He disappeared then came back like Nothing happen

I was having a regular conversation with my male friend and out of no where he says to me " you come off as VERY secretive ". You and I don't have a regular friendship and I don't understand why. He also stated how he notices he tries to have certain conversations with me and I don't want to. He stated he felt there was something underlying with me and the fact he couldn't pinpoint it he knows it's something .

Also after that convo we talked about our future ( not together but individual endeavors) and as him and I were talking I started to cry , then he got teary. He said " these are the kind of conversations that have people wondering why are we so close"

After he hung up I didn't hear from again till 5 DAYS LATER! Which is odd coming from someone whom I spoke to everyday , when he called me he didn't state his absence so neither did I ; however it is on my mind

By the way he's a Cancer/ Sag/ Gemini/ Gemini
That's his Sun/ Moon/ Rising/ Venus

What was sweet? The cry part lol

We have what I consider to be an unconventional friendship . I cried to him because I could here in his voice how passionate he was . I care about him and his wellbeing immensely as he has had a hard life .

Due to the bond him and I have secured I've grown to have feelings for him however I'm waiting to say so as I don't want to have unrequited feelings , also having ( venus conjunct saturn ) doesn't help. So answer your ? I don't know if him and I will start dating

I'm not a cancer either but I would worry about the secretive part it's just how they are. Sometimes it's not that they are hiding something it's that they are just private people. But the closer you get the more open and less secretive they are. Sometimes they are hiding something but most times it doesn't have anything to do with you. What I'm trying to say is they will hide stuff they think is none of your business but they will make sure your aware of stuff that is your business--immediately if it's important and eventually if it's not. I had to learn this one the hard way.

But it sound like you are special to him and I don't know enough to know if he has romantic feelings but he definately has feelings. But I thought my deep friendship with my cancer would eventually lead me somewhere and it never did. Probably because I fucked it all up but her baby daddy and her had a friendship first and they ended up together. But it does sound like you are potential gf or wife material to him. Just stay consistent and open and don't make him feel pushed.

-I wouldn't worry

Thinktoomuch : We are both in our twenties . He's a cancer and I am a pisces . I'm not too concern but he does overthink a lot and deciphers literally everything that I say . Not my assumption he's actually told me that . I'm just noticing he's put some distance between him and I

Starchild63: At first I was confused with what you were saying lol . I said to myself hey he was saying I was secretive NOT the other way around lol but I got your reasoning for posting such info.

I know for sure he cares about me .

It's so weird you said don't make him feel pushed! He always says he likes things to form organically , no pressure . So that would be the reason why I didn't say anything about his five day absence however it was notated in my mind

They really dont like being pressured that I know..and strong emotions do require a step back. I am a Pisces too with a cancer...maybe check in casually but expect nothing til he wants to return..

I'm 25 he will be 25 in July.


Yes I plan on keeping it that way .
I plan on not saying anything about it to him Thinktoomuch

Boxcarmirnta idk if you read my passage but he's already came back ( sort of) after five days he called me the conversation was like five minutes then I didn't hear from him the rest of the night or today yet.

And I know for sure he's very lighthearted , I should of knew better but at the heat of the moment I just got emotional

My fault I read it wrong but if that's how it is then he just wants openness but I think he knows he can't put pressure on you either and know you might just overall be a secretive person and is taking his emotions out of it so he can be normal with you instead of prying. He might feel like prying will run you away so he gives space. But you should say something about the 5 days. I think you hold things in to not seem desperate or like you care too much and he doesn't get the attention he wants or you to openly say things like the 5 days so maybe that's why he sees you as secretive. The easy fix is for both if you to learn how to be real with each other and say and do what you want without wondering or fearing about the if I do or say this then what next? I think he's saying he wants to hear and see from you more.

My bestfriend said I should say something and those were my precise words to respond " I don't want to see desperate " . Lucky last night we had a long convo NOT about this just about other things . We also spoke this morning and he said he wanted to speak to me before I went off to work . So things may be leading in the right direction. I also want to inform the forum he doesn't live near me but plans to in the next few months . So well see