Are Cancers generally fast movers?

So I've been speaking to a CM for about 2 or 3 weeks now, and we're still at that stage of scoping each other out (and I had just gotten out of some kind of thing with a CapM that didn't really work out). Anyway, I went to visit him the other day for the first time really after class. We were looking for movies to watch while talking/getting to know each other more. We settled on a movie, started watching, but we were still talking in between. He found out I was ticklish and he started tickling me; this kind of went on throughout the night where he would tickle me, then stop, then start again; and we eventually had this little battle where he tried to figure out where my most ticklish spots were. I wouldn't tell him and that made him more determined. We ended up cuddling and he kept telling me that he liked cuddling with me and that he liked me in general; now this wasn't news to me. He already told me he kind of had a crush on me already and that he was cuddler. So this was okay. I didn't really know how to respond, considering I was still figuring him out, so I kept asking him why. Not completely smart of me, but I couldn't help it. So while spooning, he would blow on my neck, ear, kiss my neck lightly. Usually I would have tensed up from this, but it just tickled and I kind of enjoyed it. We started making out, but it was very passionate. Then we ended up fooling around but stopped when interrupted by someone at the door.

After a while, we started playing video games after I asked if we could because I was so caught off guard. After a couple of rounds, he leaned over and kissed me again. Then from there, we started fooling around again. However, when he tried to have sex, I stopped him. He asked me why, and I just told him that I felt like we were moving too fast, even though we had been doing all kinds of things earlier. I was just overwhelmed and caught off guard. But before I left, I lay there and stroked his ear and tried to explain why I couldn't go that far with them. He kept telling me he understood and that he really liked me, and that to him, sex was just sex, but the heart was the heart and he was also a cautious person. Before I walked out, he hugged me and kissed me and apologized for being out of control and that the next time he'd be good.

The thing is, I wasn't tht upset with him and I can't figure out why. In fact, I haven't been able to stop thinking about him and I was incredibly turned on by how passionate he was, as well as how nice he was. Still, are caps known to move that fast? I explained to him that I needed a little time to be able to trust him fully, but I still find it strange that I wasn't as upset as I figured I should have been.

Also, I accidently put this in the virgo forum since I'm a virgo, but I meant to put this topic here.

UPDATE:

So I don't know what's going on with this cancer already. Everything went very well that day. I didn't really hear from him the next day, so I thought I'd text him later that night to say hi. He responded with hi back, but I didn't hear from him the rest of the night. I just shrugged it off; then the next day I texted him later to tell him about something and ask a question, but his reply seemed very angry. I knew he was at work at the bar he serves at, and I figured he could have been stressed out or just busy. After I asked my question, I told him that I hoped he was having a good night. And he responded with "No." That was it. I haven't heard from him then. Still, I got this weird vibe that he was annoyed with me, so I decided to back off and have continued to do so throughout the day (since I had work today). I'm not too worried, but I'm just really confused as to what's up and if I did something to anger him. I've heard about cancers being moody, but it just seems he did a 180. But I just figure if he wants to talk to me, he can and he will.

Also, this 180 kind of freaked me out because they really reminded me of the Cap male that I was dealing with for a few months. I just can't tell if he's already over me or something happened; it's a little upsetting because I really like him and want to get to know him.

I spoke to my best friend yesterday and she told me the same thing: to just let it go and allow him to contact me since I already tried. I still haven't heard from him, but I know he's around. I lamented to her that I felt I said something that he couldn't have totally taken the wrong way; more specifically when I said that I felt we were going to fast and I still needed a little time to get to know him because it takes some trust for me to do certain things. So I started to fear that he took it completely the wrong way and that I didn't want to see him, which is the complete opposite.

Even that night, I told him I'd text him when I got home, and I did. He texted back, firstly calling me babe, and then saying I hoped I had a good time because he know he did.

So I'm still rather confused.

Either way, if this a game, I see no reason for him to play it. I was very happy to get to know him and see where it went. But, I'm not falling for it.

Personally, when I get involved in a potential relationship, I take my time. The reason for this is so that I don't make a commitment to someone who is putting on a front, just to get me, and then flips when I make the commitment. Been there, done that... and will never go back. Because if I make a commitment, I give it my all... I don't see the point in getting involved if I'm going to do it any differently. The ones who jump into relationships just because they like a couple of superficial things about a person usually end up disappointed some time down the road and will find everyone to blame but themselves.

