Cancer guy suddenly pulls away :(

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ladysuperiora
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Hi everyone. I met this crab last february on one of my workwiths with my agent. My work entails distribution management and I usually join my sales agents when having meetings with teir client. The crab guy is intoduced by my agent as he is one of our clients. During our first meeting the spark was already undeniable even my agent said that the crab obviously likes me. We began texting each other although i always talk to him in professional way. He, on the other hand began showing his interest on me. He even text me at night and added me on fb. I knew right from the very beginning that he is married so I tried to ignore him despite the attraction. He kept on texting me but i ignore him and i just talk about business topics instead. Whenever we see each other during meetings the attraction seems to grow stronger so I decided to avoid him totally by erasing him from facebook not answering his text and not joining workwith with my agent. My agent said that whenever she mentions me to the crab he would act as if he didnt hear anything. After several months there ame a point when i could no longer excuse myself from not seeing him because of our dealings at work. When we saw each other 4 months, i realized that the spark is still there he was obviously very happy to see me as well. We began texting each other again and he made me feel really special. He would text me constantly and even had plans of going out together. I learned that I was also beginning to like him and just as i was starting to express my feelings to him he said that he cannot text call and see me again because he is feeling guilty with what he is doing with his wife. He said it late afternoon but the morning before that he was even very excited for our scheduled date. I dont know why he suddenly changed his mood. He asked me where I was I said Im out of town he said he thought i was in the city near him that time then he said he doesnt want to see me anymore. Whats wrong with this crab what will i do?
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LunarMaiden
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One of my philosophies in life, "If you act as useful as tissue paper don't be surprised if someone wipes his ass with you." Hence why we have so many "Why is Cancer man pulling away?" threads. Act like a lady, respect yourself, have pride in who you are, watch your mouth, and stop letting weasels into your life.

Anyway, I think he was playing you. He is attracted to you, liked the chase but now that you seem eager to be caught, he lost interest and/or realized this whole thing is real now; and would put his marriage in jeopardy. Or he could just be gaming you again, setting up another push/pull chase situation that never comes to a conclusion of you two rubbing genitals. And why would he want a woman who would be so willing to break up a marriage, could be his way of thinking also. (Cancer double standards at play here.) He probably had no real intention of having an affair with you, just playing the game. If he and his wife argue (or hurts his feelings) he may contact you again. Be ready.

I say to keep from losing your mind let this one be. If you do end up having an affair, you better believe he will disappear on you again. But this time you will be emotionally connected and totally off your rocker. Go find a man of your own please.
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LunarMaiden
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Posted by MoonMan
Some Cancer's can have double standards, just like some Leo's or Libra's or Gemini's can...etc, etc...

Why phrase your original statement in such a way to imply ALL Cancer's have double standards?
Why not phrase your statement to reflect what you actually mean..
Is it just mental laziness?

A little more effort would be nice when expressing serious ideas/thoughts, but you're not the only person on these boards to do this...

*LOL at have a cookie and relax*...yes dear.

😄



Come on now, everyone knows that not all people are one way. Silly moonman. I think you are reaching and after all I typed you only focused on that one part?!?!. Why don't YOU put some effort to helping this girl instead of getting riled up over my one sentence among many. 😛
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@MoonMan:
You really do need to chill out. And by chill out I don't mean stop being all riled up, as you say you're not; I mean quit tearing into people for saying "all" instead of "most" like a bulldog with a chew toy. It's NOT that big of a deal to exaggerate, and MOST people do realize that when someone says ALL, they don't really mean every single person. You're being rude and insulting to LunarMaiden, ladysuperiora and all of the "adults [who] come here with really basic and often repetitive issues that they can't sort out directly with themselves or their partners" who are people just like you and me, no less intelligent or mature in any way.

*slaps your nose with a rolled up newspaper* Drop it!

*Disclaimer: I can be the same way sometimes, so don't take it personally that I'm rebuffing you here. I'm just as guilty as you are, and we all need to be checked from time to time.

@LunarMaiden:
Just want to say you handled that little spat w/ MoonMan very well, and gave ladysuperiora very sound advice. /highfive

@ladysuperiora:
I'm glad you're taking our advice seriously. You're caught in a messed up situation, and you just need to GTFO and move on.
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LunarMaiden
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Thanks ZenBear, I appreciate you coming to my defense. **Crab Hugz** For some reason MoonMan and I have fussed at each other sense I first came to this website. It's not often and it's nothing major, for me anyways. Could be the significant fire in both our charts.

