How do I get my fwb cancerian to be in a relationship

So we were actually in a relationship for 4 years.... but the last yr was crazy... We fought more and more and ignored each other more and more.

so over something stupid we ended things. I was happy and moved on with my life and actually met someone else.

2 months later my ex pops out and says he wants a friends with benefit relationship cause he can't deal with my drama.... and I agreed.... so since then we met twice and we're intimate. When we together he is so close to me. Tells me stuff about what he has been up 2, what's going on with his friend...With work... With his family... about who knows about our breakup etc. Even jokes about when we married.

but I barely hear from between meeting him. He replies to my messages. Once he even said he has a young hot chick in his life it's just her head that's messed up.... and when I said it was messed up I had other stuff going on... His reply was let's see.

I want him to be my bf again the sweet one I had 4 years ago not the one I damaged. How do I get that again

Hmm I think you need to take your booty off the table...be friendly but no sexual stuff. FWB should benefit both parties otherwise what's the point? once you do that I believe you will see his true intentions.