Why is it....—

Why is it that when a cancer man has gone to his shell because of something you've done (that he obviously can't get over ) then only way to draw him out .A..it's to literally blank him and sort of turn your feelings off.... what goes on inside that head lf theirs—?

They don't turn off the emotions... they take a brake if they are mature... because they don't want to look at week in front of you. If you show you still care they may come back but at the same time if you hurt them to bad then for get about it.

PM

Well I didn't have his back as he said....I dint protect him from a situation..... obviously I didn't do intentionally ...he said he forgot about it....we made love ..spent the day together and I couldn't believe that as soon as he was going to drop me home ...he brought it back up , wouldn't talk to me and for like a day... blanked me... but because I have reacted or contacted him...(frankly i find it quite draining and immature) now he is blowing up my phone.... why —? Is that how they usually respond.... because if it is then ....i have no problem waiting for him to come around his moods.....

**have not reacted or contacted him

Posted by JJ141214
Well I didn't have his back as he said....I dint protect him from a situation..... obviously I didn't do intentionally ...he said he forgot about it....we made love ..spent the day together and I couldn't believe that as soon as he was going to drop me home ...he brought it back up , wouldn't talk to me and for like a day... blanked me... but because I have reacted or contacted him...(frankly i find it quite draining and immature) now he is blowing up my phone.... why —? Is that how they usually respond.... because if it is then ....i have no problem waiting for him to come around his moods.....

Well now that is different... you had sex... did you honestly think that would solve the problem... For a crab it will not. They need to normally talk it out at length and a few times. I know it can be draining and immature but if you care about him enough you will do it or it will get worse after some time... Or if it is really not the biggest deal just say or try this... Tell him a lot of people have much larger problems like cheating, drugs, and violence. Lets put this in to perspective... I am more then willing to talk about this and make and effort to fix it. I however am not going to allow you to hold it over my head forever... I will do my best to make sure it does not happen... and if you can't find it in your heart to forgive me and let it go then it will only drive us apart. I don't want that but if you keep doing that... that is what will happen.

Let me know how it goes.

PM

@PM .A..that is a brilliant response... just texted him that...I must say I just physically felt the power seep back into me.... now the ball is on his court so to speak.... and what ever choice he makes... I don't feel he took the power from me.... thank you ? lets see what happens.....

I agree 100% with PM. Sex without ironing out problems with a cancer is cool but after it's done, the fear and doubt creep right back in. When having issues, sex doesn't mean resolution for a cancer. You must talk to him and be completely open and clear.

Posted by StarChild63
I agree 100% with PM. Sex without ironing out problems with a cancer is cool but after it's done, the fear and doubt creep right back in. When having issues, sex doesn't mean resolution for a cancer. You must talk to him and be completely open and clear.

yes he will feel that... and thank you for your compliments... My friends will often ask me how I worded something so they can text to there bf or gf. Alot of it has to do with you are so emotionally tied it is hard to see the answer... you just want to make it better or go away. I can do it with my personal life but it is and becomes harder the more emotionally involved I am with people.

PM