babywater. What is the rush here? I'm sure you have some inkling you didn't handle this the best way.

Communicate openly with this dude or forget it. Your insecurity isn't a burden to be placed on someone else.

"Look I don't think I handled this the right way. I got insecure and I lost my footing with this. I don't want to presume you want a long distance relationship..so tell me if we're on the same page here? Because if we are, I want to make this work with you."

Call him and ask him this.

Posted by Gmoney
Yes it's hard to hear but I needed to hear it. Likely he is done with me and rightly so. Thank you 🙂

That's not what I was saying. Cut with the Virgo defeatist attitude and make it work. You freaking out isn't the end of the world yet..honesty will bridge the gap that divided you. If he doesn't want to work it out with you, then okay. But you need to try first. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Right now it's a lose/lose for you when it could be a win/win for both. Have some faith.

God thank you that just might work. Should I ask him
Permission to call or just do it? I already feel embarrassed and ashamed and don't want to push him further away.

Look, embarassment and shame are yours to deal with. Virgo Women have a huge problem they'll come off as desperate. I am assuring you it won't come off as desperate..just honest.

Don't ask him permission. Call him, be kind, be gentle.

"Hello, do you have a couple of minutes to talk?"

If he's at work, wait til he gets home.

If he cares for you and sees you confident in making this work and you will take active steps with him to make it work..it will all turn out okay.

If he cut all ties to you, at least you'll know. I don't think he will go cruel on you and you'll feel weight lifted off your chest.

It's a win/win because else, you'll just overthink it further and will have regrets about things you could have done or said.

I wish you the best. Good luck. Tell us what he said.

Thank you damnata 🙂 you're good! I will try that and let you know 🙂))) you're right- I have nothing to lose except him which I do not want that to happen.

Check this topic for cancer replies too. I'm a Virgo, they might have valuable insight to add to this.

But yes, I'd call him.