hmm...question..

Hello to the oldies & newbies of dxp! =) I have recently started speaking to a cancer man. He stays up late on the phone with me with him aving work 2 hrs later(which speaks volumes)..conversation is great & stimulating...as far as who calls or texts who its pretty fair (no complaints) we have been speaking for about 2 weeks so far. I being a taurus/gemini female more so taurus likes to take things slow ..we've made a deal to get together this sunday..im a pretty steady person n my question for all the cancer people n only problem has been when he says he's gonna call he doesn't. Automatically I assume this is the hard to get/mind game only bc this is the 3rd time. I don't nag nor do I bring it up to him. However his behavior is scaring my security instict for anything with him leaving me to question if we should even proceed to hang out...I understand he is busy so am I but guts saying its being done on purpose...can anyone help me out here? Is this normal behavior for cancer men? I understand u guys are sensitive so am I. Moon in pisces mars in cancer, so how would I go about mentioning this?

If he is NOT calling you when he says he is going to CALL you, he is blantly letting YOU KNOW not to expect much from him. Cure-don't try reaching forward and let him do all the work. DON'T CALL HIM BACK. Put his ass on the back burner, have options and date men who will stay TRUE to their word. You are alreading accepting a pattern here and by not saying ANYTHING or stuffing your feelings down won't work.

You will NOT qualify yourself to a man who cannot be consistent with his words to you. Real WOMEN act consistentcy. Don't settle for NOTHING less.

Real WOMEN act consistentcy. I meant accept consistency.

Thank you, I appreciate it. However the only time i call is when he calls me & i call him back. I do not chase him or any man. I simply wanted advice on the cancer male mind...secretly without him knowing...so i figured i'd come here bc this is what we all do. As far as back burner..I don't play that game. I live my life and we haven't even met yet. So natrually i'm not waiting by the phone, since I was the one who made him wait to hang out....Thats all...

I didn't say YOU chase him. The problem is he CALLS you to keep you stringing along. He calls YOU to let you believe it is still hope with you and him. I personally WOULD not even CALL him back, if he didn't call me back when he said he was going to call. In his mind, he is probably thinking YOU are desperate because if you had better options, other men pursuing you, you wouldn't bother calling him back. Think about it? WHY WOULD YOU CALL A MAN BACK if he is not RELIABLE, DEPENDABLE with HIS words ON TIME. That is just letting HIM see what YOU are made up of inside. It is letting him see that YOU DON'T HAVE ANY STANDARDS with men and you will let this go as far as HE takes it ON HIS TERMS.

It is a test to see where your mentality is at, I don't PLAY STRINGING ALONG games either and I guess you can't tell when a man states he will call you back and he doesn't, you are just being strung along with a vision of some hope. I just wouldn't EVEN think about his mind, what he is thinking what he is doing, I wouldn't KEEP giving him chances to play me like a toy.

THIS TESTS LETS him KNOW you don't have BETTER options than what he is offering you.

Once again appreciate the honest advice. However i felt like calling it quits today before hanging out anyway. Was simple..sweet but to the point, He on he other hand kept trying to explain it wasn't games & didn't want me to get off the phone. Not going to hang out with someone who already i don't feel there is security or trying to woo me LOL. Anyway my next question is....Am i going to have to change my number or anything with cancer guys? bc after dealing with a nutcase scorpio i'm prepared if i must lol.

No, i don't think you will have to change your number with him.

You will know he was stringing you along when HE QUITS calling you period. He will NOT LIKE THE FACT that he doesn't have POWER over you and quit calling you. He will TELL you he wasn't PLAYING GAMES to keep you on that string however, as stressed above-WHY WOULD YOU CALL HIM BACK?

I just personally feel, it is a waste of your time and energy to CALL a man who is NOT being RELIABLE, DEPENDABLE or STABLE with you UPFRONT! ALl you are doing is setting up a pattern with him that will BE HARD to stop. Let him go on and PLACE HIM IN TIME OUT! That is what I mean by putting him on the back burner. YOU DON'T HAVE TIME OR ROOM IN YOUR LIFE TO BE TOYED.

Oh, PS!


You did GOOD not mentioning to him that you noticed he wasn't calling you when he stated he was going to call. I wouldn't EVEN mention that to him, I WOULD just NEXT him with my actions. No more talk, HE BLEW IT.

My suggestion is stop hanging on the phone 2 hours with any man that is NOT YOURS, you are telling him he's the ONLY man in the game and then he begins to feel this unspoken pressure to move forward, his way of NOT moving forward is to stall you out and not call you, it's a passive aggressive approach men use to back pedal with a woman he's not sure about. If he's not calling you when he says he is then he's telling you with his actions that he is not READY to be the dependable reliable boyfriend that you want or need him to be....

He is just dating you and his not calling when he says he will is his way of keeping you at a safe distance, his way of dating you instead of moving into a real potential relationship all that 2 hour talking is MOVING TOO FAST whether you know it or not so now he wants to slow you down and his way of doing that is by throwing you off balance by not calling which kills any REALITY and POTENTIAL of any REAL relationship coming forth, he's attempting to remain friends that date.

I would soft next him and focus on another man, meaning I would leave the door open for him to STOP behaving in a way I don't like but I damn sure wouldn't be sitting there letting a man dig into my darkside by making me feel insecure, that kind of behavior would turn me off and being turned off I would stop all and any effort of making him feel special, he's taking you for granted and you 2 haven't even got started, I would much rather deal with a man that is more positive and makes me feel positive when I'm around him or NOT around him.

Thank you. The thing is though i told him i just got out of a relationship lets start off as friends (which right now is all i can deal with obv)....I never really gave him the option....and everytime he would joke around' about a relationship or something...i'd back away big time, he heard it in my voice. I just was dealing with a nutcase scorp as i mentioned and really need to emotionally heal a bit. So if girl is saying to herself just friends MAYBE in the future after hanging out a bit there could be something (didn't mention that to him, don't want to give false hope or play games here) as i truely don't know, this is why i was just curious about the cancer male mind....bc i would like to know what i'm getting into b4 i get in it when anyone enters my life a new friend a new guy friend / relationship potenial. Truthfully i can't expect much if i keep turning the guy down for anything other then that. Example he said when is our first date...and i would say you mean first meeting or greeting? and he was like i guess... I just thought he took it as a hard to get game n started playing with me....I'm just really cautious now a days. Basically the only time i make it available for him is to speak to me is at night...(which prob looks shady on my part) but i have things to do during the day time, work, family & such. I'm not really giving him the confidence or ego boosting to show signs that i want more to him (which is fine due to not even meeting the guy), so natrually i'm sure he's not going to be bold & give me my time & space and friendship at this time. when i said it speaks volumes that he stays up late to talk to me, with working in 2 hrs. That made me question bc look i love my friends but unless ur dying theres no way i'm staying up until 2 hrs b4 i have work all day... lol which made me think maybe there is more here on his part. SO imagining going down that path thinking well maybe he does have potiental then his behavior...I probably should have told all the details. Not making excuses for his behavior at all just filling you in. IF you have been with a scorpio you would know i'll prob take a yr to make a next step for anything lmao...

I really do appreciate everything your saying and helping out with though. Much thanks to you!! =]

I really do appreciate everything your saying and helping out with though. Much thanks to you!! =]

JUICY 😄!

HI Baby!!! how have you been—

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HI Baby!!! how have you been—

There she is 😄

I'm been doing ^_^.

What have you been up too? Every since you left the scorpio alone, I don't see you around these parts.

Are you still the party girl 😉