Cancer male behaviour - i need help please

Hello everybody, i'm new around here and i have a question regarding a Cancer boy that i like.
I'm a scorpio so this kind of combination isn't foreign to any of you i would guess.We met a month and a half ago during a trip and out of the 12 days we spent in the trip, the last 5 were spent together.
I was the one making the first move on him (getting acquainted, then asking for the email and the phone number).He was the one that offered to land me his SD card for the camera as i ran out of my own.He's the typical shy cancer guy, the one that looks unapproachable.
As we got home from the trip, we started chatting online almost everyday and found out we have everything you can imagine in common - from books that we read to the type of juices that we drink.
Three weeks after we got back home i asked him if he wants to meet me so i can return his sd card and he promptly agreed (during the date we had he let me decide everything - at what hour we meet, where we meet, where we go, what we do etc.).We chatted and laughed for more than 4 hours and i guess he had a good time - i think i even made him blush...During these 4 hours we stared at each other so deep that i even thought i could read his mind....
One week after this "date" as we were chatting online, he send me this song out of the blue which has these lyrics:
"Hey, girl, what you're doin!,Hey, girl, you'll drive me to ruin, I don't know what it is that I like about you, But I like it a lot, Won't let me hold you
Let me feel your lovin' touch, Hey girl, I got something I think you want to know
Hey girl, I wanna tell you that I love you so, I wanna hold you in my arms, and feel the love tonight, Im never gonna let you go, cause I like your charms"
Now, i was pretty much taken by surprise and i didn't know how to react, i thanked him for the song and he vanished for 2 days.
When he came back though, we resumed our chatting as if nothing happened.
Fast forward to the past week, i was busy and didn't have time to chat 3 days in a row, so on friday he contacts me and after some random chatting he tells me exactly this:"hmm, i'm going to see a play tomorrow with some colleges, interested?" and i asked him what hour, he told me 19, i said perfect and then he said he's calling to book the tickets, then he told me there were no more tickets and that he'll book for another day.And then asked me again "but, you'd go, right?" and i told him i would.

Now, it seems that each time we take things a step forward he runs away then he comes back...
He's 21, and by the way he's acting i doubt he's had a serious relationship - if any at all.I know i'm not supposed to judge a book by its cover but he's gotten me confused as hell.

How should i take this behavior?I seem to be attracting cancer guys since forever - my first bf was a cancer too and i have at least 4 cancer guys that i know of chasing after me...

Any kind of advice is good advice 🙂

thanks in advance!

Oh, and one more thing, he seems to be mirroring me at everything i do or say (likes the same things that i like, does the same things that i do...etc)

well, leokitten, he did ask me out (with his colleges nonetheless) which i really loved, but the way he's running away every time there's on step forward into the relationship is weird.

Some details: during the trip, the last day we spent together, i started playing with his hand for like 10 seconds and i watched his reaction - he gave a huge smile and then ran away.The first time i called him to thank him for something he's done for me - he ran away, after he sent me the song -he ran away.He comes back each time but i feel him... like he's hiding and then coming back.Ok, maybe i'm paranoid about it - i'm a scorp with a leo rising so i might well be weird like that 🙂)

leokitten, you need to chill, lol.

OK, I don't understand what she means by "runs away" b/c from what I read, he has never "run away"...I mean, yeh...a few days in b/w like TWO...I don't think that's something to freak out about b/c you guys are not in a relationship yet. PLUS, guys freak out anyways, so don't be the usual scorpio, lol. Give him the room, if you dash out like that, ofcourse he's gonna "run away" b/c for you to be so possessive (maybe not the right word) like that even when you are not in a relationship yet, is gonna freak him out no doubt. He's only 21! All the more reason for him to freak out, lol. GO SLOW, VERY SLOW!

