Cancers and work! Do they ever stop?

I dont know maybe it has more to do with the way he was raised than being a cancer thing. It seems that my cancer is always working (because he is). I am left feeling like there is no time in his life to be with his family (us). He has always been a hard working person, but it seems like he may have an obsession going here. He works full time during the day in construction, and has mechanic work lined up every night for extra money. He built his first car himself as a teenager, and he has a special interest in them. He is an excellent mechanic but prefers not to do it full time. He seems so proud of himself about how much he does, and what it provides for us. But I would rather go without some of the extras and have more time with him. Is there any advise my other cancer friends on the board can give me. I dont want to hurt or upset him, or make him feel I am nagging him to be home. Help me guys how do you compromise with a cancer, as I haven't quite figured out how to do that yet. I just dont want to feel this alone when I am in a relationship. My dad was the same way-he worked all the time and was never home. They say little girls look for men like their dads, and I guess its true. Some feedback please, I need help!!!TW2

Hi TF2,
i can fully comprehend what you are going through. You right, this has nothing to do with his being a cnacer. Only one point, for cancer work is security- it brings money which helps them to buy all those things that make shim secure, plus the great feeling that not only he can provide fo rhis loved ones but also stash away soemthing fo rhte future.right now i am a bit loss for any ideas to help you. but your best bet would be soem cancer men responding to your post and giving you useful tips or soem female who has similar experince with her cancer like yours.
loonybird

Thank's so very much for responding to my post. I dont think that I need anyone to answer anything for me though. As the situation has proven itself to be much more complex than first thought. I know I am not making much sense regarding this right now. But I am still in the information gathering stage and can not come to any final conclusions yet. But I am sure that I will find the answers I seek, and at that time will share what I find. Thanks TW2

Hi TF2!
I would be waiting when you are ready to share what you find.
take care
loonybird

Well looneybird I have found what I did not want to. See my post on the music board, it explains everything pretty much. Thanks again for taking the time to answer my post.
TW2

Hi TW2,
I went to the Music Board to read your post as suggested by you. But didnt find any. will you please check into this?
loonybird

Hey Loony, it's on the post entitled 'favourite Xmas tune'. Misleading I know lol but the post started off about that....

TW2 hope you are still smiling honey.

🙂

Pixie Peach
Thanx for the info. TW2 you are a strong perosn and you iwll come out of htis with flying colors and whatmore you are goign tohave a good christmas. Which is followed by a New YEar, a time for new beginings.
All the best honey
loonybird

Gosh you guys are so sweet! You are right I know I will be ok, even though it will be kind of hard for awhile going through the breaking up stage of things.

Ive lived long enough by now to understand that time does heal a broken heart. We just were not meant to be, or right for each other. If we were things would be different! I am still hoping someday to meet that special someone that changes everything in a persons life for the better. I guess I will never lose hope no matter how old I get.

Again thanks for the kind words and support! Its so funny that I gain the most help and strenght from the people I know here on the board, and not who is around me all the time.

I guess I just dont talk to them about stuff like I do here, cause I dont want to lay a bummer on them. I dont know I have always kept to myself when something bad was going on for me, Ive never leaned on my friends for support. I am always there if they need me though, I just dont understand why I dont reach out but I dont. Sorry for going on like this, the thought just came to my mind.

See ya soon, gonna go do some more decorating for the big "C".

TW2

TW2 you can lean on us whenever you want poppet, seriously.

Hope the decorating goes well, remember to enjoy a glass of wine as you do.......and put on a nice Xmas CD to sing a long to!

That's what I do lol.

guys see the update on the music board thread about the Lisa thing and my cancer. You wont believe it!

TW2

Howdy Y'all,
This loonybird. I have a new id with a minor change. the loonybird was a spelling mistake. I couldn't accept it anymore. So here I am looneybird a.k.a loonybird.;P

I'm heading over to the music dept. to check out the "lisa thing"....is this a new song?

Well being a Work-a-Holic Cancer female it makes it easier to deal with stress as well as being financially secure.

One of the good qualities of a Cancerian is that he/she works very hard FOR the sake of the family. Cancerians want to give their family the "best" in life. That's why most people who are not under this sign think they work "too" hard. This is also the reason why Cancerians feel stressed because sometimes their efforts are not appreciated. One of the weak points a Cancerian may have is the stomach; Cancerians are prone to indigestion, heartburn and unstable weight. It's important that they are served light and healthy meals but not too spicy. Keep papaya enzymes on hand to help soothe the tummy.

Shwnmillin & PaulaCecilia,

Thanks for the information as it does help me understand him a little better. Now let me throw you a curve, what are the odds of a cancer male not being faithful to his partner? I am just wondering if this is a rare occurance or if it is quite possible under the right circumstances for this to happen. What is your opinion on this subject? I have my reasons for asking this question and will provide the answer as to why I am asking such a question.

TW2

I guess I did throw a curve ball with that question. I know it seems like my relationship just cant stabalize itself at times, but that is becuase it is has not been balanced for awhile in more than one way or another.

I cant help but feel like something is missing, or off somewhere but cant put my finger on it quite yet. Patience is the best course of action to take as the truth of the matter at hand will surface in due time. It always does if we can wait and observe what is happening around us as I have learned.

There is a snare that a person eventually falls into of their own making, if they are not being honest about things. This is one of the reasons I will not lie in a relationship, as the stories always catch up with the deceptive party. It is impossible to cover all your bases all the time without leaving loose ends here and there.

And an observant eye and ear will uncover even the best fabricated stories in time. Besides the person does not even realize just how differently they are interacting with their partner in the relationship while this is going on. The changes are not easy to detect at first, but increase as time goes on and they become entangeled in their own carefully spun web of lies.

Anyway enough cryptic talk about all of this, I think everyone here can figure out what I am trying to say. Thats all I wish to share for now, I was just wondering what the odds are for this sign to stray compared to other signs.

Any feedback would be appreciated, Thanks

TW2

I am a cancer woman and one must understand that everything cancer's do is for their family. We only want our family to have the very best. And will work day and night if we have to.

Hi TW2 & my cancerian sisters!

TW2 I hear you. What you want to know is the chances of cancerians straying compared to other signs. Cancerians like any other signs could be given to romantic adventures of the straying type. This thing abotu loyalty is all to do with how a person's needs are getting fulfilled and how much of then reamin unfulfilled. See a person in order to feel self-actualised has to go through fulfilling a heirarchy of needs. A blokage anywhere can create omplications and it ould get refleted in any area of life. Many times sexual indfedelity is jsut a symptom of soem other problem or jsut simple need of fulfilling some kind of a fantasy which they always wanted ot live. This is common to humanity. It is not sign specific. as one of my Virgo friend's favorite quote"People are people.. everybody is on this earth to fulfill their hunger for food ...." (we can add furhter to this)

So Cancerians are not above straying like any other sun sign.

hugsssssss to ya'll

Looney Bird

Hey Guys too many spelling mistakes in my above post.😢 Was in a kinda hurry LOL. Hope ya'll good get th message though🙂