Being Direct

So I started to see this new Cancer dude. We went on our first date last Sunday and it was magic (aways is with a Cancer). He didn't take his eyes off of me...actually caught him just staring at me many times. The night ends with the you seem too good to be true comments. I bring this up only because almost every cancer I date says this to me within the first few dates yet then the disappearing act takes place. Sure enough, days pass, NO CONTACT...NOT A WORD. So being this is my 6th or so Cancer in a row, I was just going to give up and write it off. I then decided to send a text. One where I am who I am (virgo), not worry about his feelings/moods/emotions. I wrote "if you want someone like me that understands you, makes you feel safe and secure, you have to at least try and do the same for me. I am pretty secure but I like to know I am thought of also. Either start delivering or I'm outta here". I got a text back that said "wow, now your turning me on" and then he called. So have I been wrong trying to somewhat step on eggshells with Cancers? Maybe the key is just be careful with words but be direct.

Way to go! i think he likes your direct approach. We often think of every little tiny detail so when you say things out of the blue that we diffident have to ask for like that its earth moving for us! Good luck!

PS> i am so stealing this! lol

Heh. Yeah. Being direct and unafraid to come out with your feelings worked for me like a charm. Now let's see if you can ebb and flow with him during his bouts of moodiness! His need for security will eat it up if you can stick it out with him.

Well this is like the number 6 cancer in a row. If I don't have it "down" by now, not sure I ever will. lol. There is a def magic between Virgo/Cancer. It just seems like getting on the same page after the first few dates is key. He told me on the phone last night that it scares him what a catch I am. Like he would always be worried someone might snatch me up. I tried my best to put his mind at ease. When virgos are into someone (at least this virgo), no one else in the world matters. There is a sweetness to how tenderhearted/moody/emotional cancers are. I just want to hug them forever and tell them everything will be just fine under my watch. So...interesting to see if he flakes out on dinner tonight. I made it rather clear that I'm not down for even one round of games.

I think Cancers like to be dominated... but then like to see the others vulnerability to us. A never ending exchange of Master and Servant.

The unexpected is extremely hot!

I like to be nudged by someone I care about, makes me feel like I matter. Physically, too, that's hot. No hugs, but push me all you want.

Lol Mr. Crabby get ruff yeah us cancer chicks like that ruff stuff too 🙂I have never dated a Virgo just a Pics Sag and Right now a Bull. The Pics was a bit crazy nothing like what they are suppose to be! The sag yikes we were excellent room mates lets just put it that way! The bull is crazy not sure if i will keep him around he sends so many mixed signals its diving me crazy!

Posted by 100percentvirgo
So I started to see this new Cancer dude. We went on our first date last Sunday and it was magic (aways is with a Cancer). He didn't take his eyes off of me...actually caught him just staring at me many times. The night ends with the you seem too good to be true comments. I bring this up only because almost every cancer I date says this to me within the first few dates yet then the disappearing act takes place. Sure enough, days pass, NO CONTACT...NOT A WORD. So being this is my 6th or so Cancer in a row, I was just going to give up and write it off. I then decided to send a text. One where I am who I am (virgo), not worry about his feelings/moods/emotions. I wrote "if you want someone like me that understands you, makes you feel safe and secure, you have to at least try and do the same for me. I am pretty secure but I like to know I am thought of also. Either start delivering or I'm outta here". I got a text back that said "wow, now your turning me on" and then he called. So have I been wrong trying to somewhat step on eggshells with Cancers? Maybe the key is just be careful with words but be direct.

Yeah, that's a turn on. Exclusivity, vulnerability, honesty, I would have responded well too.

Posted by shellshocker
I think Cancers like to be dominated... but then like to see the others vulnerability to us. A never ending exchange of Master and Servant.

The unexpected is extremely hot!

Dominated, maybe a little bit in the bedroom on rare occasions, but being told what to do and how to act etc is a fast track to a really bad day for you. Vulnerability, yeah, I think it helps us connect with you better, like we can see a side of you that we can protect and nurture that nobody else sees. It's a fine line between seeing your vulnerability and seeing you overcome it by being strong that is sexy.

Posted by shellshocker
A never ending exchange of Master and Servant.

LOL

Posted by cancerguy

Posted by shellshocker
I think Cancers like to be dominated... but then like to see the others vulnerability to us. A never ending exchange of Master and Servant.

The unexpected is extremely hot!

Dominated, maybe a little bit in the bedroom on rare occasions, but being told what to do and how to act etc is a fast track to a really bad day for you. Vulnerability, yeah, I think it helps us connect with you better, like we can see a side of you that we can protect and nurture that nobody else sees. It's a fine line between seeing your vulnerability and seeing you overcome it by being strong that is sexy.

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Yeap, i want things my way

@cancerguy...I have found them all to be rather submissive in the bedroom lol. It's part of why I work so well with them. Also they seem to like things on the rough side, which is not really me but I preform as needed (virgo haha) to deliver that famous cancer smile. Every moody day I have to endure is worth it when that smile comes out of nowhere. Yup, I think I'm crazy sometimes but I'm a big fan of Cancers. Nothing good is ever easy. I love you guys!

