Do I give up ?

This is long. I'm Aquarius male, broken up with my Cancer girl of 3 years . I'm 46, her 44. I cheated but she stay with me for months afterwards. We had been broken up 2 months and she reached out twice to me( she is dating new guy) . We slept together but no sex . A few months later we spoke again. I have since turn my life around , lost 22 lbs and have given myself to God ( born again) it was 4 months post breakup and we talked again. She sent me a video of a song that pretty much says she still loves me . The last time I saw her she told me she still loves me . The following Friday we talked on the phone and said she can't talk to me because to hurts so much and needs time to herself and see how this relationship goes. I ask her to tell me I never will have a chance and she couldn't say it . Is it worth waiting for her or should I
Move on? On a side note, she told
Me that her new guy is very jealous and possessive , Do cancer woman like that? I was never that way to her, she could do whatever she wanted . I was scared of commitment but not anymore , I told her I wanted to be a family and provide and support her and her kids . Sorry so long. Any help/advice is greatly appreciated. I was over her til she drug me back in, I'm willing to wait but seems kind of foolish to do so , thanks for looking :-)

I was like "aww" while reading your post. I'd hang in there (non-cancer advice but I'm such a sucker for romantic situations)

Thanks Bloobaz, that made me feel good . I'm such a dope , why is it we have to lose someone before we
Realized that's
Who he wants :-/

It was never about the grass being greener on the other side. I never made my #1 priority . I took the the relationship for granted . I broke her trust. I spent a lot of time fixing myself and making me a better man. Even if she don't come back , I am in a better place now, but having her back will make me whole again , I truly believe that. I wish she could see inside me and know how try that is . I'm not gonna reach out to her , but in doing so, I don't think she will ever reach out to me 😢

You cheated!
Game over, get lost.

Wow, very insightful Lunar, thanks

Well, it did work out , but she wanted the commitment and Inwas afraid at the time. She once told me that I needed to make changes in my life . Not putting my friends before her. Again, I didn't make her my priority .I have a complete turn around and new outlook on life. She even commented that she didn't think I could ever change and she was having second thoughts . I've read about how once you break the trust with cancers , your done. I didn't reach out to her when we broke it off, she did, she came to see me even when saying another man, then tell
Me that the guy is pushing to move in and she don't want that . Who knows , maybe she just said that stuff, I didn't push her for more info. I have no desires to date anyone else, I just want to prove that I can be the man she wants . I can only control what I do, I'm not giving up hope, but she has to take that leap of faith and not sure if she will

I don't think we can always rationally think the matters of the heart.

You cheated, yes, it was dead wrong (biggest deal breaker) but obviously she still didn't let go and stuck around and far as you're telling us, you sound pretty sincere in your desire of being with her.

On a side note, non related to zodiac signs, waiting for someone you truly and GENUINELY love is up to you to decide. It's a hard quest and only YOU can decide if she's all worth it or not. Don't mistake lust for love. She will never see you again after you cheated, believe me. That sticks in your mind (referring to the one who has been deceived) and earning that person's full trust after a blow like this is hard, no matter what sign she might be . If all you say is real, you should be able and willing to do whatever it takes to make it and KEEP IT.

Just my two cents.

I don't want to give you false hopes, but my ex best friend cancer, "forgave" her husband after cheating on her, i went through the whole pull and push thing with her while they where separated, it was rough and nasty, but he manage to get her back... during a time she I could tell was very insecure (she never admitted it) about him and his "doings" and while she put a front of strength to the world (except me) I could tell she was struggling, I don't know what he did exactly (and I wish I knew haha) to convince her, but they are been back since then, I know the first six months where tough (lots of arguing) but they made it through... I've not seen her since she and I fallen out (curiously enough since she reestablish cordial relationship with her husband)... but what happen to us I've hope has nothing to do with him... I don't love the guy but I don't hate him either people makes mistakes.... I try to see that as a learning experience for me, but if that ever happens I don't know if I would've be able to handle it that "well" as she did.

Yeah she tried the whole rebound guy thing while they where separated....

I've seen a couple social media tags with both of them traveling together they seem happy... as unforgiving as cancer could be, there might be some hope for some... All I know he was very very persistent to the point of annoyance but it works... the fact she still having some sort of communication with you it might be a good sign... at least is better than MIA... even if she doesn't talk to me know, I've loved her very much and knowing she was able to find a happy ending for that particular situation, it makes me happy for her... as for how things are going now... IDK but I hope good!

Thanks for the last 2 responses. Every relationship between a man and woman is unique and different regardless of signs. Yes, I thought it was because I was lonely and hair wanted her back, but that is not the case. I truly want to her in my life and make up for my wrongdoings. As I told her , I will wait but continue to live my life, as a good Christian . I know at some point , I will reach out to her, and I will accept it if she has truly move on. I honestly be better off if she would have just told me " I don't love you and you will
Never have a chance with me again" but she wouldnt do it

Posted by BlackMamba
She'll always be suspicious. its better to move on.

