First Misunderstanding with cancer man, is he still holding a grudge?

We had a bit of misunderstanding right before our last date. I thought he was going to organize ticket for an event, but he thought I wasn't interested in going. Tone got lost within text and he ended up saying he sensed the disappointment in my tone and he offered a rain check to see each other on a different date, he said he is not playing games he is just aiming for harmony and he signed off with a kiss. I replied I'm still happy to go out if he still is. No respond so 10 minutes later I rang him.

When I rang him he answered happily and I asked him what is happening? why cancelling on me? he said he is not cancelling he thought I was disappointed in him that's why he offered a raincheck. I told him I can't understand this, if he really believes he has disappointed me cancelling on me is furthering the disappointment? He said that's not what he meant. He then came and pick me up and we went to dinner. He apologized again and said he is very glad I phone him, he also apologized for didn't call.

I asked him to phone me if there is misunderstanding next time, as text wasn't doing us any justice.

When we had dinner we laughed so much and everyone around us just kept looking our way and smiling at us. I felt really comfortable and happy around him. He said to me I think you are a really sweet girl, you place high value in sex and will only do it with trust. He said he likes that. I didn't know what to respond. He asked if he made me feel shy.

Later on we cuddled and talked, he told me he already lost track of how many times we saw each other (6 dates) He made fun of me and said in a few months time I will be telling him this is the 50 times we saw each other, I said we only see each other once a week 50 times is not possible. He goes once a week only works at the beginnign later on I like to see you more than this. He also told me I will meet his roomate soon (he is moving )

He already let me know how busy he is this week, I said I guess I won't see you then? he goes may be I will try to organize things better so I can come and tickle you.

I love how sweet he is as he still hasn't pushed for sex, haven't heard from him for 2 days so I texted him something but no reply... I know he is genuinely busy just hoping the misunderstanding didn't have impact on it...

@arielle83

You communicate fairly well and enjoy each others company, he isn't pushing you for sex and respects your views on it, hope it all works out for you, don't worry if he doesn't always reply, he knows you have contacted him, so he also knows you're still interested, he probably just prefers face to face communication after your little mix up before, just chill and do your own thing, I hope it all works out for you Š x

Posted by piscespoppy
You communicate fairly well and enjoy each others company, he isn't pushing you for sex and respects your views on it, hope it all works out for you, don't worry if he doesn't always reply, he knows you have contacted him, so he also knows you're still interested, he probably just prefers face to face communication after your little mix up before, just chill and do your own thing, I hope it all works out for you Š x

Thank you sweet lady, he replied and yes I think we both agreed on the other day that face to face or phone is better.

It's good that he respect my view and I think he has similar view as well, he said he needs the emoitnal bond to do it.

Been almost 2 months, 6 dates he's never been to my place. He never invited himself and I also enjoys just cuddle and talk at a nice bar or in his car. hehe

Texting isn't really good to actually get to know each other, I see it as more of a communication tool less intrusive than calling someone, for people you already know.
If you want to talk to him call him in the evening just to ask how he is and 'catch up' .
Sorry I just read through your post a bit more thoroughly, I'm not quite awake, had a late night Š

Posted by piscespoppy
Texting isn't really good to actually get to know each other, I see it as more of a communication tool less intrusive than calling someone, for people you already know.
If you want to talk to him call him in the evening just to ask how he is and 'catch up' .
Sorry I just read through your post a bit more thoroughly, I'm not quite awake, had a late night Š

I typed quite a long, it's hard to read through let alone in the morning haha

call is better I will respond and let him call me at some point, as I already told him to call me when I saw him the other day. I told him if I keep calling you everytime I will feel like I'm chasing you. I like to let you do some calling too. He responded positively.

If he has fixed signs yeah he will hope grudges.

Haven't you heard of cancer men hold grudges better than women do?

Posted by Arielle83
I don't see anything wrong.

He didn't feel your enthusiasm for something so wanted to make it a better time for both of you.

He wants the energy to be perfect.

Phone is better than text.

Interesting... didn't know he is such a perfectionist. Glad I called him to let him know I'm always happy to see him.

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Posted by Arielle83
I don't see anything wrong.

He didn't feel your enthusiasm for something so wanted to make it a better time for both of you.

He wants the energy to be perfect.

Phone is better than text.

Interesting... didn't know he is such a perfectionist. Glad I called him to let him know I'm always happy to see him.

Well if a cancer absorbs moods and energy, they don't want to be around someone who they think isn't on their level.

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Lucky I phoned him and we just got each other knowing no games were there as soon as we heard each other's voice.

Did I get what you said right? Cancer doesn't want to hang around someone angry / pessimistic as it influence their own mood?

I love it when we spend time together, we always laugh so much, so much that people around us would look at us and smile to us.

Just out of curiosity, how sensitive are you? say if you send me xx and I text back x. Will that bother you?

Posted by Arielle83
Maybe In early stages because I'm a girl and everything means something in the beginning.

But I'm not into the x thing.

Neither am I, just wonder if he is. I onl yjust notice he did xx for the first time. but I replied x after I sent it.

He is VERY sensitive.