Can a Cancer Man be just FWB?

Is it possible for a Cancer Man to be just my FWB?

Thank you Latingal415 I'm interested in a Cancer Man but I don't want a real relationship with him, he knows this but I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I was just wondering if it was possible.

That's actually the problem I want sex and just that.

No.

Posted by Candyrain02
My cancer man and I broke up three weeks ago, but we just decided to be FWB...we still talk and hang out all time. We go to the movies, out to eat, out dancing, and he still cuddles me and holds my hand occasionally. We are basically dating without the title....it's complicated! Does this stuff mean he does still really care about me? I wouldn't think if he viewed me as just a POA that he would still want to be around me so much and show me that kind off affection...

You are in a full fledged relationship with this man and you don't even know it!!

They get emotionally attached. And jealous. And whiny. And pissy. Too much drama. It is hard for them to let go of that emotional attachment - you'll never get rid of him, unless you totally ruin the friendship.

Posted by truecap
They get emotionally attached. And jealous. And whiny. And pissy. Too much drama. It is hard for them to let go of that emotional attachment - you'll never get rid of him, unless you totally ruin the friendship.

+1, it varies in intensity. Some can be as bad as above but you're never going to walk away with a friendship. I am one of the most free wheeling cancers and I can honestly admit I couldn't do it. We grow feelings and it's hard. I won't create a drama but I won't talk to you again either.

Posted by Latingal415
Just bang the shit outa him I honestly don't understand why sex is such a huge issue in these forums. If I wanna fuck someone ima fuck them regardless of others opinions. You gotta be selfish sometimes to please yourself. Haha

No, it's not the sex that's the issue. It's the what comes after. If you sleep with someone for several days over a two months window at some point in time you're going to wake up and look at them differently if you're a Cancer. With Cancers it only works if it's a one night stand.

And don't get carried away with CC's comments, she hasn't been able to forget a virgo guy who gave up on her in the age of the dinosaurs.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by truecap
They get emotionally attached. And jealous. And whiny. And pissy. Too much drama. It is hard for them to let go of that emotional attachment - you'll never get rid of him, unless you totally ruin the friendship.

Caps...so cold..brrrrrrrrrrr

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Don't brrrr me! I've been there. Had to totally destroy any semblence of a friendship to get him to leave me alone. Made me sad. I really thought he was a fun guy. I just didn't feel it for him and he wouldn't accept it. Sometimes you just have to be cold.

Look, I like Cancers. I really do. There are a lot of things about you guys I admire. One of my BFFs is a cancer. I love her. I've dated four in my life. Two of them I dated when I was younger and they were awesome, no problems. The other two I dated after my divorce and they were draining and clingy. Things were great in the beginning but quickly, too quickly (like within a month) they got possessive and jealous. Then it turned into whiny and clingy. Then the drama. Mind you it was way too soon for them to act like that. I don't mean it to be bashing against cancers, but I'm just sharing my experience and my opinion why they aren't good candidates for FWB.

Posted by truecap
Look, I like Cancers. I really do. There are a lot of things about you guys I admire. One of my BFFs is a cancer. I love her. I've dated four in my life. Two of them I dated when I was younger and they were awesome, no problems. The other two I dated after my divorce and they were draining and clingy. Things were great in the beginning but quickly, too quickly (like within a month) they got possessive and jealous. Then it turned into whiny and clingy. Then the drama. Mind you it was way too soon for them to act like that. I don't mean it to be bashing against cancers, but I'm just sharing my experience and my opinion why they aren't good candidates for FWB.

I think it really applies to any sign. If a person is mature and balanced enough to know what they want and what they can and cannot deal with then anyone is capable of FWB or casual sex if they choose that. If anyone doesn't take a hard, truthful look at themselves and already know what they can handle or how they will react then they probably aren't very mature and will run into problems they didn't expect. It's similar to the "which sign is most likely to be an asshole or cheat or blah blah blah" thing. EVERY sign has its share of awesome people and its share of douchebags. So far I've noticed that being an asshole has no claim on class, race, country of origin, religion, sign, etc.

Yes, that is true.

I didn't mean to be confusing or contradictive.

I didn't FWB or f*buddy with them. I'm just saying I dated two cancers. Within a month, they each got jealous of others (including time I spent with my children), one didn't want me to go out with friends or co-workers (the other was okay), both would pout if I had something else to do. We had not had the discussion to be exclusive and I had not known them long enough to decide if I wanted to have a steady relationship with them, though I wasn't seeing anyone else. It was just at that getting-to-know-you stage. Thus, because of the quick attachment I felt not FWB material, but awesome relationship material. Actually, it's a complement that I think a cancer is more fit for relationships than FWB.

I have a female friend who was in an FWB relationship and attached feelings very quickly. Drove the guy away. Also, I know a male friend who got attached to his FWB and ended up getting very, deeply hurt. Another reason I said what I did.

I'm attracted to cancer men. I get along with them. It's comfortable and have always found communicating with them very easy. The ones I dated have also been fun dates and great guys, BUT, by attaching and clinging too soon, it made me want to run.

I have found my bliss with an aqua guy, and I think that sign is more perfect for me than cancers. I will stick with friends with cancers without benefits.

Oh, I didn't date them at the same time, by the way.

