Cancer ex apologizing

I received an e-mail yesterday from my cancer ex (after 6 months silence) telling his apologies.
He has been extremely rude last time we met in October 2013. He was shouting at me, calling me b*tch etc. I have seen him at his worse. It was awful.

I'm wondering how to react now? Or do I need to react?

Posted by agis
I received an e-mail yesterday from my cancer ex (after 6 months silence) telling his apologies.
He has been extremely rude last time we met in October 2013. He was shouting at me, calling me b*tch etc. I have seen him at his worse. It was awful.

I'm wondering how to react now? Or do I need to react?

At least he had the dignity to do what is right.

You must ask yourself these questions first.

1.) Do I want to give him a second chance?

2.) If so, should I take this slow? If not, should I respond at all?

3.) Can I find out through other friends if he has feelings for me, or if this is something different?

Once you get that information straight, and if you CHOOSE to reconsider him...

1.) Ask him what he wants from you. Ask him if he wants to be part of your life again or not.

2.) Ask him to explain why he was so destructive and hurtful with you.

3.) Ask him to discuss what his future has in store, and what he is currently doing with his life.

PS...

Are you friends with him on Facebook or social media?

Posted by ScorpioFish

Posted by agis
I received an e-mail yesterday from my cancer ex (after 6 months silence) telling his apologies.
He has been extremely rude last time we met in October 2013. He was shouting at me, calling me b*tch etc. I have seen him at his worse. It was awful.

I'm wondering how to react now? Or do I need to react?

At least he had the dignity to do what is right.

You must ask yourself these questions first.

1.) Do I want to give him a second chance?

2.) If so, should I take this slow? If not, should I respond at all?

3.) Can I find out through other friends if he has feelings for me, or if this is something different?

Once you get that information straight, and if you CHOOSE to reconsider him...

1.) Ask him what he wants from you. Ask him if he wants to be part of your life again or not.

2.) Ask him to explain why he was so destructive and hurtful with you.

3.) Ask him to discuss what his future has in store, and what he is currently doing with his life.

PS...

Are you friends with him on Facebook or social media?

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First of all, thank you for your input.
Second, I'm afraid of him - afraid of starting over again with the never-ending story. First I hurt him almost 2 years ago and it seemed he was paying me back.

I have to admit - he is still on my mind. Every day. I still have feelings for him.

We are not connected on any of the social sites. I have deleted myself from FB right after the drama (6 months ago)

First, no problem. I am going through some hard drama right now with a Cancer girl that I don't know what to feel with anymore, and can relate directly to this problem.

When you say you hurt him, what did you do?

Second, how long did you know each other and how long did you officially date?

Third, what are your sun and moon signs? What is his moon sign?

What are birthdays for you two?

How old is he and how old are you?

I left him - hard to explain why, however he was convinced that I left him because of my someone.
We first met in December 2011. So it's been a while. We have officially dated for 6 months.

Well he's an ex for a reason. Why go back to an old story when you you know the ending. I say accept his apology & move on. It'll be hard to get over him if you respond. So Follow your heart & not your feelings ok 🙂

Obi Wan, before we know her astrological background, I say we not terminate the guy forever.

If they have placements and planets in sync, then don't trash him.

But the girl has to set boundaries and limitations with him if they try to rekindle things.

The fact that he has apologized shows he has some integrity, even though he is late with it.

I want to know how much synastry is there before writing him off forever.

It's not often a human being comes into my life that does it for me in terms of synchronization, so throwing them out like a piece of trash is not my first belief if feelings are really there. But the feelings must be within both parties, not just one.

Actually, I consider him still as the love of my life however I accepted that he does not want me in his life anymore. Since we broke up I did not date anyone else.

It's been a very passionate, however short relationship with a lots of drama at the end. We broke up in August 2012, however we had a fight still at the end October 2013.

We both live in Europe, however 2 countries apart.

There are 2 other threads on this topic. They' re pretty old.

You still need to answer my questions please, or there is no need to further discuss this.

I have sent you a private message ScorpioFish...

Yeah, I got it.

I don't like the fact that he is pretty much your age.

Some of the most stable and successful relationships between a man and a woman involve a man who is at least 5-10 years older than the woman is.

