Controlling emotions?

How do you other crabs control your emotions? I am having a really hard time getting a grip of my emotions/feelings

I had an encounter with my ex recently and it all got too much for me. I told him I still had feelings for him, and I cried and I asked him what he felt for me.. and I may have told him he was the one for me :/
I was drunk at the time, but I just lost control.. after 3 years of holding it all in, I just exploded.

Anyway,I feel like this episode could have been avoided if I could just get a grip of myself. I know I think wiht my emotions more than my head... infact I didn't use my head at all there. How do I do that? I hate my feelings, and I dont' want to act upon them. I want to learn to use my head but my emotions are just clouding all judgement

I'm a cancer and I have a problem with not holding it in. I tend to say everything so that I don't hurt myself in the process and that I don't have regrets. What prevented you from telling him when you broke up?

Posted by Ssasy
I'm a cancer and I have a problem with not holding it in. I tend to say everything so that I don't hurt myself in the process and that I don't have regrets. What prevented you from telling him when you broke up?

Oh I did tell him but that was 3 years ago.. We saw eachother again recently and I got drunk and told him how I feel and now I feel terrible about it

Oh ok. Font feel terrible, feelings are not controllable. You said what you felt and now it's done. Don't feel bad.

Posted by MissGemmi
Don't torture yourself on it. It's who you are. I wish my Cancer would lose herself and told me she had feelings for me and I was the one for her. Aquarius (right?) don't deal with emotions very well, it makes them uncomfortable. Probably he triggered something in you that made you use your emotions. That will clash further in the relationship. Be yourself.

Yeah hes an aquarius, and its like he doesn't have any emotion. He just uses his head, he uses logic, he doesn't let his feelings get in the way... and I just think with my emotion. Its terrible! I wish I could be like him, I wish I could switch my feelings off

Controlling these kinds of emotions isn't easy for any sign but I think it's especially hard for Cancers because we have a hard time letting go. Feeling/being rejected is one of the most unpleasant feelings out there. It touches upon our self-esteem and it hurts, no matter how well we handle that moment of disappointment. With age and experience, I've learned better how to weed out the men who aren't serious and know those hurt feelings will pass in time because I've been thru that moment before. We all get disappointed in the name of love. The silver lining here, and I know it won't feel like it now, is that you are now free to meet a man who will be a better match for you. Do not let this disappointment define who you are. Go inside and learn what you need to learn for the future in terms of how you could have handled things better. But sometimes, more often than not, things just don't work out. Have faith that this pain will pass, that you will grow in wisdom from this experience and that one day you will meet your match and experience the love you seek.

Posted by Este8
Controlling these kinds of emotions isn't easy for any sign but I think it's especially hard for Cancers because we have a hard time letting go. Feeling/being rejected is one of the most unpleasant feelings out there. It touches upon our self-esteem and it hurts, no matter how well we handle that moment of disappointment. With age and experience, I've learned better how to weed out the men who aren't serious and know those hurt feelings will pass in time because I've been thru that moment before. We all get disappointed in the name of love. The silver lining here, and I know it won't feel like it now, is that you are now free to meet a man who will be a better match for you. Do not let this disappointment define who you are. Go inside and learn what you need to learn for the future in terms of how you could have handled things better. But sometimes, more often than not, things just don't work out. Have faith that this pain will pass, that you will grow in wisdom from this experience and that one day you will meet your match and experience the love you seek.

Thank you, you have made me feel better. I do have a very hard time letting go, and I can't see myself letting him go any time soon.... especially letting go of the hope he will come back. But I do have faith that the pain will get better with time.
I think what hurts most is that at first it was so amazing, it was almost as if he wanted to be with me again... but as soon as I showed my emotion he did a complete 180

I am a Cancerian and have recently started a friendship/potential love interest with an Aquarian man, and god they are hard work!!! I think us cancers secretly love the challenge though, i know myself can't stand a man who is too mushy... Anyways recently he did get to me and i didn't know what to do? So went over to the Aquarius section of this site for advice and were very helpful indeed, i took a step back and assessed the situation then approached him in a different way, and it worked! I do really have a problem when I'm drunk, our emotions work overtime! I you do really love this guy then give him a bit of time and space, also think about what you would really like to say to him and make sure you're not drunk this time 😉 and try hold back the emotions hunny x

Posted by cancerrose
How do you other crabs control your emotions? I am having a really hard time getting a grip of my emotions/feelings

I had an encounter with my ex recently and it all got too much for me. I told him I still had feelings for him, and I cried and I asked him what he felt for me.. and I may have told him he was the one for me :/
I was drunk at the time, but I just lost control.. after 3 years of holding it all in, I just exploded.