ok everybody, thanks for replying 🙂

Now to clarify my previous posts, dear leokitten - crabluvr was right, the initial attraction was so damn powerful that i found myself asking "WTF just happened?!?!" and about the psychic connection - yeah it was there as well, both of us being able to finish each others sentences, and even getting to the point where we'd be looking at each other and just laugh out of nothing.It's the kind of connection that you FEEL is natural, not forced - i have never had this kind of connection with anybody else and this scares me - hence the post i made trying to figure out what the bloody hell is happening.I want to take it slow, i know slow is always better but i fell like i'm getting pushed from behind or simply "attracted" like a magnet to this guy.
I know this might sound out of place or downright crazy, but i FEEL him - that's why i said he hid away, i felt it...
ok, you are all right, i need to chill as well and take it slow (maybe i am going nuts after all)- it's just a month and a half since we've known each other, we've got plenty of time 🙂

i'm going to quote scorpiochick from another cancer thread : "its amazing to not have to say a word and just sit there and feel the other person with your soul."

well that's exactly how it felt for me, and it scared me s***less, there you go, and i guess all i need is someone letting me know this has happened to them too and the way they handled it 🙂

I would say that usually the cancer is the one doing the smothering (but not until in a relationship). If you are coming on too strong, demanding more time from him (which is not what type of vibe [but are definitely the feelings] I'm getting from you), he can probably sense that when the two of you are together. This could cause him to 'run' as you describe it. LK is being a little harsh about it, but LEOs can't stand 'useless information.'
If I had to assess the situation (from what you've given us), I would have to agree with LK... "it seems like the whole thing is progressing forward in the ordinary course of things."

"Oh, and one more thing, he seems to be mirroring me at everything i do or say (likes the same things that i like, does the same things that i do...etc)"
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=1449701<BR> ...but I just think that you like the same stuff, its not part of the mirroring game.

"Now, it seems that each time we take things a step forward he runs away then he comes back..." Better to run away, than to take 2 steps back... right? And no, he's not running away. He just isn't making you his whole life, and healthy advice would be for you to not allow him to become the whole of yours.

Thank you very much broken shell for the advice, it's nice to see people trying to help ya out 🙂

Let's just say that i can feel i'm too much at times too, so i've backed away too since he asked me out at that play.I'm taking things easier now, letting everything progress in the natural way.

Truth be told, i've been pushed and pulled by other persons in my life to act very rapidly and just "get him" until someone else does, so this is why i've been pushing it too much at times.I am the same type when it comes to personal relationships - i like to take it easy, get to know the guy etc.So there's been this contradiction between me wanting to take it slow and people around me forcing me to act fast - i really didn't know what i should be doing...

Relationships take time,good relationships take work and time, i want him to trust me and i want to trust him, so i'm not hurrying anywhere, not anymore.Trust takes time too.

Broken shell, could you elaborate on the mirroring thing, i read the other post but it seems a bit confusing.And he does what you wrote in that post, by the way.

You cancer guys are the sweetest thing on earth.... :*

I think the mirroring game is more of an 'anything you can do, I can do better' thing.
Beat him at the game...
Another interpretation could be, maybe he's trying to show you that he can be whatever you want him to be. The tough thing here is to showing him what that is.
That's wierd thing about cancers. We (cancers) are probably the hardest to understand because (though we share many similar [ABSTRACT] traits) our reactions to any given situation can vary immensely.

Broken shell, you said "Another interpretation could be, maybe he's trying to show you that he can be whatever you want him to be. The tough thing here is to showing him what that is."

When we first met to return him his card, i was the one asking him if he wants to meet and he promptly agreed and let me decide every single detail of our meeting.I'll give an example, i asked him what hour he'd like to meet and he told me that any our is fine with him, i told him 11 to which he replied "perfect".Then as me met the second day, i asked him where he wants to go and what he wants to do, and he told me we'll do whatever you like, we'll go wherever you want...Everything seems fine to him as long as i'm deciding and i've never been put in this situation before.It's not bad by any means...it's just like you said, a bit tough to handle 🙂

"...Cancers rarely leave relationships or break up with someone. They simply make it unbearable for their partner to stay."

just a quick comment on this statement. i would have to say this is far more true for female cancers than male cancers...but very insightful indeed!