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On our first date I was in the VIP... Guys kept hitting on me while he was standing there "talking" to friends and I kept refusing... Seemed weird cause it was a bit much. Was that a test or just letting me know he didn't want me for anything else than in between the sheets? We've spoken since then and he's invited me out again but I declined and said I owe him next time. I also told him I liked him more than a friend and not to take the refusal as a rejection (no sitter for the kids).... He read it but didn't respond. He's done that before so I just go Mia and continue with my life as normal. Thoughts?

Posted by Admiral
He could just be the not jealous type and know you're a grown woman who can make choices for herself because you're a responsible adult. You chose him and that's enough for him.

This is if you're implying why didn't he come and intervene during the unsolicited flirting.

True but when I left without telling him he text me perfusely asking where I was. (A lot happened just had to get out of there). We hooked up and during sex he was implying that I was "his" yet haven't been contacting me much lately. I was about to end it and almost like he sensed it that's when he asked me out and I declined. I could've went but why wait till the last minute or till it got to that point?

Hooked up another time not that day.

I'm about to call it quits. Keep finding men that lack communication. I wanna feel needed. Thought cancer men liked to cling I know it's fairly new but communication sucks.

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Posted by Shaniajam
On our first date I was in the VIP... Guys kept hitting on me while he was standing there "talking" to friends and I kept refusing... Seemed weird cause it was a bit much. Was that a test or just letting me know he didn't want me for anything else than in between the sheets? We've spoken since then and he's invited me out again but I declined and said I owe him next time. I also told him I liked him more than a friend and not to take the refusal as a rejection (no sitter for the kids).... He read it but didn't respond. He's done that before so I just go Mia and continue with my life as normal. Thoughts?

You're doing what you think is fine then who are we to judge? I mean I'm a 21year old European guy and another large portion of Dxp population is trolls. I suggest not worry about it and let it happen as it's supposed to. When there's something to worry about then worry. Don't work yourself up pretty lady for someone who you're not sure is a krabby patty or a lobster.

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Lmao crabby patty or lobster I like that. Thank you.

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Posted by Shaniajam

Posted by Admiral
He could just be the not jealous type and know you're a grown woman who can make choices for herself because you're a responsible adult. You chose him and that's enough for him.

This is if you're implying why didn't he come and intervene during the unsolicited flirting.

True but when I left without telling him he text me perfusely asking where I was. (A lot happened just had to get out of there). We hooked up and during sex he was implying that I was "his" yet haven't been contacting me much lately. I was about to end it and almost like he sensed it that's when he asked me out and I declined. I could've went but why wait till the last minute or till it got to that point?

I dunno I just don't think my advice would be valid as I'm a virgin and never been in a relationship before. But what I said before this is valid. Relationships are weird.

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Your advice is valid and thank you. Goodnight or morning to you.

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Posted by Admiral
He could just be the not jealous type and know you're a grown woman who can make choices for herself because you're a responsible adult. You chose him and that's enough for him.

This is if you're implying why didn't he come and intervene during the unsolicited flirting.

True but when I left without telling him he text me perfusely asking where I was. (A lot happened just had to get out of there). We hooked up and during sex he was implying that I was "his" yet haven't been contacting me much lately. I was about to end it and almost like he sensed it that's when he asked me out and I declined. I could've went but why wait till the last minute or till it got to that point?

This could mean something or it could not? Are you really gonna be paranoid about something that's not on solid ground yet? Just enjoy the moment and stop having expectations and you won't be disappointed.

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I think I needed clarity and need to ask the source and stop being scared yet I know they side step and probably ignore it all together. I'm not getting emotional about it and you're right... Just gonna let it go.

Communicate to him that you need more communication from him. It'll become readily apparent if he is prioritizing you and your needs if he takes action.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Communicate to him that you need more communication from him. It'll become readily apparent if he is prioritizing you and your needs if he takes action.

Thank you. He did say he would call me when I asked a question and said I hope to get an answer cause I feel like I'm talking to myself. If I don't get a call today I'm moving forward. He never answered the question which was simple.... "Who do you live with."

Probably feels I'm about to end it and side stepping with me. Ah well.