Cancers and communication issues——

Ive been with a cancer for over two years, and one of the areas we seem to have difficulty is communicating about personal things (or relationship issues). That is the single most difficult aspect of this relationship for me. Are all cancers stand offish when asked to talk about relationship issues, where one partner feels a compromise is needed? I know cancers function from an emotional base more than other signs. Is this part of why they can not seem to bring themselves to have this kind of discussion? I am a Libra, and I know that we are not the best match for each other regarding our horoscope signs. Maybe I just need to use a different approach, and method to talk about things. Could anyone share anything that would help me with this. My cancer is such a sweetheart in all other areas. It just seems that they are indifferent sometimes, to the feelings of others in certain areas. Are they misunderstood? Is there a certain way that is best to try to communicate with them... I just feel like I am missing the boat here-you know close but no soap. Please cancers help me understand you better. TW2

No relationship is perfect or without its challenges, we all know this. I just wish to understand him better, so we can feel more comfortable with each other. The Astrology Profile for each sign can tell you alot, but they can never take the place of real people. TW2

Oh yes, sorry my cancer is a male. I am female. Ta! Ta! TW2

Well. I am a Cancer woman and anything involving my deepest feelings especially in regards to love makes me uncomfortable.Just ask him straight out what you want know. Without whining and without pressure.If you have already done this,,,how did he react?

im not qualified tw2, me and my libra are sliptsville again. we cant seem to make it work. i dont think i have any answers on this one. i do miss her, but its the right thing to do. 😢

Softy, One of the responses I get is that he does not want to talk at that time. I let him know that it's ok but that we will need to talk sometime soon. He says that is ok-but the sometime soon never comes. He side steps any attempt to start, and has been doing so for awhile. I have let him know that the issues are important to me, but he still is not receptive to talkig about them. He has already let me know that he loves me, the relationship issues are about other things not love. One thing is about money and how we take responsibility for the living expenses we have. (for expample). And things like that. I realize that it is hard to talk about things that are not viewed the same way. But there needs to be communication about it for the couple to possibly reach a compromise. Or the issue can become serious and damage the relationship in time. Sometimes he just becomes angry, and askes me not to bring it up again. So I dont have any idea just what to do, or where to go with it from there. When I do get an answer to a question that is one of the issues, it is incomplete. It gives me only a vague responce about the topic at hand. Sometimes he says that he feels like I expect him to reveal everything about himself, that it's like he is being exposed. So I have asked for the help of the cancer men and women on the board for their advice, as you would know what motivates him to be this way about talking. I hope this answeres your question softy. And cj7 I am sorry to hear that you are still having trouble in your relationship. You know they say that the cancer and libra pairing are not very compatable. That they are complete opposites and it causes nothing but problems and more problems. I dont know, like I have said my cancer is a pretty wonderful guy. I just was wondering if the communication thing is inherant to cancers. And if so is there any way to get around it? I am not trying to drill him or anything (this much I know) But some people just dont feel comfortable about communicating in certain areas with the oposite sex. Anyway can anyone please help— Bye TW2

Have you tried to write him a letter? I found that sometimes when id hard to get your point across to someone or they are being non-receptive, It is good to write a heartfelt letter letting him know the issues that you have and how it makes you feel when he doesn't totally acknowledge your feelings and thoughts on certain matters.Make it a little sweet(: Give him a few days to digest the letter...and then try to bring up the letter and ask him what he thought. I don't know just a suggestion.

Softy, thanks for the reply. Yes I have done that more than once. I ask him if he had a chance to read it and most times he says yes. Then I let him know we need to talk about what is in the letter soon.(I try to give him some time and space about that) He eigher gives no reply or just says yea ok. But again the day never comes to talk about it. So now what? At this point this has caused alot of frustration for me, as I dont know what to do next if anything. This is why I was asking if the communication thing was a cancer trait, because I can not seem to reach him. I feel like I am hitting my head against a brick wall. And we all know what results come from doing that. I have become somewhat angry and upset about this situation. I feel like what is important to me doesnt seem to matter. Or that maybe he is so unwilling to change or compromise on anything he avoids the discussion. I know the man can communicate because we have actually done it before. When we parted for awhile he came to me to explaine why. He was totally sensitive to my feelings, and felt terrible about having to hurt me that way. He beat himself up for two weeks before he could come tell me. This is why I dont understand what the problem may be now. Like I said maybe cancers need to be approached in a certain way. And maybe the conversation needs to stay within certain peratmaters for them to feel ok about talking. I dont know, I just thought that other cancers could shed some light on that for me. Thanks for all your help so far, as it is appreciated. My mom has been real sick and I have been careing for her to help my sister, and that has been a real stressor for both of us. I have never lost an immediate family member, so this is the first time. I am sure I am not quite myself right now, as it has been so emotional for me to see her like she is. Anyway help if you can please! I am calling all cancers! Bye TW2