Agreed wholeheartedly.

I hope her new guy treat her better than you did.

I hope so too , I don't wish her anything bad, I want her to be happy with or without me. Like I said , all relationships are unique In their own way. You don't know the full story and are entitled to your opinion, thanks for sharing

The realationship wasn't fake, I do love her, but I took advantage of her. We lived about 20 min apart and saw each other pretty much everyday. She gave me her all and I did not. The funny thing , she wanted the commitment from me but she still has not finalized her divorce ( been seperated for 4 years ) when I would bring that up, she said that Soukdnt matter, I thought it did but it wasn't that big of a deal. It's me cheating and losing her trust that sent her away. I was just hoping for insight from other Cancer woman. I got some good responses along with smart ass remarks which I expected . Anyhow , thank you for those who took the time to respond, good or bad, I really do appreciate as I try to move pass this. I have learned some hard life lessons that I can use if she ever comes back or in my next relationship

Posted by LunarMaiden
You cheated!
Game over, get lost.

Yep!

As a cancer woman, I personally love a possessive partner, shows they care.

Posted by lostinDallas
It's me cheating and losing her trust that sent her away. I was just hoping for insight from other Cancer woman.

Why did you cheat? Was it a colleague, one night stand, an old friend, an itch to scratch. The intent matters

It can be about the betrayal and lack of trust but a part of it is a woman feeling inadequate. Like giving you their all wasn't enough. Cancers go big in love

It was an itch with a stranger , I was not looking for another relationship 😢. Either way, it's out of my hands now. I'm actually a little more at piece with all the responses I've gotten. In going to focus on myself and my son and if it's a meant to be, I'll be up to the challenge to make her the happiest woman ever :-)

Posted by lostinDallas
It was an itch with a stranger , I was not looking for another relationship 😢. Either way, it's out of my hands now. I'm actually a little more at piece with all the responses I've gotten. In going to focus on myself and my son and if it's a meant to be, I'll be up to the challenge to make her the happiest woman ever :-)

well sincerity goes a long way. you never know

You cheated, it's done. Why do feel you deserve a second chance? What redeeming qualities do you have to offer to her, especially now that she's moved on. The nerve of these cheating men.

Better to keep your distance and not reach out.
I got out of a long distance type of thing with a cancer, and boy oh boy that question you asked her about if you two had a future...you will never get an answer to that.

I've been through this headache already. Me being an Aquarius myself, bro I totallly know what your going through, especially that "she would make me feel whole again" thing, I had that same feeling. It's going to take a whileeee for you to move on from her, shid..I still think about my cancer even though she's fully moved on from me, she started talking to another guy and fell in love with him in no time, only to go thru heartbreak with him after a month or two, about 5 days ago.

Keep your distance, that's the best advice...if she wants to give you another chance or be with you, she'll reach out.

Posted by Ktayl117

Posted by lostinDallas
The realationship wasn't fake, I do love her, but I took advantage of her. We lived about 20 min apart and saw each other pretty much everyday. She gave me her all and I did not. The funny thing , she wanted the commitment from me but she still has not finalized her divorce ( been seperated for 4 years ) when I would bring that up, she said that Soukdnt matter, I thought it did but it wasn't that big of a deal. It's me cheating and losing her trust that sent her away. I was just hoping for insight from other Cancer woman. I got some good responses along with smart ass remarks which I expected . Anyhow , thank you for those who took the time to respond, good or bad, I really do appreciate as I try to move pass this. I have learned some hard life lessons that I can use if she ever comes back or in my next relationship

Hang in there. I definitely think you need to REALLY try and make it up to her. Cancer women are usually very prone to forgiveness if they still love you. My ex did a lot of terrible shit to me but I always took him back. Still, learn from it or eventually it won't work out.

click to expand

Thanks for the post. I expected to hear some negative comments about me cheating. I understand what I did and accept the consequences of my actions, doesn't mean I have to like it :-). A lot of the things she did post breakup is classic Cancer traits and she told me
She never looks back but I intrigued because of the
Changes I've made. She told
Me the last time I saw her ( 10 days Ago) that she thinks about me
Constantly , even when she is with the other guy. She said she needs to figure stuff out. For what I did to this beautiful lady, how can I not respect her decision? Maybe it make me look like a p whipped man but I honestly don't care , I'll live my life and hope to see her again. I'll will at some point , see her again, (make it look like an an accidental running into each other ) she told me
That was her weakness, she doesn't want to see because if she does, ahe said she might fall
For me, I'm
Hoping the time away can heal some wounds. But at the same time , she just might be in a new relationship with the guy she is with. Who knows , only time can tell.