Anyway,I feel like this episode could have been avoided if I could just get a grip of myself. I know I think wiht my emotions more than my head... infact I didn't use my head at all there. How do I do that? I hate my feelings, and I dont' want to act upon them. I want to learn to use my head but my emotions are just clouding all judgement

We are emotional people, you will learn control through expression.
Express those emotions, eventually you will learn to speak eloquently through practice.
If you feel it's too much to handle then redirect them.
I find doing something that expresses my intensity very helpful.
Like creating a work of art. Writing poetry, exercise, walking by the river/lake, etc.

This is why you had to get drunk to let it go, because you tried to hide who you are.
Be yourself, expressive and emotional. If this bothers him he is not your match.

Furthermore, it is very important that highly emotional people find a mate who appreciates and understands this nature.
Often time, this will not be an air sign, unless they are looking for an emotional partner.

Posted by TheBlisster
I am a Cancerian and have recently started a friendship/potential love interest with an Aquarian man, and god they are hard work!!! I think us cancers secretly love the challenge though, i know myself can't stand a man who is too mushy... Anyways recently he did get to me and i didn't know what to do? So went over to the Aquarius section of this site for advice and were very helpful indeed, i took a step back and assessed the situation then approached him in a different way, and it worked! I do really have a problem when I'm drunk, our emotions work overtime! I you do really love this guy then give him a bit of time and space, also think about what you would really like to say to him and make sure you're not drunk this time 😉 and try hold back the emotions hunny x

Cancers love mystery and romance. We love to unwrap a gift and find a prize.
The mistake that many Cancers make with Aquas is that we love their aloof exterior because we think there is something deeper under those still waters and we seek to touch and experience it.
We want the passionate sexy creature underneath the cool exterior. But we find yet more aloofness down to the core and a bossy person who wants to change you. They're here one minute and gone the next, they just slip through our fingers. We want to possess them while they want to be with their friends; that's if they consider you just a friend. There isn't going to be any emotional, passionate love making that lasts until dawn. That's if you have sex at all. SMH

Posted by MissGemmi
Yes LunarMaiden. Exactly. Emotionally they are a bit superficial. Not that they don't know emotions, but they just can't deal with heavy emotional outbursts. This can trigger a Cancer and might think, that there must be something to learn from them as they have a totally different outlook on emotions. I don't know. It can work between Cancer and Aqua (honestly, in most cases, I think it all depends whether Cancer wants to remain in touch), but for both, in a romantic relationship it can become exhausting.

Aquas make great friends. They have tons and tons of friends, acquaintances, they can be very curious about who you are and want to find out all about you. Hard feelings are almost non-existent with Aquas. Somehow most Aquas I know are involved with watersigns, either Cancer or Pisces. I talk with one Aqua friend once a year, she usually stays for a weekend. I never know what to say to her, because eventhough I'm a Gemini I don't find topics to talk to her about, but I find it sweet of her that she checks up on me and remains loyal. She travels a long way to spend time with me, but as an Aqua they have many other friends they would do the same for. It really doesn't make me feel special.

Yes there are a lot of air/water couples.
It's not easy but it can work.
And work is what you will do.

I have an Aqua friend, it hasn't been a easy relationship but we do learn from each other.

Posted by MissGemmi
It is hard work. I'm already working hard, but I'm getting tired being pushed away. Giving up at this point.

Somehow most airsigns I know are involved with watersigns, especially Cancer, but most Cancers I know are not involved with airsigns 🙂

What is the attraction to water signs that air signs have?
Who are Cancers involved with?