Cancer man in a relationship ? details. help !

I'm a cancer woman. I was recently talking to a aqua man. Should have known that was bad news being as though my ex was an aqua. Anyways me and this cancer guy really hit it off, I never paid him any attention untill now and I feel like he's perfect for me. But I know nothing about cancer men. He told me he always liked me but he's shy. If there's anything I need to know about a cancer man please tell me. What are the dos n donts, what's he like when he's in love ? Me n him were kissing and holding hands all night like we were in a two year relationship. It was honestly amazing. I felt like for the frist time I met someone who could be good to me. I'm a cancer woman so I know how I am to a t. So how is cancer many. Tips n afive on him will be great.

ok. here it goes. just know that i can only tell you from my experience being with one myself.

DO's: - show love and affection often
- be genuine in all that you do and all that you are
- make him feel secure
- be consistent
- be constant
- keep up a healthy sex life (whatever the 2 of you define that as)
- embrace your femininity (does not necessarily equate to "girly")

DON'T: - grow cold on him even when going through a mood swing
- make him jealous
- be disrespectful toward him, his family, or yourself
- be a doormat
- take advantage of his vulnerability

i dunno. some of these things can apply to just about anybody really.

how i knew my cancer was in love with me? well, first of all, they seem to have mastered the art of safeguarding the self. honestly, i didn't realize until after we exchanged confessions of what the signs were. it took a bit of reflection on the situation but i figured out that when he was starting to really fall for me he became... kind of an ass actually. we did this long dance of seducing each other and slowly getting to know the other. then all of a sudden we hung out pretty much every day for a solid month. it was great! except that now we were getting closer than ever. he started to get cold feet because he feared falling in love again. (apparently cancers fall HARD) he fought it for a good month. something in the air changed, i noticed it, and a tension started to build. he didn't detach but he became slightly distant. he was overwhelmed. in the end, and it wasn't really all that bad, we talked it out very openly.

so what i found out was that it had everything to do with him. he had been hurt badly before many times because he tends to easily give his heart away. he rushed into all of his relationships. he no longer trusted his own judgment either. so the month where he became quietly combative was when he was struggling the most with his inner demons. when he became aware that he was falling for me was when he started to fight himself. of course, especially regarding typical cancerian traits, this manifestation was noticeable on the surface. it sounds weird now that i read over it but, you know, it is what it is.

I think NINJAMU??S advice is superb!!! I agree totally!
I can only tell you some advice based on my 6 months with my Crab.

-Be available
-be loving, supportive and encouraging
-Be super affectionate
-pamper him, specially cooking for him
-Be feminine, and don't use swear words
-Be very patient because he is jealous, possessive and moody
-Simply accept him. If you are genuine , he will KNOW.
-Be prepared for the fact that he will not give his heart so easily, it will take time.
-He loves his home, so make sure you make the environment you are with him, cozy and positive.
-Be independent and strong, not dependent on him or smothering
-As he is not so emotionally stable, he will appreciate if you are...

Good luck!
hope that helped!

Also, be prepared to be pushed away. Dont take it personally, they do it for self-preservation and not to become too vulnerable. he will not disappear if interested, just give him space!

I'm a cancer to and he seems really shy, like I always have to make the first move it seems. I def think he's into me though, when we hang out its in a big group of friends and he's always eying me across the room, and then the next thing you know were kissing and holding hands like we been dating. He doesn't really text much cause he works a lot so I really never get to talk to him much but ill be seeing him this weekend so I'm excited.

Is it normal for cancer men to be really shy and laid back ? I'm a cancer woman and I'm not shy at all, I'm very out going. And if they are shy is okay for me to kinda take the first move..

You won't need to be too aggressive but you'll have to pick up on his hints. He might call to ask you what you are doing and for mine that means he wants me to ask him if he wants us to do something together. He thinks I'm playing games if I don't lol. When I first started seeing mine he would like it if I called sometimes in between dates to show that I think of him. He also wanted me to be very open with him and let him help me with everything. Which I didn't - I am slow to open up and really independent he found that to be very hurtful. The cliche about cooking is so true. I bet if you invite yours to a home cooked meal early on he will stick to you like glue. One other thing I noticed about mine is that he seems like he wishes I would be more of the jealous type (but just a bit and probably not to psychotic proportions). This is not how I am and I sense it makes him feel like I don't care enough about him sometimes. I would say the biggest thing is never make him feel rejected always use a gentle approach with him. Good luck Radar 🙂

^^ yes, except i don't think shy is appropriate. i wouldn't say they're shy at all just typically a little more reserved until they acclimate to their surroundings. once they get comfortable with whom or whatever they tend to be quite outgoing.

being a cancer yourself you should notice similarities. the men really aren't all that much different in the love department.

i'm on my 2nd cancer guy and both initiated when they felt it was time. as much as i want to take signs into account i also consider biology. he is male. most males, when truly interested, will make deliberate moves. the signs can give us an idea as to their approach, etc. for example, my first cancer bf had a lot of gemini influence in his chart. he fell for me quicky and he was very forthright. getting with my current cancer was a much different experience. he is very cancerian. we became friends first and he dropped hints indirectly but it took about a year for anything to truly develop. he finally initiated because he felt more sure of my intentions toward him.

it should be just fine if you make the first move. i think they'd rather prefer that route honestly. then they can skip past the time it takes to figure out if you like them and all the worries that come with courtship.

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You won't need to be too aggressive but you'll have to pick up on his hints. He might call to ask you what you are doing and for mine that means he wants me to ask him if he wants us to do something together. He thinks I'm playing games if I don't lol. When I first started seeing mine he would like it if I called sometimes in between dates to show that I think of him. He also wanted me to be very open with him and let him help me with everything. Which I didn't - I am slow to open up and really independent he found that to be very hurtful. The cliche about cooking is so true. I bet if you invite yours to a home cooked meal early on he will stick to you like glue. One other thing I noticed about mine is that he seems like he wishes I would be more of the jealous type (but just a bit and probably not to psychotic proportions). This is not how I am and I sense it makes him feel like I don't care enough about him sometimes. I would say the biggest thing is never make him feel rejected always use a gentle approach with him. Good luck Radar 🙂

ha! @ the jealousy thing. mine told me that he wished i was more jealous in the earlier stages. of course he found out that i'm mostly possessive, and not so much jealous, and i don't really get that way with those who are not my significant other. now that we've been together he's seen it come out a couple of times but, yes, within reason. i definitely have my shit together, and i stay rational throughout, but i'm only human. he definitely ate it up too. he found it amusing and it made him feel desired.

you don't have to treat him with kid gloves but just constantly and consistently show love and affection.

Get dominant in the sheets!

The cancer guy just seems really weird to me. Like he never text messages me and It was me who had to ask him for his number and the only reason we hang out and see each other is because we share the same friend. But when we hang out in person he's all over me but it seems like to me I need to make the first move. Im just lost right now cause Im starting to like his virgo friend cause he actually makes an effort to hang out with me, texts me, and just seems more outgoing then cancer. But at the sametime virgo and cancer guy are bestfriends and I don't want it to be weird between us. And then again Im not even sure the virgo guy likes me but he does seem to go out his way to text me and we talked on the phone for the first time yesterday for like an hr. Virgo guy did like some girl at his school and asked me for advice about it and said he doesn't have any female friends to talk about girl advice with and it turns out the girl he liked wasn't really into him but for some reason I could just tell from day one he might have liked me cause he contantsly looks at me, ask me for my number, always wants to hang out. Im just confused right now on who I like more and even either one is even good for me. Were hanging out tomorrow at a party so I guess it will be interesting to see what happens.