Drunk texting is dangerous - opinions please?

So there's a cancer guy that I have been basically jsut being frustrated by for the past year. He'll invite me out, act interested, then something will happen (drama, or a make -out, or just anything) and i won't hear from him for a month then it starts up again - like a cycle.

So he invites me out friday night. I was busy though. so I invite him out saturday night, to which he doesn't respond.
I later find out it was bc this coworker he works with who cried the last time we hung out bc he was ignoring her and talking to me was goign to be out with him at a work party. (i've noticed cancers HATE it when people are mad at them).

Anyway, so saturday night at the bar later on, I texted him asking him where he was and to come to the bar. Since he didn't respond in all of 15 minutes or so, i send him another text in which I basically told him off, said that that coworker of his is a c***blocker, said he's an idiot and to have a nice life. I know this was ridiculous but I think it was just built up frustration.

Next day I apologized for the outrageouse texts and said not to worry cuz I'm deleting his number so he won't get anymore from me(I figured he'd probably WANT me to delete it! haha). He then said "how was it my fault that I was asleep when you texted me? (LIE) I never made plans with you so I don't understand why u r so upset. I'm sorry you feel that way".

So i just said i wasnt mad and just drunk texting. and that it won't happen anymore.

Why can't cancers just be direct?!?!?! with whatever it is they want? it's so frustrating!!!

I'm a Pisces and I know EXACTLY what you mean about the frustrating non-direct ways of Cancer. My boyfriend will text me and be like "what are you doing for dinner?" I'll be like "Nothing, want me to come over" and the response is always something like "Well, do you want to?"

Aurgh... of course I want to... why can't you just say "Yeah, that would be great?!"

And it's like this for everything to do with plans, decisions... Grrr... I thought Cancers were supposed to be the ones who wear the pants in a Cancer/Pisces relationship!

True that. Sheeeeet..

er, i dunno. a cancer boy that is currently interested in me is pretty direct with me. he's initiated contact and has asked me out a couple of times already. seems pretty adamant about meeting up. he has a lotta confidence. he calls me out all the time. i like it! he has cancer sun and moon but he has a lotta fire in his chart. he's actually equal parts water and fire (all his fire is in leo too and i am a leo). maybe they cancel each other out? heh. he's never really pulled the "hiding in his shell" bit. the only thing that is weird is that he'll make a lotta eye contact with me, or stare at me, when we're out (so i have to say "hi" first). he also talks me up to ppl i don't even know. when i end up finding out he looks away from me and gets shy.

the situation ur explaining above is what a cap man did to me for a couple of years. maybe it could be a male thing and not so much a sign thing? it's a passive-aggressive way of keeping the upper hand and stringing u along. he likes u but he's not sure just how much he likes u. he gives u a taste, u take the bait, he reels u in, then throws u back in the water for another go. vicious cycle. kinda cruel but i don't think some of them know they're doing it.

[[[[[[[ My boyfriend will text me and be like "what are you doing for dinner?" I'll be like "Nothing, want me to come over" and the response is always something like "Well, do you want to? ]]]]]]

Ain't the truth. My Cancer's similar....

Him: "Hi sweetie, it's a beautiful day I'm just outside having a drink. Hope you're having a good day xoxo"

Me: "Day's great, thanks. I finish work early today so are you doing anything later?"

(NO REPLY for effing 20 mins)

Me: "Since you're out already, do you want to meet up?"

and like 5 secs later, he texted back like "Oh yeah baby xoxo".

He knew he wanted to meet up already but still wanted me to do all the work. Drove me NUTS.

I cant be ar $ $ ed asking to meet up these days as he blew me 3 weeks in a row already.

Cancer men, I really love them when you're actually spending time with them. When you're together it's surreal, the connection and all that sheeeit but when you're not, whole different story.

"I later find out it was bc this coworker he works with who cried the last time we hung out bc he was ignoring her and talking to me was goign to be out with him at a work party."

- You sure that he's not dating his coworker on the sly because that's what it sounds like. Personally it sounds like he's on bullshit.

Hey guys,
wow........this is my first Cancer and Im an Aries.......I thought this stare you down sh##tt was very unusual.......but apparently many cancer men do it, huh? Mine does........looks very deep into my eyes when talking....or always says look at me when your talking to me baby..........I try to ignore it.but actually it really turns me on.........whats with these men? I normally have the answers since im a very aggressive Aries woman.....however with this cancer man I dont.......