Cancer men take being family men to the next level

One of my older male friends is a Cancer and his (only) son is a Capricorn. They do not get along at all and never have! In fact, they barely speak. The son & his wife literally live on the other side of the country, as far away as possible. (Capricorn son went to college in this state and never left afterwards). Father and son speak, but minimally. They are essentially estranged but they see each other at family gatherings (like the son's wedding a couple of years ago and major holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas). Meanwhile, Cappy son is EXTREMELY close with his Aquarius mother!!

Now, here's where it gets particularly interesting: my older Cancer man friend is very close with his grandson (one of his daughter's boys). That's his only grandson and he's in high school (and a Sagittarius lol)! He has pretty much taken him on as almost more of a "second son" than a grandson. He is strict with him and expects respect, but that grandson is his prized boy!! My guy friend is a pilot and his grandson really wants to be one too (his own son never had any interest, much to his dismay). The grandson is being seriously trained (having been taking flight lessons since he was pretty much a toddler). That young man is truly his grandfather's pride and joy. My friend is practically the boy's "second father" even more than a grandfather.

I just find it absolutely fascinating that Cancer males can take being a father to the next generation!! I swear only they can take being a family man to another level if you will! It's pretty freaking awesome!! Have any of you ever noticed or somehow experienced this?

Talk about people much?

he failed with his son (was disappointed with him) and now, with more experience and the realisation that life wont last forever he is forming his grandson to carry on his legacy.
Pretty common stuff for men of any sign.
When they are young they are overwhelmed of being a father and have to provide for the family. once they are older they have more time and they want to leave something influenced by themselves to the world.

Posted by P-Angel

Talk about people much?

She didn't say their names, so its hardly gossip

Posted by scalpisces

Posted by P-Angel

Talk about people much?

She didn't say their names, so its hardly gossip

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Thank you, scalpisces! Exactly??_I never give names or places of residence, so these people could be anybody. When I make an observation, I just like to give a little background. =/

Caps test their fathers a lot, I heard about that, but funnily enough, the only cap I was every really close to grew up without a father!

Posted by Erica1

Posted by scalpisces

Posted by P-Angel

Talk about people much?

She didn't say their names, so its hardly gossip

Thank you, scalpisces! Exactly??_I never give names or places of residence, so these people could be anybody. When I make an observation, I just like to give a little background. =/

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I dont think you did anything wrong. We all ask questions about people that influence our lifes. If we cant do that anymore (of course while respecting their privacy and dont say their names or places where they live)this forum would be pointless.

No, its not.

What sign is your father (or did I overread that?) ?

Posted by scalpisces

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Posted by scalpisces

Posted by P-Angel

Talk about people much?

She didn't say their names, so its hardly gossip

Thank you, scalpisces! Exactly??_I never give names or places of residence, so these people could be anybody. When I make an observation, I just like to give a little background. =/

I dont think you did anything wrong. We all ask questions about people that influence our lifes. If we cant do that anymore (of course while respecting their privacy and dont say their names or places where they live)this forum would be pointless.

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Thanks, scalpisces. You seem like a sweetheart! I normally love Pisceans and get along great with them, and them with me (Pisces is one of my very favorite signs). But, P-Angel and I seem to have gotten off on the wrong foot.

LOL if he is water its natural he gets along great with your scorp brother, but is too soft for your cap brother.
Your scorpio brother values him, because they mutually understand eachothers feelings, while your cap brother thinks they are both wussies 😉

(or that are the chances, they way I see it)

Nothing you could do about that CC

bring a stepladder 🙂

My youngest is a Cap. He's a challenge in some ways and in other ways not so hard to deal with. I must be insane because I just hold my ground, give fair choices and stick with it. If he wants a toy and then changes his mind about it later and wants a different one, tough, it will be something he has to remember that he wants and can get it at a later date. Firm, fair, consistent, loving and keep things light when at all possible. It's really not much different than training horses or dogs. Yeah, I know, that sounds terrible, but the premise is the same and so are the results. Find out how they think and tick and you have an edge on them and can shift how you raise them.

Posted by CluelessCancer
My Cap brother treats my father so badly. Blames him and everyone else for his own problems. Never takes responsibility.

Wow...

A capricorn that refuses to take responsibility for things?

Say it isn't so!

I find it impressive that my guy friend lives over 1,000 miles from his grandchildren, yet it is as if they live right down the street from one another! They are in contact very often and he visits them (in his hometown) a good several times a year!!

He is a rather stern grandfather though, for which I have to give him credit. Over the summer his grandchildren (along with his daughter & son-in-law) were visiting him, and one night there was this outdoor event and his grandson asked him if they could stay a little longer and without hesitation my friend said, "No." He then proceeded to tell the boy that they had to get home and go to sleep because they were leaving the house at 6:00 in the morning to go to some water park. Then he said to his grandson, "And if you are not ready by 6, we are leaving without you!" :0

Gotta respect that. It's the rare PARENT who puts their foot down with their children these days, let alone grandparent with their grandchildren!!

He also told his grandson to "put the phone away." Good stock; not enough around like that??_gotta love it! ; )

His Capricorn son is mean I'm sorry. Because when we were chatting on Facebook he said his father "acts like all 'oh look what a wonderful grandfather I am'" and that it "doesn't make up for him being a terrible father". That's mean. : (
His grandchildren (and daughters and stepdaughter) adore him. Everyone loves him except his son. Something is wrong with that picture.

My brother n laws a cancer and hes would probably rate as like a mild cap as a dad without the too hard and cold aspects,but kinda wonder if that's related to his wife being too easy on their kids sometimes.Like one situation that comes to mind is his son was in his lazy teenage period and was totally slacking off with everything that hes responsible for,was getting repeated detentions and for not doing homework and failed a exame.His wife assumed the f and detention was good enough punishment and overrode him when he tried to ground him for a month so shes technically more of the "boss" I guess with the kids.


My cappy cousin was totally horrible with his dad(aqua) for misdirected anger,his mother died/separated from his siblings from other dads and was sent to live with his dad after that.True aqua dads are kinda cold and workaholics and he basically raised himself but it seemed like he hates his dad too much for that,wonder if it was because he was closer to his mom than his dad and is misdirecting the issue towards his dad.