cancer males

my bf, sometimes i wonder what is wrong with him. do cancer males know how to treat a girl or what, my boyfriend is going away for the weekend and does't want to see me before he goes away, he said he can go without seeing me. i think that is soo horribe to say to someone, and i can't tell him how i feel b/c he just gets mad, and when he gets back home he will miss me soo much and be like i missed you and blah blah..can someone help and tell why there like that? b/c i can't stand it.

I don't know if I can help but I will try and I can sympathize. Most recently something similar happened to me. With whom I'd like to call my boyfriend at some point. I'm dating a male cancer. He travels' a lot for work. He's also going away. I asked if I'd see him before my trip to see him in a month. And he said I don't know we will see what I can do. Then I said to him- can you wait that long to see me..a month. And he said - are you ready for this- I don't know we were just joking around a minute ago , is that part of this or is that a question you want me to answer, I don't' know how you want me to answer that. So I know it feels like slap in the face. I sent him and e-mail the next day and say oh don't' worry about seeing me... I'll just see you in a month.Guess what -days later I got an e-mail saying he's booked a flight home to see me next weekend to break up the months time. What I learned from that and some experience with cancers- is they thrive on feeling like the other person wants to be with them-it makes them always feel safe. The less they reveal the more of the upper hand they have with your emotions. And remember they love to feel secure. That's his way of just testing to see how you really feel about the distance. It's not right and sometimes there way hurts. So this is what you do. I've done this and unfortunately sometimes we have to play there game. When he goes away next time, as hard it will be- book a night out with the girls on his last night in town. And when he's due to come back- do the same thing. It will be hard to do I know. Do it I'm telling you it will work if he cares about you. He'll make sure he see's you before he leaves next time. They don't always say the right things-but again that's men in general sometimes. Pick and choose the battles that are most important to you. Fight fire with fire. Play his game. When a guy feels exactly the way he made you feel, trust me he'll never do it again-but make sure in a subtle humorous none confrontation cute way he knows that. He'll get the message and wont do that again. Good luck.

thank you soo much..iam going to try this. i'am glad you could help alot..thanks again...

WAIT A SECOUND, AS A CANCER MALE, WHO ALSO USED TO TRAVEL FOR WORK I DONT THINK THAT GAME IS A GOOD IDEA. SPEAKING OF WORK ,IVE GOT TO GO NOW BUT MAYBE SOMEONE ELSE WILL EXPLAIN THIS FOR ME.

The guy sounds like a control freak and a manipulater to say nothing of playing with one's emotions. If he acts like this when single just imagine if you were married to him? Do you want to play a game like this ALL the rest of your life?

And the male cancer is correct...it IS a dangerous game! Sounds like he's not able to communicate his feelings in other words "emotionally retarded".

It's because of these reasons and many others that women end up getting hurt by men like this. Take back YOUR power and refuse to play HIS games. There's to many REAL men out there who do not behave like your friend does. Women deserve better. Especially respect and understanding. I hope you'll never settle for anything less than that from a man.

WOW!!! I, as a male cancer am surprised at this guy's actions. Although, sometimes I have a hard time expressing how I feel, in no way, shape or form do I feel "emotionally retarded". There are players and manipulators in all zodiac signs. I know - I dated a (virgo) - anyway - A true cancer doesn't play around with people's hearts and heads. They really don't. Shame on him!

RIGHT, I USED TO TRAVEL FOR WORK, AND I DIDNT HAVE A GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE I KNEW THAT IT WOULD BE VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME TO HAVE A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE AND BE GONE ALL THE TIME ACROSS THE COUNTRY BY MYSELF. IM PRETTY STRONG EMOTIONALLY, BUT THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN VERY HARD. IF I DID HAVE SOMEONE IN MY LIFE THAT I LOVED, YOU PROBABLY WOULD HAVE HAD TO USE A CROW BAR TO PRY ME OFF YOU TO LEAVE. WELL NOT THAT DRAMATIC, BUT YOU GET THE PICTURE. I DONT SEE IF THIS GUY LOVED YOU, WHY HE WOULD NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU BEFORE SEPARATING.

you go boy! spoken from a fellow cancer man!

All guys play head games and woman too.
Life and relationships are serious of life games.
You have to weed out the players, and keepers.
You only have to play the game once and
you'll have your answer on what you mean to him.
He's playing a game with you right now. It also sounds like
you've exhausted all other options to grasp his feeligns for you.
As it sounds as if he has problems expressing that
without getting mad. You make your statement
as he's made his. If it's not the kind of respect/caring
you want then at least you'll know at that point and
can decide to stay with him or not to.
p.s. the guy I made my point with never did it again.
And thanked me for pointing out how I made him feel
as he said he really didnt' know until I showed him.
And always told me thanks to me-he alwayslooks at what
he does as- as how I would I feel if she did that to me.
Sometimes if talking doesnt work this might.
good luck.

All guys play head games and woman too.
Life and relationships are serious of life games.
You have to weed out the players, and keepers.
You only have to play the game once and
you'll have your answer on what you mean to him.
He's playing a game with you right now. It also sounds like
you've exhausted all other options to grasp his feeligns for you.
As it sounds as if he has problems expressing that
without getting mad. You make your statement
as he's made his. If it's not the kind of respect/caring
you want then at least you'll know at that point and
can decide to stay with him or not to.
p.s. the guy I made my point with never did it again.
And thanked me for pointing out how I made him feel
as he said he really didnt' know until I showed him.
And always told me thanks to me-he alwayslooks at what
he does as- as how I would I feel if she did that to me.
Sometimes if talking doesnt work this might.
good luck.

hi i am a cancer woman and my husband is a cancer male.... before we got married he was stationed 4hrs away in the USMC

SORRY ABOUT THAT MY LAPTOP DOES THAT SOMETIME AS I WAS SAYING.... he would travel every weekend to see me during the week we was on the phone all the time.. after 5 months decided to get married ........ sometimes I feel like I don't understand him .... when I am a cancer also...