Another cancer.

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nOvbaby
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I met this guy through mutual friends and he would IM me on facebook every night and we'd talk for hours on end and there would never be a dull moment. He always contacted me, I usually almost never contacted him. Anyways he ended up inviting me out to a party one night where he flirted with me the whole night, bit me several times and never left my side (it was all his friends I knew nobody). Anyways his ex was at the same party and they had gotten into a huge fight at the end of the night and we were both walking away and I thought he was running after her but no he came after me instead. He hung out with me for a few hours just talking and I ended up sleeping over by his house, cuddling and whatnot it was cute. He wouldn't drive me home until 5 the next day. Tuesday of that week I told him to come out and sure enough he did, we had a great night hanging out with one of my friends and one of our mutual friends in the city drinking, playing games and just hitting it off. He eventually kissed me, twice. We ended up leaving for all of us to go back to my house to watch movies where we kissed again and fell asleep him holding me. The next day I was trying to convince him all day to come out again and he kept saying no but he eventually gave in and came out. He kept holding me, dancing with me, grabbing my tush etc etc. and we hung out until 6 in the morning walking around the city after the place closed and just talking. He ends up kissing me again. Now the him iming me all the time has stopped and its kind of back and forth now instead of more on his behalf. We would text a lot through out the days and there was two days he was ignoring me for some reason? First reason was he forgot to answer me apparently and recalled 9 hours later in which he texted me, fb'd me, and imed me all within a 15 minute span. The second time I don't know what happened but he just stopped answering me and then answered 5 hours later. The following week I tried to convince him to come out, he said no both times but to call him when I got off work. Never called. First time he complained the next day saying Oh I thought you were suppose to call wah wah wah, I said I forgot. Second time he said this is two nights in a row you forgot about me wah wah wah. He invited me to his house that Friday because he was having some people over, said his ex would be there. I told him I couldn't make it because I had a date, he got madd and stopped answering me.
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Next night he told me to tell him what I was doing and maybe hell come do what I'm doing instead of going to a party. An hour later I call him, he's already on his way to the party. Text him if he wants to hang out when he gets back let me know. Don't hear from him. Following week he goes on vacation for a week in which we don't talk at all. He comes back and it's small talk here and then. FB messages me Friday and tells me hes watching a movie, I tell him thanks for the invite. Invites me over. I go over, we hang out all night cuddle, kiss, wrestle, play fight fall asleep and he drives me home before work. Everything seemed fine to me but he told me I had an attitude on the way home, which I just replied I wasn't a morning person and I really didn't. Got out of the car went to kiss him goodbye he didn't move his face so I kissed his cheek. Got mad at me. Asked if he wanted a kiss, replied no and tapped his cheek, gave him another kiss and left. Texted him a little throughout the day, either he took forever to answer, or didn't. Finally got tired of it and stopped trying. Haven't tried today. I'm so confused with this. He had told my friend he likes me A LOT apparently, and had admitted to me liking me a little (this was when we went out in the city the 2nd night). Anybodies point of view, opinions, advice is welcome. I don't know what to do with this one and I'm going nuts because I feel like there's such a connection.
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17 Years

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Okay, if u really want this guy u need to relax. so what he doesn't call right away! if he is really in 2 u he will call u and set up shop...meaning..he will make it known u r the 1. take it easy... don't give urself a heart attack when he doesn't call or text right back. he does have a life too. We cancers crave our me time and we don't like any1 getting in the way of making our bread (money). We can love u to death, but if u get in way of a focus we might have we will resent u quick.
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nOvbaby
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I took that into consideration, however I also took into consideration when he was at work he'd answer and talk to me when he was on ladders or on the roof. He would always answer immediately and talk to me all day and now it's just eh not so much, but then we hung out Friday and everything was great so I don't get why the hot and cold? I thought Scorpios and Cancers personalities were suppose to go good together but this just drives me up walls. I feel like I'm the Cancer and hes the Scorp.
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nOvbaby
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I know Virg and even though it was a lie I just said it as a natural reaction as soon as he said my ex is probably coming. Yesterday I told him I don't know whats going on with you and her if there is anything going on but I don't wanna get myself hurt and he said yeah I understand with the way things are going but who knows. REALLY?! I asked if we we're still friends and he said of course the bestest, and now hes just not answering me completely. Maybe something is going on with them?! or maybe he's offended that I said that or something.
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if we we're still friends and he said of course the bestest, and now hes just not answering me completely. Maybe something is going on with them?! or maybe he's offended that I said that or something.

This is probably why! Friends! Cancer men just don't have room in their lives for no female friends. Well, not the women they choose to romance. He is not going to stick around just being your "friend". Plus you are killing the attraction with the calls and texts, let this man chase you. You are the prize here and maybe to him you are not acting like one so he is backing off. These men like five star women. LOL!

Relax and let him do the chasing. He will if it takes years. Let him be the man in this relationship not you. Relax, stop trying to be in control and just be "you". Don't do nothing to try to get him. Let him work to get you.
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nOvbaby
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Ha I wish I would have read that before I took Cancershorti's advice and asked him why the hot and cold, he said he hasn't been ignoring me he's just busy at work, blahblahblah. BULL. He use to text me back and forth for 8 hours a day at a time. Whatever. He asked me what I was doing tonight and I said going to the city you should come, he said maybe he's gonna discuss it with his cousin and get back to me. I hate not having control over a situation it's not me =[ It seems as soon as I stop talking to him for a few days he always ends up iming me or hitting me up on fb. The back and forth drives me insane since I have little to none patience. I just wish if I knew DIRECTLY if he liked me or if this is all just fun and games.
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Cancershorti27
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17 Years

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Okay, if u really want this guy u need to relax. so what he doesn't call right away! if he is really in 2 u he will call u and set up shop...meaning..he will make it known u r the 1. take it easy... don't give urself a heart attack when he doesn't call or text right back. he does have a life too. We cancers crave our me time and we don't like any1 getting in the way of making our bread (money). We can love u to death, but if u get in way of a focus we might have we will resent u quick.

I guess u ignored this advice
It seemed 2 me that u wanted to know what happen i told y not ask
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Posted by Cancershorti27
Okay, if u really want this guy u need to relax. so what he doesn't call right away! if he is really in 2 u he will call u and set up shop...meaning..he will make it known u r the 1. take it easy... don't give urself a heart attack when he doesn't call or text right back. he does have a life too. We cancers crave our me time and we don't like any1 getting in the way of making our bread (money). We can love u to death, but if u get in way of a focus we might have we will resent u quick.

I guess u ignored this advice
It seemed 2 me that u wanted to know what happen i told y not ask


Basically, that's why i didn't comment on this anymore.