It just really caught me off guard for someone to tell me that he has a crush on me after a week. I mean, it's not completely strange, but still surprising to me. I'm usually one to take it pretty slow until I get a feel for a person. Once or twice, I kind of questioned whether he was sincere, but all the same, I felt it was better to figure it out with him than to just write him off completely. But that still doesn't explain his behavior right now. However, I"m just kind of focusing on my own thing and waiting to see if he actually decides to ever contact me again.

Okay another update:

I still haven't heard from the cancer. While I've been keeping to myself and my work, I still think about him constantly. Recently I noticed that he's been updating his statuses with lyrics from songs and when people ask about them, he'd reply with "I just wish I had someone to say that to." or something to that degree; also, he posted things like he's lonely. While I don't really read into these too much and they aren't related to me at all, I just keep wondering why he's bothering to posts these when he simply stopped speaking to me. I don't like when things are just left up in the air, so would it be wise for me to just leave him a message apologizing if I had said something to upset him and just leave it there (ie wait to see if he bothers contacting me). Whether he does or doesn't, it'd help to just sort of end it on a more positive note and it'd probably ease my confusion. I've remained patient and indifferent, but I'm still utterly confused.

Posted by Candeh15
I texted him later to tell him about something and ask a question, but his reply seemed very angry.

Could his anger have something to do with the question?

Posted by Candeh15
he responded with "No." That was it. I haven't heard from him then.

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I was wondering why you didn't ask him why he was not having a good night.
I feel like he wanted your attention by saying no. If he didn't want to talk about whatever was bothering him I think he would've said everything was fine.
You may not have done anything wrong. He could've just taken something you did or said the wrong way.
As Oneshot said you shouldn't pander to his behavior or he might always see that as a way to manipulate you when he doesn't like the way you act.

I would send him a casual hello at some point. The only reason I'd give this last chance is because I think he may have been reaching out when he told you he wasn't having a good night. If he ignores you after that I think you should make up your mind to get over it and stop thinking of him. You can be with someone who will do for you what you will do for them and no less.

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Posted by Candeh15
I texted him later to tell him about something and ask a question, but his reply seemed very angry.

Could his anger have something to do with the question?

Posted by Candeh15
he responded with "No." That was it. I haven't heard from him then.

I was wondering why you didn't ask him why he was not having a good night.
I feel like he wanted your attention by saying no. If he didn't want to talk about whatever was bothering him I think he would've said everything was fine.
You may not have done anything wrong. He could've just taken something you did or said the wrong way.
As Oneshot said you shouldn't pander to his behavior or he might always see that as a way to manipulate you when he doesn't like the way you act.

I would send him a casual hello at some point. The only reason I'd give this last chance is because I think he may have been reaching out when he told you he wasn't having a good night. If he ignores you after that I think you should make up your mind to get over it and stop thinking of him. You can be with someone who will do for you what you will do for them and no less.

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The reason I didn't respond is because I guess I was already feeling weary and my first instinct was to back off and not pester him. I guess I worried if I pushed to know what was wrong, he'd get upset. But later on, I even asked myself why I didn't ask what was wrong; I really wanted to, but I got scared for some reason. I'd be more than happy to say hello to him, but I agree that I won't cater to this behavior. It's something I have no time for. But I really don't think he's a bad guy deep down, so I'm willing to put that chance out there that he still wants to talk to me.

Another update:

So I texted the cancer today and simply said hey. I didn't think he'd text me back at first, but he did. We talked very casually for a little, and even joked some. I'm not sure what this means for us, bt it was just nice to know that there is nothing bad between us. I might just leave it here and see if he'll ever contact me back. From what I've read, he might. Or he might not. But I do feel a little better for just speaking to him a little.

Posted by Candeh15
Another update:

I might just leave it here and see if he'll ever contact me back.

I'm pretty sure he will 🙂

Lol he did end up texting me back at like 3 in the morning. The thing is, he texted me saying, "I want you to come over and just cuddle with me 😢." I told him that I wished I could then asked him what was wrong, since I saw his facebook status earlier, and it wasn't happy. He told me life in general, and I tried to tell him something uplifting. He didn't text back, but that didn't really bother me. I'm kind of thinking he's realizing that I do still care for him; otherwise I'd doubt he'd just come out of the blue and say that to me.