Cancer man scorpio woman

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Pretty in Pink on Saturday, May 24, 2014 and has 14 replies.

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@2BlackIndian3
12 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

Well it can be hard if there is bad communication. Good communication is one big key to you guys getting along. Maybe he is just busy with work. You did tell him you want him to focus on his job. If he cares, he'll call you. If it's still bothering you, wait 2days to see if he calls. If not, then you can try calling if you still like him. But don't chase after someone if they aren't willing to make time for you

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@Pretty in Pink
16 Years

How does this work out?
Easy? Hard? I need all the deets.

I met a cancer man (June 25th) on a dating site. We talked on the phone, maybe 3 days or so before actually meeting. We had a very good time. There was no awkward moments, no 'what do I do, what do I say now?' moments. Everything just flowed smoothly.
He is the one that initiated contact on the dating site. Gave me his #, then asked me for mine; asked me for my instagram (so we could see more of what each other looked like--no need for catfishing!); he's the one that initiated us meeting.
The reason I bring all this up is because ever since, I feel like I have to initiate contact with him. And this makes me feel some kind of way.
I asked a male friend, and he said it's all about the chase. I don't like chasing men, it makes me feel like they're not interested (regardless if they are or not). Are cancer men all about making women chase them?
If I don't reach out to him for say, 1week, will I hear from him in that time?

Also just to. Mention:
The day we met, he informed me that he deleted his profile on the dating site (because we were going to meet)
The day after we met, he was willing to call out of work so we could hang out! (I told him to go to work, so he wouldn't lose money just to see me) would that have upset him?

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@2BlackIndian3
12 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

Well his actions showed that he has interest. Go by his actions if you aren't sure about how he feels about you. People can tell you anything. But if they actions don't back up what they are saying, then they aren't worth it. Follow your heart, if you ever feel uncertain by him. You are a Scorpio after all. So use your intuition. I hope everything works out 🙂

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@Pretty in Pink
16 Years

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well it can be hard if there is bad communication. Good communication is one big key to you guys getting along. Maybe he is just busy with work. You did tell him you want him to focus on his job. If he cares, he'll call you. If it's still bothering you, wait 2days to see if he calls. If not, then you can try calling if you still like him. But don't chase after someone if they aren't willing to make time for you

I forgot to mention, when we talk, we do talk (and text) for hours.

He works mon-thurs, until 2pm. After that, he may or may not have his daughter.
Like we were supposed to hang out yesterday, and after going back and forth for like 30 minutes, we decided we would meet at 8 (and by we, I mean me, because he said he didn't care what time we met up, he just wanted to spend time with me because he missed me-we've known each other for about a week-was he bullshitting me?)
The conversation literally went like this:

Him: so what time do you want to hang out?
Me: idc. What time do you want to?
Him: whenever good for you babe (yes he's been calling me 'babe')
Me: It doesn't matter
Him: let me know what you decide
Me: (after sighing heavily at my job): do you want to meet right after I get off work, do you want meet before you eat, do you want to meet after you eat, do you want to meet when it's pitch black outside?
Him: idc babe. It's up to you.
Etc.
So I finally decided 8. It gave me enough time to get home, shower, relax and eat a light snack. But I was going to be fashionably late anyway.

anyway, we ended up not hanging out because his ex finally brought his daughter over.

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@Pretty in Pink
16 Years

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Well his actions showed that he has interest. Go by his actions if you aren't sure about how he feels about you. People can tell you anything. But if they actions don't back up what they are saying, then they aren't worth it. Follow your heart, if you ever feel uncertain by him. You are a Scorpio after all. So use your intuition. I hope everything works out 🙂

I hope so too.
I feel like he's really into me, and we just click. But maybe because of my past, I just don't want to trust this {good} feeling.

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@2BlackIndian3
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Well now that you mention his daut, he's gotta make time for her too. So just keep that in mind. Since you know what time he gets off, just call & say you wanna meet up when you get settled in. Or you can tell him to call you wants he has free time after work or after being with his daughter. He'll give you a good time depending on his schedule. It doesn't matter who decides, as long as you to see each other lol. You know his schedule, so plan around that alright

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@2BlackIndian3
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Sometimes you gotta go with your heart not your feelings too. Also try planning dates later on down the line that involves his daughter. That way you build trust with her & he'll like you even more because you like his kid too. See!

