I need help with Taurus

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Dali87 on Wednesday, August 17, 2016 and has 36 replies.

Understanding Taurus Behavior in Relationships

Taurus men may become distant or test their partners to ensure commitment. They often value stability and may struggle with expressing love openly. Boredom and passion fluctuations are common. Communication, patience, and showing genuine love can help strengthen the relationship. Forgiveness depends on the situation, but honesty is crucial for trust.

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@Dali87
10 Years

Hi i am cancer girl I dated my Taurus man 3 year in the beginning we was friends almost 8 months we had crushes and become our relationship as friends with benefits

till we became in official relation and we say for each other that we are in love

My question are in the beginning he was want me and he had passion after that he became too cold and ignore me

all the people say he was want to make sure if he want me or not

we pass that stage and he test me a lot he act so weird

What i want to know are he satisfy when he hurt me or make me cry?

why he cant say that he loves me he said it almost 5 times just he say its no need ?

Are he lose his passion and become so bored easily?

What can i make to prove my love for him ?

If he lie should I forgive?

What if something happens front of me and I show him that i was act iam not understand and after while i say for him what he did are he gonna thought i was fool him or he will appreciate that i no enter his business ?

Also why he act front his friends or in the puplic that he no love me and when we are alone he turns to another person so sweet ?

How to make him forget the past ?

Why he always pushing me away from him and tell me to find another person?

I hope I found answers

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

He was initially lusting after you.

Then he realized that he really like you.

He wanted to see where this relationship could lead to...if it had any potential.

Then he got a glimpse of an unplesant future with a clingy woman who will require too much emotional reassurance.

He's private.

He's affectionate,

He's an introvert.

....And love has to happen organically. To occur natually.

It has to last a lifetime.

You want the courtship of an episode in The Young & the Restless.

He's too practical to give you that idealized romance.

You haven't earned it.

He's still in the process of trying to figure you out.

Three years is a long time.

There is more to your story.

Care to elaborate?

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@Dali87
10 Years

Why he is act like that ? Is Taurus men like test there women ?

I need explanation from Taurus mouth about the way he is act ?

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@Dali87
10 Years

is that much its need him to know people?

I didn't ask from him anything maybe he have it in his mind and he thinks about it

Always i give him his freedom

Sometimes i feel he want me sometimes he is too cold

And one more thing do Taurus get bored usually ? From the girl looking or the way of life ?

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@Dali87
10 Years

He test me in the jealous thing he want to see my reaction

And he make anything just to make me angry

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@Dali87
10 Years

He like to speak with girls front of me considering that i am not excited and if i show any expression on my face that mean i am too jealous he ask me why you should not care

When he is around his friends like to show them that he is the one who no care if he have girlfriend and I suppose to be silent or i will be the one who crazy

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@M143
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Hahaha. I hate drama. Last night my bull and I was arguing over something..somebody called him and it was his ex wife. I am not going to elaborate but pls you cannot hide anything to a scorpio. Scorpio understand gestures.shallow or not. An act of malice in a form of pretention.

Scorpio are good at that. So my bull rage. And I kept stinging him. Lastly he said.. he wanted a long term relationship with me this is why we are living together again and he was sorry if he's not the husband I thought he would. But am not emotional and just respond to him It is not all about that but the sugar coating and the lies..

Which he said I never trust him. Oh well, I exactly knows what trust is but be honest with me.

Had peace last night...but I hate fighting

Cuz I know what I am capable of.

Damn. Taurus. Taurus. Arrgh.

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@M143
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Dali87,

If he speak with other girls why are u jealous?

Is there something wrong going with u guys in the past? Did he ever lied to u and caught him?

If so, your actions is to be considered. If not, then minimize your jealousy.

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
11 Years10,000+ Posts

A taurus can minimize jealousy or hardly show it.

I actually sometimes do make faces or straight poker face when someone attempts to make a reaction of me. I think it's my cancer rising because it's shown in my eyes. And even though I think I carry so well about not being jealous when some one does try. It's like are you playing around or what. Either I'm laugh or speak my mind atm.

