Help..Confusing Crab

Im a Gemini, born on May 22nd and he is a Cancer born on July 14th. We met our Junior year of college last semester and SLOWLY but surely began to fall for each other. However, being separated accross the country for the entire summer we were not able to talk or hang out as before. Now, school is back and we are back to hanging out but this time it's on a "more than friends" level. Last week he kissed me for the first time while we were hanging out with his friends and we ended up spending the night together for the second time since last year. Nothing happened other than kissing, but we spent the entire night just talking, holding each other and just enjoying each other in a way we hadn't before. We're obviously into each other and he has displayed so many signs of a typical Cancer male when in...like. This week he has been acting a bit distant with me and it's driving me crazy. Is this normal behavior for male cancers? Also, would me bringing up the idea of exclusivity be too strong for him? We've known each other for a good while so even though he's shy and slow-natured I can talk to him about anything. I'm ready and sure that I want to be with him I still don't want to push him deeper into his shell if he's not ready yet...But if he's not ready or won't ever be I wouldn't want to waste my time so I feel like I should know what's on his mind.

Oh I so hear you! I'm in a (little bit) similar situation and it is not fun... I don't get cancer men either.

My thought is that when they really start to feel something and things are moving in a certain direction, they get spooked and need some me-time. I also think their philosophy is just to say/do nothing so they can't do anything wrong (which is not right...).

I can be wrong... cancer men, what do you think?

Posted by acrabbycrab12
OMG! that guy is born on the same day as me.

Hmmmm.
Do you act the same way when you like someone?

Posted by kimmy1986
Oh I so hear you! I'm in a (little bit) similar situation and it is not fun... I don't get cancer men either.

My thought is that when they really start to feel something and things are moving in a certain direction, they get spooked and need some me-time. I also think their philosophy is just to say/do nothing so they can't do anything wrong (which is not right...).

I can be wrong... cancer men, what do you think?

Yup, you are accurate in your description there. Cancer men (not all but a fair majority) are hopeless when it comes to making an outright proposal, you can't get rejected if you don't ask right 😉. Typical of the red blooded male that a cancer is....lol.

Posted by abstacT
Im a Gemini, born on May 22nd and he is a Cancer born on July 14th. We met our Junior year of college last semester and SLOWLY but surely began to fall for each other. However, being separated accross the country for the entire summer we were not able to talk or hang out as before. Now, school is back and we are back to hanging out but this time it's on a "more than friends" level. Last week he kissed me for the first time while we were hanging out with his friends and we ended up spending the night together for the second time since last year. Nothing happened other than kissing, but we spent the entire night just talking, holding each other and just enjoying each other in a way we hadn't before. We're obviously into each other and he has displayed so many signs of a typical Cancer male when in...like. This week he has been acting a bit distant with me and it's driving me crazy. Is this normal behavior for male cancers? Also, would me bringing up the idea of exclusivity be too strong for him? We've known each other for a good while so even though he's shy and slow-natured I can talk to him about anything. I'm ready and sure that I want to be with him I still don't want to push him deeper into his shell if he's not ready yet...But if he's not ready or won't ever be I wouldn't want to waste my time so I feel like I should know what's on his mind.

give it a couple of weeks and see what happens if he keeps hiding then move on. I don't think you are going to have the patience for this long drawn out game. Here is the thing about cancer men though, if they seriously want you and feel that you are slipping away then they will come for you. Let him come get you....be friendly but don't give him much more.

Posted by acrabbycrab12

Posted by abstacT

Posted by acrabbycrab12
OMG! that guy is born on the same day as me.

Hmmmm.
Do you act the same way when you like someone?

If your good looking and since your acting like a push over walking on egg shells worried about coming on to strong then I would take full advantage of you and have as much sex as possible with you, I wouldn't be able to respect you and if any relationship would happen I wouldn't be able to take it seriously.

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Woah.

There's a difference between being a push over and worrying about coming on too strong, you've confused the too. Push over I am not and will never be so anyone having "as much sex with me as possible"-without commitment first..would never ever happen. Thanks for your honesty though.

He's taking time to process his emotions. It's something we Cancers all do any time we run into a major emotional situation (like a new relationship).

Bringing up exclusivity probably wouldn't be too strong (at least in my book), but everyone is different; what HE wants from the relationship is something only he knows, and even then he probably doesn't know yet.

Calm down, take your time, and he'll come around. Just keep having fun and he'll be infected by your good humor! 🙂

Posted by acrabbycrab12

Posted by abstacT

Posted by acrabbycrab12
OMG! that guy is born on the same day as me.

Hmmmm.
Do you act the same way when you like someone?

If your good looking and since your acting like a push over walking on egg shells worried about coming on to strong then I would take full advantage of you and have as much sex as possible with you, I wouldn't be able to respect you and if any relationship would happen I wouldn't be able to take it seriously.

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Ya... I'm not getting into another little spat like with MoonMan, but that's... rough, to say the least. Pretty callous, downright abusive (you are LITERALLY abusing her in this hypothetical situation), and a bit arrogant to top it all off.

If you want me to explain HOW I came to this judgement, I have no problem explaining. Just PM me and we'll keep the drama from clogging up the boards.