Women who date men their own age or almost their own age tend to not be as happy as they are with a man who is older and more seasoned.

Well she did ask Cancers for advice on a Ex who treated her bad. So i was only trying to help based on the information she has given. If she wanna get back with a guy who did her wrong, that's her decision. So it's really up to her. If they was meant to be together, he wouldn't have did her wrong in the 1st place. So yeah she can forgive him, but talking to him isn't a good idea. She did ask us what should she do. I rather tell her what she needs to hear than sugar coat anything

I treated him very bad first.

Anyway - I'm pretty sure there is no way back.

Thank you for all your responses

Ok, i'm glad we was able to help 🙂. Have a Bless Day

Posted by arietteheart2
You're an Aries if I remember correctly. I'm an Aries with a Cancer ex too. He is almost always the one to apologize too. It doesn't mean much because nothing ever changes. As an Aries, you think apologizing is starting over with a clean slate. But it won't be a clean slate...it's a continuation of however it ended the last time. Cancers here will say that they don't go back to an ex once they've moved on but I've seen and had the opposite experience. They cling to familiarity...ESPECIALLY when they are going through a rough time. The familiarity is comfort to them.

So my advice is, if you're going to proceed and attempt to reconcile with him. S-L-O-W-L-Y. Don't question him. Have patience and watch his actions. If it is something they want, they're not going to waiver. Don't play games but you don't have to do everything on his time either. Don't be afraid to say no to him in fear that it will be your only chance to see him or talk to him...etc.

If you don't want to reconcile just don't respond at all. You have to be the one to cut the connection or he will keep attempting to come back. I hadn't seen or spoken to my Cancer ex in almost 4 years when he came back and apologized.

Yes I'm an Aries. Well, it's been a few days since I got that mail and I have not answered yet.
Not sure if I want to answer or not. My heart tells me "yes" however as stated previously idk.

I'd love to answer something...but don't know what.

So, I decided to open up.
Last week we had many e-mails exchanged, since I was wondering what all this is about, however got no answer. He kinda made me reminded I "should remember" things...I was shocked. He is still in the past.

Actually dropped him a text wishing lovely Easter, no answer ofc.

Weird.

Nothing more...?

nothing more.

back to silent treatment, i guess.

Posted by agis
nothing more.

back to silent treatment, i guess.

He's just dicking you around.

I wouldn't even bother responding to him ever again at this point.

If he were a man (WHICH HE IS NOT), then he would have asked you out for a drink or something instead of all this texting and emailing bullshit.

I'm so familiar with that same behavior with a cancer male. W th are you supposed to do with that?

Posted by roscoe
I'm so familiar with that same behavior with a cancer male. W th are you supposed to do with that?

You would simply walk away at this time.

If he isn't man enough to commit his time and energy to you, then there is no point.

At the same time has everyone else fooled into thinking he is such an awesome fellow! Keep us posted...

Posted by roscoe
At the same time has everyone else fooled into thinking he is such an awesome fellow! Keep us posted...

Yeah, the Camp 2 Crabs tend to fool a lot of people.

However, those of us who are wise tend to catch onto their bullshit pretty quickly.

It's very frustrating and hurtful, then you tend to question yourself, is it me...? Like did this really happen.

Posted by roscoe
It's very frustrating and hurtful, then you tend to question yourself, is it me...? Like did this really happen.

Yep.

Them's the breaks with Crabs, though.

You don't know if you are dealing with a Divine Camp 1 Crab or an Asshole Camp 2 Crab until you tell them how you feel about them.

It's a risk we all have to take if we want one in our lives. Otherwise, you will never know.

Look at the bright side. At least you know he's a secretive and selfish asshole, and you aren't married to him.

Just imagine if you were married to that POS.

How much fun would that be?

Posted by ScorpioFish

Posted by agis
nothing more.

back to silent treatment, i guess.

He's just dicking you around.

I wouldn't even bother responding to him ever again at this point.

If he were a man (WHICH HE IS NOT), then he would have asked you out for a drink or something instead of all this texting and emailing bullshit.

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I did not expect to be asked out - remember, we live 1200 km apart. It's about this incredible impoliteness he delivers.

I'm not even considering anything at this point. He better stay out of my way.