from the mouth of a cancer, what is clingy?

How do you define clingy, the term that's used to describe many a Cancer?

Do you acknowledge this, ignore this, deny this, embrace this part of yourself?

Posted by phEnyxBull876
How do you define clingy, the term that's used to describe many a Cancer?

Do you acknowledge this, ignore this, deny this, embrace this part of yourself?

Can't speak for all, but I ignore it.

I find it repulsive and rely heavily on all the air in my chart to detach.
As a young girl and teenager I was very clingy and after a co dependent relationship with another Cancer I learned how much better it feels NOT to be like that.

I think it's part bullshit, and part misinterpreting. Only insecure people are truly clingy, can't allow another person space, have to know everything they do at all times, become annoyed if this isn't given to them.

From my own perspective, I like to keep in touch with those I care about, make sure they're ok, because I'm a nurturer, but I also can give, and want some space. I don't have to be up someone's butt all the time.

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Posted by phEnyxBull876
How do you define clingy, the term that's used to describe many a Cancer?

Do you acknowledge this, ignore this, deny this, embrace this part of yourself?

Can't speak for all, but I ignore it.

😕 ignore it ? Does that cause a lot of frustration for you?

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Nope. Because it's bullbutter unless you have an immature individual, and that isn't sign dependent.

No clinginess for me I need space I can spend hours on my own. If I don't get some space I get really crabby. I need time to zone out. All my jobs I have had I work on my own.

I also think it means maintining a certain level of closeness with your partner, and when that level begins to deplete, reaching in deeper to compensate, but usually with opposite reaction than expected. Borderline, or precursor to, smothering?

my cancer ex bf did not seem clingy.. coming to think about it, there was a strange pattern with him.. whenever I were out having fun with friends or family, he'd become extremely ticky when we talk afterwards and even defensive. One time, he wanted me to ditch my friend in the middle of our time to meet him "just because he was travelling for a couple of days with his friends n came back wanting to see so much? as he claimed.." it was a big argument that we almost broke up!

I'm probably more independent than most people I know. As a child, I moved a lot and became a pretty reserved Cancer as an adult. I think Cancers tend to be a bit mistrusting of new people in the beginning but then we let our guard down and open up. Definitely not clingy here and I do the "avoidy" thing with friends who get too clingy. This means 9 times out of 10, I'm getting tired of hearing the same ole relationship problems or analyzing the break up that happened months ago over and over again. I figure that's what voice mail is for cuz I can't hear the same damned story another time.

I think most cancers don't view themselves as clingy, and I think most cancers actually are not clingy. I think the world views them as clingy or uses the term clingy. I think, once in love and has reached the point passed vulnerability and into acceptance (and their partner has given the green light) I think cancers are just transparent in all of their thoughts, emotions, motives etc and the world will call this trait "clingy" or "over emotional" or whatever. Really, they are just being real about what's on the inside and don't hide it from the public or try to downplay it. They embrace their emotions and let others embrace it to (and embrace others' emotions). I find most people are uncomfortable with this because it makes them...well...feel.

Now, clingy as in...codependent? Cancers can be this way too. When in that blind love stuff. And they can get stuck in that cycle until a major life change brings them out of it. But for the most part, cancers have a lot of emotional bearings and control and independence so they can usually sustain themselves (even through the most toughest or happiest times).

Posted by TxOgal
my cancer ex bf did not seem clingy.. coming to think about it, there was a strange pattern with him.. whenever I were out having fun with friends or family, he'd become extremely ticky when we talk afterwards and even defensive. One time, he wanted me to ditch my friend in the middle of our time to meet him "just because he was travelling for a couple of days with his friends n came back wanting to see so much? as he claimed.." it was a big argument that we almost broke up!

He didn't want to come off as clingy so he just settled for contrary.

I wish I was clingy.
I definitely need a clingy man.

We're Clingons! 😆

Posted by aurora
a cancer is a bit childlike so most of us when we like something we want it to have it around all the time, like a kid with their favorite toy, bff... we like to actively love you, to show it all the time and make you feel safe. people are usually not that open so we want to give you that experience.

what happens next depends on the how much are we evolved. if we have certain expectations, then we become dependent on the emotional exchange. we give only to be given. that never turns out well, not for us not for the other person. at that point our clinginess is everything but fun.
if we give just for the sake of giving nothing can really go wrong. imo cancers are actually loners so the second scenario fits us the best. we rule the emotions so it's our lesson to learn it first, and to teach others.

Love this

Posted by xMoonMan

Lol oh so true

Hm I have cancer rising, and Aquarius moon. Hm I am not clingy. But my Taurus sun sign and Venus in Taurus side is alot more. I just have a balance when to use that to my advantages. Or disadvantages in the dating society.

But I do cling to material things very fast. If the objects are pleasantly colorful, if the smell is Devine, if the material is smooth and silky, if the music is classical, and if the food is perfectly seasoned. Ugly things I don't cling to is drama, dull things that are sediment.

I cling to memories the most, I cling to family, I cling to anything I consider special. But I can also stay 2days without talking to my bf. I need my space too. I think what I cling to most would be comfort and money. People can be replaced, I only cling to who wants to stay.