Cancer guy has rejected me, I need some advice.

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It's kind of long, but I really care about him so please help!!!

Okay. I've known this guy for years and he's been perusing me for awhile fairly aggressively. He intimidated me so I always declined, it hurt him and I knew it. He backed off for a bit then started texting and "showing up" where I hang out. I had always cared for him but I started not to fear his intensity anymore.

We went out this Thursday before last and then ended up back at his place. Gorgeous home, floated around in the ocean off his dock drop, really romantic. We made our way inside and he asked me for a kiss and one thing led to another.... It was breathtaking, seriously I was at a loss for words, beautiful. We went outside for a smoke and just talked and were so comfortable with eachother. I know I felt a real connection (I would not have let anything happen if I didn't) and he seemed to as well.

We went back in and took a shower, him whispering sweet nothings, lots of kisses. Then we went to bed and we're literally intertwined the whole night. It really was beautiful. We went out and got some breakfast before he had to go to work in the morning. He took me to his favorite mom&pop place to eat. I got a text from him that day and saw him later on that night.

This is where it gets weird. We were driving together hand in hand and everything was lovely. We got back to his place and I felt him shift into a "mood". We made love and went back outside. I felt a very sad, almost resentful vibe from him. He was playing his guitar and singing one of his favorite songs "Psychotic Girl" by the black keys but this time I felt like he was singing it to me. I was at the point of tears when he picked up on it and changed the mood a little. We got in the shower before bed and he went into a little shell of drunk giggles. The tension was gone. We hung out til around 2ish the next day before I decided I should get going, he had things to do. He walked me out, gave me a kiss and a hug, then turned around and walked it saying he'd be in touch.

I haven't seen him since. We've had some small talk SMS through the week but yeah. I finally caved and sent him one asking where we stand. That I was torn up cause I'm not the type to move that fast and I know he's busy but I really need to know. I care about him and miss him and blahblah. He wrote back saying he has been really busy and he cares/cared for me but isn't sure how he feels about me at this point in time cause I've hurt him i

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n the past, unintentionally which he's aware of. That he needs his space and that I know that. Also that I shouldn't be torn up over him.

I was broken. Felt so bad like I have messed things up. I wrote him back saying that I know I had and I just never knew how to make these things right. He had always been there for me, no matter what was going on in his life (he was my rock when no one else was there for me, seriously people). I told him that I understood where he was coming from but I was hurt that he was willing to go all the way with me if he wasn't sure of his feelings. That I knew it takes two to tango but I meant all of it.

Yeah, along those lines. I didn't get a response but I don't really want one. My gut tells me that he'll be back around. That mood he hit the other night was thoughts of the past and me not being ready for him (he also had a pretty bad drug issue, I wasn't able to deal with that). Do yall think he'll come back around? That I'll hear form him again? I know he cares about me, I feel it. In my reality there's some things you just can't fake but maybe I'm wrong.

His info:
sun/ cancer
moon/ cap
rising/ libra
venus/ cancer
mars/ taurus

My info:
sun/ auqa&pisces cusp (more pisces traits)
moon/ leo
rising/ scorp
venus/ cap
mars/ aqua

@WaterboyCancepio: Those things happened the day after our first date. First date was on that Tursday, I stayed the night and we went out and got some food before he had to work. Everything the first night was perfect. The hand holding a mood drop happened the second night I was over there, that's when the waters got a little rough. The night after the first date. I'm sorry I wasn't clear.

I left something out though. We have been on dates before. You know those double dates where our friends are trying to link us up? Yeah. I've turned him down gently a couple times but the two times I know hurt him have been kinda harsh. One time was when he witnessed my ex and I breaking up (another cancer male, he had way too much gemini in him, ugh) and he was there for me after the other cancer left. For some reason he thought it would be a good idea to tell me his feelings for me right after the break up.. I couldn't even register the thought at that point in time. I mean his timing sucked but I know it hurt him. The second time was on one of those double dates I mentioned. It was maybe the third time our friends had tried to get us together. Long story short things got a little physical in a pool (fully clothed, no kissing, just touching and it was INTENSE) and I felt us getting to that "point of no return" so I stopped it. It was awkward as f~k and I know he was really hurt by that.

Aurora I totally agree with you. His timing was horrible. I'd be in tears over my just ended relationship and he'd ask me out.... So many times like that. What did the angel expect, honestly? I have love for him and I always have. He has a beautiful heart and I don't think that he's intentionally trying to hurt me. Though, the pisces in me gives me too much faith in people sometimes.

He HAD a drug issue around that time, not anymore. That is one of the reasons I kind of backed off despite my feelings for him because I've had one in the past and I REFUSE to go down that road again. The timing just wasn't right for me. He's doing great now, seriously. I KNOW there was something genuine when we were together. Idk, it's a full moon and he's busy as hell. He'll be back around. My virgo friend had me delete his number and texts so I don't call him on a drunk whim so I don't have much for reference.

But yeah, at this point I'm just letting it go. I'll be nice if I see him. How I'm feeling will be written all over my eyes and that's ok. The ball is in his court.

& thank you for all of the responses guys.

Thank you so much!

I didn't feel bad about turning him down at that time, just how horrible it made him feel was pretty obvious and that hurt me, I hurt for him. We talked through text. I sent him one last night explaining how I knew he was busy with work and what not but I just wanted to know how he was feeling about the whole thing. How we both know it's not either of our style s to move so fast. I told him I missed him and I care for him deeply. That I feel like things may have gotten messed up.

He replied saying that he agreed that we got that close too quickly and things haven't quite made it to "fruition" between us yet (I agree). He's been busy with work all week (which he has, I know that). He went on to say he isn't sure how he feels about me at this point in time. That he's always cared about me but I've made him feel crappy over the years and hurt him pretty badly even though it wasn't intentional. He doesn't want me to think that he's ignoring me or anything like that and that he didn't want me to be torn up about him. He seemed like he was being genuine but ouch.

I took awhile but replied saying that I know how the past has been and I've always cared for him and he knows that. That I don't handle things like this well but all I've wanted to do was make things right with him. I told him that I was finally able to be vulnerable with him and I felt that was taken advantage of, even though it was unintentional. I told him that I'm aware it takes two to tango but I meant it, if that makes sense. I also told him I knew&felt strongly something was off on Friday (the second night) but I wasn't sure how to address any of it. I told him that the first night was genuine and I felt it, if it wasn't then he put on a good show. I told him I'll be more cautious when opening up, not to rush things and that I'd be fine. I didn't get a reply and that's ok right now.

He's a very sensitive person, needs a lot of space to regroup and he's always been that way. I'm the same way though I didn't know where we stood so it had me going crazy over the situation. I know he got scared on Friday night(2nd night) cause it was intense. I think he's afraid I'll hurt him again. I don't think he's holding onto resentment or anger. I don't think he's playing me, I think he's being genuine but timing is off once again. idfk.

I'll give him his space, he'll come to me hopefully. If not we hang out with the same group of people so I'm bound to see him around.

That was all we really said. I wasn't able to go into huge detail, it didn't feel right. Hopefully we'll be able to talk about things in the future but right now I'm just going to give him space. I reached out to him, told him how I felt. If he wants to look deeper into the situation I'm down for it. If not he missed out on some real beauty between us and so did I. Right now I'm just rolling with the punches and letting it be.

Thank you so much, you really calmed me down. (:

How about when they are Cancer in Sun/Moon/Venus?