@ ladyspuperiora I'm glad that we have found a way to distract you. You see Cancers are trained at an early age to practice the ancient art of distraction by word war.

@ MoonMan, I think many of the people asking for advice do it for various reasons. They are very young and inexperienced with relationships, have little knowledge of astrology and sometimes they want you to tell them what they want to hear. I try to tell them what they need to hear. This sites seems to be growing, I'm seeing new names every day. However, In an effort to not derail this thread, I will have to pulverize you at a later date. But for now it's milk and cookies for everyone. 😛



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ladysuperiora
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By the way, I came here to have a better understanding of the personality traits of the person Im dealing with from the perspective of more knowledgeable individuals.

At first I was hesitant to register on this site out of fear of being judged by people who would read my story. You see I have a lot of other friends who could give me advice but decided to ask for your opinions dear peeps because I am certain that you will know better. Its my first time to be in this kind of situation and really dont know what to do

Thanks again for taking the time to read my story and for giving me sound advice

You just dont know how much you made me feel a lot better
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LunarMaiden
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Posted by aurora
There are some Leos, Gems, Cancers and the rest who have double standards, but, because each of them have different personalities, it is going to affect how/in what situation these double standards is going to manifest. In this case, Cancers are know about with their faithful nature, we are the good ones, respect the home and family, and while he is doing the opposite he still wants somehow to fit in general Cancer description, so that's why she called it Cancer double standards. I think lol.



Yes thank you Aurura, this is what I meant. **Crab Hugz**
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Posted by MoonMan
Posted by PhoenixRising
Sorry, to clarify, since this could go on and on: What made you decide to join the site? Exactly.



I like your question and that you were willing to ask.


I suspect my reason is very similar to many others here:

~To learn
~To share ideas, experiences and knowledge
~I have an interest in astrology & human nature
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You're a rare Crab Mr. Moon. And no, I have no plans to elaborate.
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LunarMaiden
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Posted by MoonMan
Posted by LunarMaiden
LOL, don't worry ZenBear. He'll be back. He just needs time to sit in his shell for a bit. Maybe him swimming over to visit other boards is a good idea.


Huh? *chuckle* I ain't wollowing or sitting in my shell............................
Anyway...I'm in danger of rambling, so I probably should give the keyboard a rest!
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Hiiiiii Moonyman, I didn't know you were back in town. I thought by now you would be miles south of Crabland? I was worried about you for a second. 😢 Glad to see you have found your way back to us. 🙂

I love it when chuckleheads attempt reverse psychology. Of course my nature is sensitive, just because I'm full of fire and hot sauce doesn't mean I don't feel or sense shenanigans. And yes I have been hurt before, who hasn't. But I don't feel the need to blather on about it. I tend to see the brighter side, and move on. Thank you for considering my feelings. 🙂

Don't you worry, I get you just fine, my Sagittarius influences appreciates a straightforward approach. In fact I like to banter. But sometimes it's viewed as mean or defensive, which were not my intentions. Perhaps our debating style s are just different. I feel that you are very sensitive to how people perceive you. I think it bothers you when you don't feel understood or others misinterpret your intentions. And I apologize if I made you feel as if I were reprimanding you or not allowing you to freely express yourself. 🙂

Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule to address my feelings and apologize for overreacting to my post. Take care and please do visit us again in the near future. 😄

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LunarMaiden
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Posted by MoonMan
Hi LunarMaiden
I see you've been studying my profile, if it bothered me as you say, I wouldn't have it on public view.
I did notice precisely which part you decided to paraphrase though...*chuckle*

Meh. Yeah whatever. It's tempting to ...play.
You certainly have baited a lot of hooks in that post.

Trouble is, if I dive in and try a taste I'll only end up on the river bank flipping around madly and gasping for air.

ps.
My "Dear Crabs" thread (opening post) was purely and simply a fictional creation with some humourous takes on mainstream astrological personality traits. Intended to lighten the mood.
I never left or had any intention of leaving the Cancer board.





Hello MoonMan I haven't read your profile past the chart you posted. So if anything I have written is similar to what you have on your profile it is mere coincidence. So no plagiarism here, just insight. Perhaps I write like an astrologist now. Hmmm.

I never said I thought those traits were bad. In fact I admire them and wish more men/people would be concerned with how they come off to others. Anyway, I'm glad you haven't left us and hope we have some lively debates in the future.

P.S. I'm glad you will be staying on the Cancer Boards. I sure did think we had lost a soldier. 😛 (NOT SARCASM) 🙂