cancers and self confidence

Hey cancers, i was wondering about individual self confidence levels... mine varies quite a bit (is it normal?) lol Ever since i was little i had a strange self confidence.. like one day i would be completely down on myself, hating how i was and how i looked. I learned from myself that my mom played a part in that because she would always put me down and still does.. but the next day i was on top of the world; optimistic, confident, determined... it continues on the same way these days too except now that im getting out of that kid/teen stage i feel confident and powerful more often than not..
I greatly vary from day to day (even by the minutes when i was younger) and im 18(19 on July 17) now but i feel like i will get more confident as days go by.. does anyone else have these self confidence variations? Lol okay i re read my chart and i have cancer sun (of course) scorp rising, aries moon, leo mars.. these might have something to do with it 🙂

I feel like that too;
Like one day you look yourself in the mirror and just admire how beautiful, how confident you can be, and you wish everybody could see the person in the mirror.
But then other days its completely gone; your skin looks dull, your hair is a mess, and you feel these weird pangs in your stomach like something is gonna crawl in your head and worries begin....yeah

And it is true, I heard that as the years go by, Cancers mature in such a way that the most positive traits overcome any hint of the bad ones; I'm 21 now, and confidence and self acceptance is something that I recognize as part of myself. My mother also plays a big part, always did, I used to be so confident and cheerfull, and she (with her moral "beating" made me tone it down. But all the good things are coming back again, they just need time...🙂

I am a cancer female as well and I am 22 (will be 23 in july). I have the same feelings that you have, I really feel it's part of the comments and feelings other people have of us. For example, when my boyfriend criticizes me I feel that I am not good enough, and it's really bad I wish I cou;d change. Or sometimes I get up in the morning feeling like crap, and feeling like I am not good enough or pretty enough. Then, I have those days where I am extremely high on my self. So I totally understand how you feel, and your confidence level may improve but I think it all depends on the kind of people you surround yourself with.

I know the feeling too! When I was little, I was cheerful and out in the open. But I came across people who for some reason didn't appreciate me and tried to bring me down. And it really hurt, cause you start wondering about yourself and the fact that maybe they have reason to do all that. So I started to believe I was ugly and it had an effect on relationships with boys also. The most gorgeous boy (every girl went crazy about him, lol) in school asked me out, and I refused cause I thought I wasn't good enough, I wasn't worth the effort and he would be wasting his time.. But then I got older and I have two best friends really caring for me, making me feel safe, and making me stand up for myself. And even though I have my bad moments, I usually feel like I can handle anything crossing my way. It gets better when you get older (you start to put some things in perspective) and you have the right people by your side!

My mom (leo and very bossy) had a part in this too. My grandmother was a way oversensitive cancer and my mom hated that! So when I was feeling down she would get angry if I cried or showed emotion, cause that would make me as weak as my grandmother. I'm still a bit troubled with that, but I'll get over it 🙂

yeah my moms a sag... she doesnt like my emotional homebody ness lol she'll always say "are you going out with derek(bf) tonight" i always do but we usually stick around my house or go to his lol we fall into a comfy routine and my mom doesnt get that shes always on the go .. shes brutally honest too and my poor shell cant take it lmao

Yes. Im 28 and my confidence still fluctuates daily!

Yep...

Me too! I like cancimini was open and very self confident until I ran into those people who tried to bring me down. Yes, everyone runs into those people but like ACP8705 says...our shells can't take it sometimes.

There are so many days when I wake up wanting to be an Aries...their self confidence is UNSHAKEABLE!

Or a Leo...

true DB,,,my best friends is an Aries and I've found that HER confidence, (i'm not saying ALL Aries) is a bit of a facade...

My sister's confidence is VERY real...My Scorp sister has the facade...

DB...Thanks for breaking that down...makes sense 🙂

'..."Aries...their self confidence is UNSHAKEABLE!"...'

i know loadz of aries whose confidence is VERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRY SHAKEABLE 🙂

i think confidence is more of an individual thing rather than a sunsign thing. if u have a gr8 self esteem ur gonna b SUPER CONFIDENT...it doesnt have 2 do wid how hot or good lukin u r.. itz sumthin thatz in u n somethin that u can work on n get betta at ..