Can't figure out cancer man

I could really use some perspective on this cancer man I've been seeing. I can't figure him out. I'm a Libra. We have been talking for about three months, at first I wasn't really interested in him as anything more than friends, it was just friendly. After a month of talking every couple days we started sexting a bit, but still talking as friends as well. Finally we ended up hanging out about a month ago and we slept together. The sex was unbelievable, so much passion. When I offered to make him dinner the next week he said he would like that and then ignored me all week. When I finally confronted him for ignoring me, he said we should just be friends and he didn't want to hurt me, which even though I didn't understand I agreed was fine because I really care about him. Fast forward through the past month, we've hung out several more times which always starts out as friends and ends up as more. The more we spend time together the more we are connecting. But Im tired of feeling like the one pushing him to see me. I've stopped asking him how he feels and I'm just going with the flow because he always says he's unsure. But the libra in me wants some kind of communication that he wants this just as much as I do. He admitted to me that he felt there was something thre between us, but he didn't know what it was. He's also always dated women who were somewhat white trash, didn't really have their lives together, were in my opinion below him. I'm the opposite of that, I'm really confident, I work ft, make decent money, dress nice, workout, own another small business and very serious about mothering my kids. Am I too independent for him? I know that our signs see the world very differently, but i actually rather enjoy the way his mind works, his qualities are what I need in my life. I don't mind being patient, but I can't tell if he really likes me or not. Help!?
Sun 17??23' Libra
Moon 22??49' Aries
Mercury 17??13' Libra
Venus 18??09' Scorpio
Mars 03??39' Capricorn
Jupiter 05??44' Capricorn
Saturn 15??22' Scorpio
Uranus 10??42' Sagittarius
Neptune 28??54' Sagittarius
Pluto 01??23' Scorpio

Sun 12??28' Cancer
Moon 08??10' Aquarius
Mercury 06??54' Leo
Venus 28??04' Taurus
Mars 16??35' Cancer
Jupiter 15??38' Aquarius
Saturn 21??48' Scorpio
Uranus 14??53' Sagittarius
Neptune 01??56' Capricorn
Pluto 01??49' Scorpio

if you said he is use to dating women below him then he might be a coward who only feels like a man dating "dumb" women. If that is the case you don't want a man like that. Also where you messed up at is sleeping with him without a title. He is stringing you along and using you for sex. He just wanted to hunt and conquer you now he is bored and feels guilty so now you are his "friend".

any mix signals and uncertainity means he is not that interested or invested in you.

sorry but you got played.

Is the right thing to just ignore him going forward? Should I continue being his friend or cut him off completely?

I should also add there was a shift in our style of communication since the last time we hung out. He has gotten a lot more lovey, sending cute emojis and calling me cute names. Is this typical cancer behavior?

If you want a committed relationship with a man don't do "sexting" and don't have sex before you've got to know him and feel reassured that he's "in it to win it." Whether he likes you as a person is debatable. But he clearly doesn't love you because men who are in love with a woman don't act this way. You're either a straight up booty call or a FWB to tide him over b4 he meets a girl that, in his mind (not reality) is worth the chase. You need to cut this bait and swim. I'm not judging you for having sex or indulging in sexy texting. I'm just saying those behaviors won't get you the guy. It's like baking a cake. If you rush it, the cake will fall and there will be nothing left to eat. You're settling for soggy uncooked crumbs in the love department and it's up to you to decide you're worth more and to walk.

i could have written this post. ive now had nc with him for a month and i wont either. im a libra too and find that i need him to tell me what he wants but his silence is speaking volumes now. i think your guy is either seeing other women or is just really confused about his feelings.. leave him and see what happens 🙂

A man will always respect a woman who respect themselves and that includes leaving him alone when his is not giving you the time and attention you deserve. Too many men in this world to be stuck on one that is probably not that great but just the back and forth intensity of the game that you might be caught up in.

I wouldn't over analysis the lovey Dovey stuff that is just to keep you on his team. He probably sends other women the same thing. Give you enough attention to keep you hanging on then date other women and disappear on you for awhile. It is a cycle you have to stop early!

Even if you want to continue I suggest you start dating other men since their is no title of being a couple that "what if" is not enough because it isn't what is at the moment.

Yeah something ain't right with that picture.

Thanks all, I really appreciate your input. He says he doesn't want a relationship with me, and then he will say how much he loves everything about me and admits we have a connection. I think I do need to go NC on him and see what happens. He is so emotionally unavailable and easily turns off our connection whenever he wants to. I've never met anyone who controlled things that way. I've made myself too available to him.

it's never too late to stop the mix signals. A man that is emotionally unavaliable is impossible to attain you will be jumping hoops just for a crum of his affection. He also sounds like a control freak so there is hidden psychological problem that might be going on with him on why he choose to close his heart off from women and like to control their emotional strings. You don't need that leave him deal with his own issues.

If you choose to cut him loose let it be because you realize your self worth not to see if he will chase you. Of course he will if you disappear on him and he will do enough only to put you back in that position as just being a booty call and friend when he wants something. This is only a lesson not to be too available for a guy who doesn't want a relationship with you. Also, to run from men who displays the same behavior. It will open your eyes to red flags seperating the boys from the gentlemen.

goodluck libra lady andI wish the very best for you 🙂

Thanks octoberbaby, you give the best advice!!! 🙂

So in the day or so since I stopped initiating contact with cancer man, he has begun initiating contact. Sending me cute pictures and stuff. He came over today to get something from my house and without asking me he shoveled my walkway and my sidewalk and stairs. I've never had a friend let alone a man do that kind of thing for me. He talked to my kids and was being silly with them and then he made plans with me to go to the museum next week with all our kids. He also had dinner ready for me last week when I came to his house. What's up with that? Is this what cancers do for all their friends? He hugged me goodbye and it felt so awkward considering we've already slept together several times.

You got friendzoned

Yes I was definitely friend zoned, but then why is he still talking to me everyday, and sending me flirty texts messages? I don't do that with my friends. Do cancer guys ever change their minds after they "friend zone" someone?