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12 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

Well @Juicy, you have to go by your guys actions. If he not meaning what he tells you, then why keep someone like that around. Good communication & showing love is very important. We can only help so much here. You'll have to do what's best for you

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@Juicy Well you have to keep in mind of & respect his work schedule. Its not like you don't know where he's at. Besides, if he is treating you right, you have to be patient & compromise. Especially since you say he communcates well too. You have to take the good with the bad. You have yo decide in your heart, if this is the kind of relationship you want. You gotta be patient with Taurus people. Let them come to you. If he cares, he'll make the effort ok

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Posted by Pretty in Pink
How does this work out?
Easy? Hard? I need all the deets.

I met a cancer man (June 25th) on a dating site. We talked on the phone, maybe 3 days or so before actually meeting. We had a very good time. There was no awkward moments, no 'what do I do, what do I say now?' moments. Everything just flowed smoothly.
He is the one that initiated contact on the dating site. Gave me his #, then asked me for mine; asked me for my instagram (so we could see more of what each other looked like--no need for catfishing!); he's the one that initiated us meeting.
The reason I bring all this up is because ever since, I feel like I have to initiate contact with him. And this makes me feel some kind of way.
I asked a male friend, and he said it's all about the chase. I don't like chasing men, it makes me feel like they're not interested (regardless if they are or not). Are cancer men all about making women chase them?
If I don't reach out to him for say, 1week, will I hear from him in that time?

Also just to. Mention:
The day we met, he informed me that he deleted his profile on the dating site (because we were going to meet)
The day after we met, he was willing to call out of work so we could hang out! (I told him to go to work, so he wouldn't lose money just to see me) would that have upset him?

He does have a daughter and an ex in the picture, so some of that may be factoring into his responses to you.
I'd say lay off for a little. Give it no more than a week, as you mentioned. The issue here is of (your) availability, and it shows in the dialogue in your other post about setting up a time to get together. If there is no contact in that time period, then contact him and keep it light. If he contacts you before that time, then its no more than stuff in his life getting in the way.
In either case (you contacting him or him contacting you), he might ask why he hadn't heard from you. Make sure you have a genuine reason or two in case you're asked.

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@Pretty in Pink
16 Years

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Pretty in Pink
How does this work out?
Easy? Hard? I need all the deets.

I met a cancer man (June 25th) on a dating site. We talked on the phone, maybe 3 days or so before actually meeting. We had a very good time. There was no awkward moments, no 'what do I do, what do I say now?' moments. Everything just flowed smoothly.
He is the one that initiated contact on the dating site. Gave me his #, then asked me for mine; asked me for my instagram (so we could see more of what each other looked like--no need for catfishing!); he's the one that initiated us meeting.
The reason I bring all this up is because ever since, I feel like I have to initiate contact with him. And this makes me feel some kind of way.
I asked a male friend, and he said it's all about the chase. I don't like chasing men, it makes me feel like they're not interested (regardless if they are or not). Are cancer men all about making women chase them?
If I don't reach out to him for say, 1week, will I hear from him in that time?

Also just to. Mention:
The day we met, he informed me that he deleted his profile on the dating site (because we were going to meet)
The day after we met, he was willing to call out of work so we could hang out! (I told him to go to work, so he wouldn't lose money just to see me) would that have upset him?

He does have a daughter and an ex in the picture, so some of that may be factoring into his responses to you.
I'd say lay off for a little. Give it no more than a week, as you mentioned. The issue here is of (your) availability, and it shows in the dialogue in your other post about setting up a time to get together. If there is no contact in that time period, then contact him and keep it light. If he contacts you before that time, then its no more than stuff in his life getting in the way.
In either case (you contacting him or him contacting you), he might ask why he hadn't heard from you. Make sure you have a genuine reason or two in case you're asked.

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Yeah you're right.
I'm way too available right now.
I guess it's because the semester is over, and I have a week where I don't have to do anything but work. And once I get out of work, it's free time. School was very stressful; and summer semester is starting in Tuesday.

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@Pretty in Pink
16 Years

Ugh. I don't know what to think.

So yesterday we were making plans to hang out. And in the conversation, I said, 'can we chill at your place?', he said 'yeah we can do that.' A few minutes later I said, if you want to chill somewhere else we can. He didn't respond. This's as around 6pm. And I still haven't heard from him.
What the hell?

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@2BlackIndian3
12 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

Lol, you should have just went with what he said. You probably need to go call him or talk about y'all issues un person since it's botgering you so much. Because i think its a lack of understanding going on here.

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@2BlackIndian3
12 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

But I can understand how you feel about that very late reply to that text. Im sure he saw it by now. To me, you'll never have a meanful conversation through only silent words. Plus I wouldn't be interested in the conversation anymore it took someone that long. Calls can usually make it easier. So definitely go talk him about this before it gets super ugly ok