Posted by Candyrain02
My cancer man and I broke up three weeks ago, but we just decided to be FWB...we still talk and hang out all time. We go to the movies, out to eat, out dancing, and he still cuddles me and holds my hand occasionally. We are basically dating without the title....it's complicated! Does this stuff mean he does still really care about me? I wouldn't think if he viewed me as just a POA that he would still want to be around me so much and show me that kind off affection...

Eh.. That IS an relationship. I can spot it from all the way over here!

Posted by xMoonMan
lol at FWB, seriously

A "friend" with "benefits" = a relationship

Fuck buddies meet up for casual sex and leave it at that.

If you can't or don't want to distinguish and accept the difference then you are living in la la land.
Sending mixed signals, confusing yourself, skirting around the edges and possibly a little delusional.

LOL Moonman, you tickle me trying to teach people the difference.
You've got heart Moony. 😉

This term got swept into the PC movement when the term Fuck Buddy became too harsh for delusional people with unrealistic ideals.
People need to flower their shit before they smell it now.
Anyway it's a lost cause, people are in love with the acronym FWB now.
And they think it's cute too.

Furthermore, if these knuckleheads understood the difference we wouldn't have so much confusion.
And even when they do understand the difference you have to get past the denial and stupidity of certain choices versus hopes and fears.

Personally, I have rarely witnessed anyone "leaving it at that."
Most human beings are entirely incapable of doing that, even when they KNOW they are not ready nor interested in an actual relationship.

Posted by truecap
I didn't mean to be confusing or contradictive.

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I have found my bliss with an aqua guy, and I think that sign is more perfect for me than cancers. I will stick with friends with cancers without benefits.

I have found Caps and Aqua's to be on the same emotional wave length honestly.
Furthermore, based on what you have posted in several threads this Aqua has Cap placements and your charts seem to be very much in tuned.

Do you think your trine and conjunct placements have more to do with your bliss?

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Posted by truecap
I didn't mean to be confusing or contradictive.

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I have found my bliss with an aqua guy, and I think that sign is more perfect for me than cancers. I will stick with friends with cancers without benefits.

I have found Caps and Aqua's to be on the same emotional wave length honestly.
Furthermore, based on what you have posted in several threads this Aqua has Cap placements and your charts seem to be very much in tuned.

Do you think your trine and conjunct placements have more to do with your bliss?

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Yes, I do! Plus, he has virgo moon, I have cap moon and that matches up very well also. He's a very earthy aqua and I have an air mars, so I think the complementary planets is what makes it blissful.
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Posted by Candyrain02
My cancer man and I broke up three weeks ago, but we just decided to be FWB...we still talk and hang out all time. We go to the movies, out to eat, out dancing, and he still cuddles me and holds my hand occasionally. We are basically dating without the title....it's complicated! Does this stuff mean he does still really care about me? I wouldn't think if he viewed me as just a POA that he would still want to be around me so much and show me that kind off affection...

Eh.. That IS an relationship. I can spot it from all the way over here!

I wish you were right...I just had to let him go because he is talking to girls on dating sites yet telling me he doesn't want to date anyone. I woke up with him three feet away messaging with a girl on his phone. I don't think I'll ever understand what he wanted with me. I'm heartbroken but I gotta stop torturing myself 😢

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Sorry to hear that for what it is worth. Have you asked him nicely if he loves you?

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Posted by Candyrain02
My cancer man and I broke up three weeks ago, but we just decided to be FWB...we still talk and hang out all time. We go to the movies, out to eat, out dancing, and he still cuddles me and holds my hand occasionally. We are basically dating without the title....it's complicated! Does this stuff mean he does still really care about me? I wouldn't think if he viewed me as just a POA that he would still want to be around me so much and show me that kind off affection...

Eh.. That IS an relationship. I can spot it from all the way over here!

I wish you were right...I just had to let him go because he is talking to girls on dating sites yet telling me he doesn't want to date anyone. I woke up with him three feet away messaging with a girl on his phone. I don't think I'll ever understand what he wanted with me. I'm heartbroken but I gotta stop torturing myself 😢

Sorry to hear that for what it is worth. Have you asked him nicely if he loves you?

No but we've only known each other almost 2 months now and been through so much craziness already. Plus he is always talking about how ridiculous it is that people think that after just three months they are already in love...besides if he did love me why would he not admit to wanting to be with me?

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But you HAVE talked with him about you two being together right? I really don't think that he would spend his time with you if he did not at least like you in someway. He did not want you to date other guys right? You have to be direct with a guy like him, you can't just kick back and relax. A relationship is a two-way communication and a two-way responsibility. If he's not sure where your relationship is going then he will start to look for a way out or a person that appears to be more interesting.

Posted by Candyrain02
Ugh ok...not enough room anymore! To continue that...
Making sure I'm aware of it. I'm sure he's over me. I told him I can't get him out of my head and he claimed that that's why he told me he didn't want to hang out all the time...except he didn't ever say anything like that to me! I really think he wants me as a friend and nothing more.

Use that sparely. That is like to push him into the arms of an another woman. You can't be clingy with a male cancer.

And what do you want? Do you still want to be just friends or do you want to have an relationship with him again?

Posted by CluelessCancer
A man will always get his dick wet if he's allowed.

lol true that!!

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Posted by truecap
They get emotionally attached. And jealous. And whiny. And pissy. Too much drama. It is hard for them to let go of that emotional attachment - you'll never get rid of him, unless you totally ruin the friendship.

Caps...so cold..brrrrrrrrrrr

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its called being realistic😉