Cancer women dated Gem sun/Scorp moon? LONG POST

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Yes, I like to talk, I like to talk about talking, and I like to research communication. It gives me more thrills than sex (because of the possibilities) and I talk. A lot. She wanted to listen to me talk in the beginning, and later it was, "All you can do is talk!" in a nasty voice and judgemental tone.

P made me stop talking to her best friend, who incidentally studied psychology in UK, and we got along great. Professionally it was great to meet her, but she was not my type. She had a problem with me talking to her in front of her! Then she had a problem with me talking to my ex T (libra girl, psychologist, knows and loves my family, lives in the US and was engaged to a guy!) She had a problem with me talking to T. However she had exes coming to her place, calling her at night. In the beginning, I was fine with it cause I was quite secure with myself. After a while the double standards started getting to me.

We were living at her place. I visited her a few times, and after sleeping together, the initial flattery was nice so I spent a lot of time there. Everytime I would need my space (and I need my space no matter who it is, home is home) she would start crying and faking pains in her stomach. Initially I gave in, giving her the benefit of the doubt, but that escalated to full blown threats of killing herself. Out of fear I stopped going out, stopped talking to girls, lost interest in work due to the constant accusations, checking my phone, etc. I had nothing to hide, but it still got to me.

It seems like no matter what I did, she would not let me go. Meanwhile, she sucked the life out of me, adopted many of my traits, made new friends and started making fun of me. Anyone with a scorpio moon knows how deeply we feel, and how bad it hurts when it comes from someone who supposedly loves you.

Are all cancer girls like this? I met one cancer girl a few years ago, and she seemed manipulative. She would love and care, but underneath that I see a controlling person. I don't know if that is the scorpio moon in me or the gemini sun who does not want to commit to anyone. I have been cheated on way too many times (not just P), accused and threatened so many times that I am on the verge of killing myself because I feel mind fucked, and guilty that I didn't listen to my gut instinct, and confused whether I am the bad person in the relationship. Is it wrong for me to expect the rules to apply to both of us? Is it wrong for me to point out how to do something in a better way, especially since the way she is doing it is hurting her? eg., We have gas stoves in India, and pointed out that if she turned on the gas just before she used the lighter, the flame wouldn't be as big so as to burn her (it happened once), and more importantly, there would be a lesser chance of an explosion.

I admit that i was suspicious of her (hell, I am suspicious of everyone!) but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Later on I found out from her pretty aquarian friend who would crash at her place, that she was meeting her ex boyfriend. The ex boyfriend who she f***ed on the day of the marriage, which was annulled later because her husband would not buy her a approx. $ 165,000 house, he could only afford a $ 90,000 house. So she left him and shifted back. She is 25, and her role model is her aunt who is divorced and an alcoholic. She does lsd from time to time. I am no saint, I smoke weed, but that's it and it's more of a sleeping aid only at night. I NEVER smoke during the day, or drink alcohol.

She would encourage all bad activities, while stuff like spirituality (the practical aspects of it) and just common sense behavior like not yelling in public, wearing a bra when there are other guys around (she is busty, and this is more of a personal jealous streak). Everytime I thought that this is it, it is finally over, she would show up and the drama would begin again. Everytime she threatened to kill herself, I would drive to her place (which is about 40 min away) and once I would get there, she would ignore me. WTF kind of behavior is this?

Admittedly, for all my research in communication, I am not used to spending too much time with girls, and most if not all girls I have been with are either friends (w/ benefits), and none of them have behaved this way. Is it normal for a girl (any girl) to behave like that in a serious relationship? Is this what happens in marriage/serious relationships? All's fair in love and war? Any married guys/girls please help.

Meanwhile there is so much anger in me that I would love to take it out on her, but I have gotten so used to swallowing my feelings, that I can barely function in society. I have not worked in 3 years and need a confidence boost.

Thanks for letting me rant on and on. This has been inside for a very long time, and I am so confused as to whether she loved me (if, at all) or it was all just manipulation.

And to all the cancers out here whining about how sensitive they are, how about you show the same to others? Honestly, since this girl, I have been noticing the typical cancer tendency is to whine, make everything about them, and if you show the slightest emotion, it is either used against you or ignored. Just because we don't feel the same way about certain things you do, doesn't mean that we don't have feelings!

I was such a positive guy, seen and done so much shit, nothing got me down. Even when my father was murdered, the one person I was closest to, it hurt, but it hurt a lot more when my so called sensitive cancer said, "Big deal, he's dead, get over it!" in the most bored and disinterested tone I have ever heard. I hope she loses her mother, so that she will understand what it means to lose someone you love the most in the world, and then tell me how long it takes to get over it. Sensitive? please.

ANYONE THINKING OF DATING A CANCER GIRL (AIR SIGNS ONLY), watch 'Grounded for Life' TV series. The whiny teenager is a perfect example of that. And she is a cancerian. And don't

WTF DXP? Posting a message is like pulling a tooth! Why so difficult? Website is fast, website is slow, website is down (in 3 minutes?)

So, you fuck your depressed clients and blame her cancer placement for the crazy that came about?
Trust me when I say it has nothing to do with her sun sign and everything to do with you.
Jackass.

"Admittedly, for all my research in communication, I am not used to spending too much time with girls, and most if not all girls I have been with are either friends (w/ benefits), and none of them have behaved this way. Is it normal for a girl (any girl) to behave like that in a serious relationship? Is this what happens in marriage/serious relationships? All's fair in love and war? Any married guys/girls please help."

The reason I ask is so I know how to proceed. If it is my fault, and she does love me, I want to make it work, because I have feelings for her. If she is crazy, I want to run away.

Read the full post before replying.

Jackass.

Wow, such an opportunist. So not attractive!

At the time when we met, I thought that she might be the one. For various reasons, I kept seeing signs, things that I have never told anyone, and she had those qualities.

I come from a broken home, so yeah, love is a confusing subject. But thanks for the support guys.

Really helpful with the personal attacks without answering any questions.

BTW, you would be surprised at the number of people who suffer depression and suicidal ideation. Do some research. I had been practicing for a year, and you would never believe that some of the happiest, normal people are depressed.

Thanks Cancergoddess143 for showing that cancer's don't listen, they read what they want, assume what they want and judge others without knowing all the facts.

Fuck this place. I'm out of here.

lol quoting himself to remind us he really is a jackass? No need to re-read any part of the post. I caught on to the stupidity the first time. Wasted time searching for any hint of a redeeming quality. None.

LMFAO

Well, I suppose it's better than than that other guy who took advantage of a passed out girl...

Cancer women just can't win. We get taken advantage of when we are drunk and suffering from depression and suicidal and get called manipulators and crazies. 😛