Cancer gf going through rough patch.

Hey all,

My gf of a year and some months has been going through a serious rough patch for the last 9 months. I don't want to get her business all out here, but long story short she's put herself in a very difficult situation and is now having to deal with the consequences.

My question is how can I help to support my cancer lady (she has a gemini moon) and I'm an aqua with (pisces moon). Her birth father passed away a little while ago. They've never had a relationship, and she's always maintained that she never wanted anything to do with him until his untimely death. She's not a big open book, even with all that cancer sensitivity and I don't know what I should and should not do.

I guess i just want her to know that I'm here for her if she wants to talk, but it seems even when I say that she doesn't open up.

Any advice?

be constant and patient. i'm aqua with a cancer girl. the opening up comes with time, but they get there. crabs are weird creatures and don't move direct. allow her freedom to be, drop expectations, and surely don't expect her to behave as you would. and don't harp on it. let her know you're there and be there. that's all she probably needs.

you couldn't get a more opposite, incredible pairing in the zodiac 🙂 stick with her. no better love than cancer love

be there for her. try to get her out the house. ( i know that can seem impossible!!! ) if that does not work, just keep being there for her. bring her favorite things/foods. also books about life and self help books will help her change her outlook on life and her situation. cancers are capable of dramatic change. she may be in the process of making major changes in her life and thinking. give her space and ignore the weirdness.

cancers with peculiar child hoods and family structures can be very challenging. I am one of them. she needs a lot of understading, good advice(that she may seem not to take at the present) and guidance.

if she tries to push you and eveyone away...a more detailed approach is called for.

Thanks so much for the feedback and advice. Point well taken. I guess I'm already doing what you both has already suggested. No can do on the getting out of the house she's abroad till August 😢 I guess I just feel a little helpless. And she's not one to take to advice, so like a crab I've send her books that I think may address her issues better than I ever could. Seems to be helping. So thanks again!

@muff "you couldn't get a more opposite, incredible pairing in the zodiac stick with her. no better love than cancer love"
totally agree!!