How should I keep in touch for long periods with a Cancer girl?

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I just started a very promising relationship (at the stage of friendship now) but I don't seem to act or to feel the same way as I did before.

I meet this girl on Tinder, she live in a town 3 hours away from my place and after a brief period of casual flirting on Tinder chat then on Facebook the things seemed to be perfect between us. She was really interested, I was playing chill and calculated. I didn't made any texting mistakes.

I got the occasion to visit her town with my family and I arranged easily a date. Everything was like in movies, we've go ice skating (even if we both didn't know how to skate so it was really fun) had coffe and talked until late in he night. She agreed to come at the villa we were staying to have coffe.

She met my family and we had a great time (she really liked my little sisters), then we were in the town again talking until late in the night. We were holding hands when we were walking around and we gave eachother the feeling that we can talk for years without losing interest (this is a big turn on for me becuse she is really smart).

The next day we visired a museum and stayed togheter until I had to leave. Everything was perfect.

She is one of the prettyest girls I've ever meet, she have the perfect height (5cm shorter than me) she meets all the checkpoints in my 'Perfect Girl List' (she is a fan of fantasy, especially Game of Thrones, she is a hardcore gamer and she cook like a godess). She have her sun in Cancer and her ascendant in Leo, I'm an Aries with Cancer ascendant. We are both lowkey smokers.

The thing is that I didn't felt like kissing her or doing anything, and I also didn't experienced that obsessive and explosive desire like my previous relationship (2 years ago). I was sure that she is a perfect pairing for me, but I was also acting with care because I know that I couldn't see her often. The best we can do is in holydays, we also planned togheter at ComicCon in may and at the seaside in the summer.

What should I do now? I was really frustrated that we cant stay togheter but I kept a chill apperance and made it clear that things would've been completley different if we lived in the same town... We are friends now, I'm home and I miss her. It feels like hell.

Give me your advice, or at leas your opinion... What woul you do in my situation and how I could keep in touch with her (how often to call, should I be open and interested or misteryous and give a feeling of 'hot&cold', what things I shouldn't do)?
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@Op How old are you guys?

If she was closer to you distance wise do you think you would give it more a shot? Because not only does physical attraction a plus but a really connection is better...

Not rushing into anything else and focus on what makes yall happy, and wanting to keep spending time together, and getting to know each other.

If you don't like her anymore just let her no you just want to be friends and take it from there.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@Op How old are you guys?

If she was closer to you distance wise do you think you would give it more a shot? Because not only does physical attraction a plus but a really connection is better...

Not rushing into anything else and focus on what makes yall happy, and wanting to keep spending time together, and getting to know each other.

If you don't like her anymore just let her no you just want to be friends and take it from there.

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We are both 18, and I hope that we will go to college in the same city..

So in your opinion I should call often or once in a while? I know that cancer girls are realy sensitive so I should be carefull, but in the same time I should create some context for a discussion and create space because I don't want to be clingy.

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
You see her as friend... The necessary chemistry is missing... chemistry is everything.....

just be a friend...
We had chemestry, I just didn't pushed it to anything that could create an attachment or obligations on both sides because a relationship is practicaly impossible and I don't even want a long distance relationship after my ex (kind of he same situation).

For the first 3 days togheter we rushed a lot and I pesonally got a little bit tired because we hadn't that pauses in wich you can think clear and miss the other.

I just want to know the best way to keep in touch with a cancer until we meet again and what kind of guy cancer girls like the most in texting: the warm and open one or the misteryous and 'hot&cold' type? I really know gow to make my move when we get togheter again, just needadviceon how to fill the empty spaces between them.
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Posted by BuffaloBills28
She's 3 hours away from you? Do you drive. Where are you? This was such a nice read, I'd drive you myself to her. lol. I don't know, If I was you, and missed her that bad, I'd go see her. Last thing a playa like yourself needs is for someone else to make her happy.. Waiting months and months to see her, someone might come in and swoop her off her feet.



I don't have a driver licence or a car, and not even time because I have school and in the free weekend I have some classes for my future architecture exam. I have to travel 4 hours with a damn to get in a city in the opposite direction to take this classes.

I'm aware there is always the possibility for someone else to get in the picture, and that's why I was afraid to catch heavy feelings for her and I didn't go for smth like a kiss.

After all the feedback I've got I think I should call twice a week and create some interesting and funny stories in my free time so we can have a subject to talk about...

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Posted by BuffaloBills28
She's 3 hours away from you? Do you drive. Where are you? This was such a nice read, I'd drive you myself to her. lol. I don't know, If I was you, and missed her that bad, I'd go see her. Last thing a playa like yourself needs is for someone else to make her happy.. Waiting months and months to see her, someone might come in and swoop her off her feet.



I don't have a driver licence or a car, and not even time because I have school and in the free weekend I have some classes for my future architecture exam. I have to travel 4 hours with a damn to get in a city in the opposite direction to take this classes.

I'm aware there is always the possibility for someone else to get in the picture, and that's why I was afraid to catch heavy feelings for her and I didn't go for smth like a kiss.

After all the feedback I've got I think I should call twice a week and create some interesting and funny stories in my free time so we can have a subject to talk about...

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