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Posted by shellshocker
I think Cancers like to be dominated... but then like to see the others vulnerability to us. A never ending exchange of Master and Servant.

The unexpected is extremely hot!

Dominated, maybe a little bit in the bedroom on rare occasions, but being told what to do and how to act etc is a fast track to a really bad day for you. Vulnerability, yeah, I think it helps us connect with you better, like we can see a side of you that we can protect and nurture that nobody else sees. It's a fine line between seeing your vulnerability and seeing you overcome it by being strong that is sexy.

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hahaha!

Don't boss me! well... only if you're trying to turn me on!

Update...well I guess direct only works for so long...like less then 24 hrs. Took a cooking class and made the guy dinner. Spent the whole day making everything perfect and he didn't show up. No text,no call...nothing. This coming from someone that just said I was "too good to be true". Honestly, I think if I was a complete jerk, things would've worked out. That goes for all six cancers that I've dated in a row. The funny part of the story is I got picked up on at the cooking class today by...yup...you guessed it, A CANCER!!! LOL. No thanks. Will keep them as good friends only. I don't know...so many lessons here...What I seemed to have figured,Cancers want someone to understand/get them but they don't seem (at least the ones I know) understand that the person on the other end wants to be understood also. We all feel the need to want to be loved,feel safe and secure, just can't be so one way or it won't work. If you gals or guys (if your gay) wonder why guys are A holes out there, this is why. One can only get his heart crushed so many times. I'm a Virgo, have to dig deep to really put my true self out there...not sure if I'll be doing it again for sometime. Just going back to making money...lol...something I am good at. 🙂

@100percentvirgo

So he completely stood you up? No excuses, no contact, he just flat out didn't show up to a prearranged dinner? That sounds entirely not cancerian. That's just completely rude to the point that I'm shocked. What an a $ $ hole. I would like to know if he was just a complete jerk or if he got lost in the Amazon jungle on his way over.

I think putting all Cancers as "borderlines" and all Pisces as "only can give" and Virgos "serve" (and Gemini as "fake and two-faced )all that BS shows a lot of resentment and hurt and prejudice...

I date a Cancer who can give, and Im a Pisces who loves receiving...stop being crude, this guy was a jerk no doubt, but he could have been any sign...not a typical Crab trait to do that.....

@Gemtaur...Yup...6 now! LOL. I wouldn't say I'm slow to learn, just more relentless and don't like to give up. I have an attraction for cancers that is like no other. Even my first two "crushes" growing up were both cancers, Terri Nunn (lead singer of Berlin...who is still foxy to this day) and Tom Cruise (way before he went nuts). Something about them drives me wild. That said, I have learned and honestly would just like experience the word fun again. LOL. Being with one has very few moments of fun. The men seem to be on the negitive side most of the time and the bad days seem to take over the few good ones. The one thing with virgo, we may take awhile to learn something is not good for us,when it happens,it's done for good. So when these cancers return (and they always do) this guy is done. I was attracting and going after only cancer men. I will NEVER do this again. My year has been emotionally draining and depressing. I will say cancer women are completely diff...seems to just thing with the guys. Regardless, love cancers. Will just keep them as close friends which in many ways is just as good.

@Cancerguy...Nope no text,vm,e-mail,phone call...The dinner date was HIS IDEA! I just took it another step and wanted to cook for the guy. Hmmm...don't know what to say. I have seen this same trend with all my Cancer guys. Your time is never as important as theirs. Again, not slamming cancer males...we all have our things.

On a positive note...Date with a Gemini tonight. He has been waiting all year for me to get over this whole Cancer nonsense. He has been a good friend, checks in daily, never pushy but just is smart enough to mirror my speed and let things take course. Not sure where it will go but it will be nice to just have great date and not wonder what week in 2011 I might hear back from him. haha.

"Your Cancer gives less than you give. Don't argue with me. Accept it."

I dont agree with you. He gives DIFFERENT stuff but it is not that he gives LESS.
I give more romanticism and affection but he protects, looks after and makes sure all is right in a more practical way..
It is not a giving competition anyway....

Anyway what`s your story? you seem to stick around a lot in this Cancer forum, are you dating a Crab,dated one? You dating at all?

Posted by PiscesArgie



Anyway what`s your story? you seem to stick around a lot in this Cancer forum, are you dating a Crab,dated one? You dating at all?

LOL!

Posted by gemtaur
Sweetie, if I was dating I wouldn't be on a forum 😉 Gem gals know how to pick.

LOL sure you wouldnt!!

So I got hit on at the gym last night. Cancer!!! Haha. Going out tonight... whatever 7th time is the charm right! At least I already am going into it knowing I will be his dream guy and that he will never speak to me again after tonight. Really is rather strange though. Thinking about getting a shirt that says "If your a Cancer, I'm a sure thing".

LOL...LOL...100percentvirgo...you "cancer magnet" you...go gettem'...and don't forget that hot butter and
spearing fork! :-)