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@RemixGeneralFishy
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Sounds like a way too clingy Cancer chick living in a romantic dream world and just woke up. Male Bulls are often popular with the opposite sex, you can't stop him speaking with other women. He's gonna have lady friends.

To make a long story short because your incoherent rambling has given my a migraine: you either trust him to come back to you at the end of the day and be faithful to you, or you don't. Make up your mind.

And speak properly so we can understand you.

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@Dali87
10 Years

What I understand that I should let him do whatever

And forget about respect and no be clingy or dramatic

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@Udylaw
10 Years

This is not about being a Taurus,its about being a Jerk.any guy who disrespects you in front of his friends doesn't give a damn about you.He just prefers to be indoors with you.Stop wondering and bounce,don't let any man do that to you.

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@Udylaw
10 Years

This isn't a clingy cancer or a popular male bull thing,the guy is a Jerk that's who he is it has nothing to do with astrology.You can't always want to be with a girl in private then disrespect her in front of your friends.he can't be faithful because from what I read he doesn't love her IMO...and you didn't have to say *speak properly so we can understand you*why state the obvious?that's how she can express herself try and get something from it..don't rub it in.

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by Instantkarma

Posted by Dali87
What I understand that I should let him do whatever

And forget about respect and no be clingy or dramatic

This is a controlling tactic to make you feel insecure and increase his worth in front of your eyes. Men are like toddlers.

The first time he tried it, you could have set the boundaries.

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I think you heat the point because I remember in the same night when i asked him he say why you are jealous i am with you

i am not that much clingy we no live together and we see eatch other time to time cuz he lives in outside my city i no bother him with calls or try to chuck him

Maybe all cancer dramatic but for me i feel i no like to be so stick on the person if he no want me he can say it in my face thats it

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by Instantkarma

Posted by Udylaw
This isn't a clingy cancer or a popular male bull thing,the guy is a Jerk that's who he is it has nothing to do with astrology.You can't always want to be with a girl in private then disrespect her in front of your friends.he can't be faithful because from what I read he doesn't love her IMO...and you didn't have to say *speak properly so we can understand you*why state the obvious?that's how she can express herself try and get something from it..don't rub it in.

I agree with you!

This isn't because she is clingy or he is popular.

In my situation, I was the college hottie. And I wasn't clingy.

They test you to see what you will put up with. Shady behaviour, if you ask me.

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Oh darling its true he want it to see my reaction and if i act in angry way he will change his way of deal with me

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by Instantkarma

Posted by Dali87

Posted by Instantkarma

Posted by Dali87
What I understand that I should let him do whatever

And forget about respect and no be clingy or dramatic

This is a controlling tactic to make you feel insecure and increase his worth in front of your eyes. Men are like toddlers.

The first time he tried it, you could have set the boundaries.

I think you heat the point because I remember in the same night when i asked him he say why you are jealous i am with you

i am not that much clingy we no live together and we see eatch other time to time cuz he lives in outside my city i no bother him with calls or try to chuck him

Maybe all cancer dramatic but for me i feel i no like to be so stick on the person if he no want me he can say it in my face thats it

If you aren't happy with his behaviour, why wait for him to dump you?

Js

Are you happy with him?

Tell him for once his he makes you feel. If he doesn't change, you should know why to do.

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As i say once he is good he will be the most perfect man and onece he no want he change everything

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@Udylaw
10 Years

don't try to understand this guys,the most important thing is your self respect.He doesn't respect you.Leave him before you hurt yourself some more

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by TaurusBull1977
So you're a doormat?

A clingy one.

No its not like that it's just i no like make problem and i like to be peaceful

He is a good person I think

And as he still want to know more or try to solve my puzzle i will tryto do my patience method

Just i am trying to understand the personality

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@RemixGeneralFishy
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Udylaw
This isn't a clingy cancer or a popular male bull thing,the guy is a Jerk that's who he is it has nothing to do with astrology.You can't always want to be with a girl in private then disrespect her in front of your friends.he can't be faithful because from what I read he doesn't love her IMO...and you didn't have to say *speak properly so we can understand you*why state the obvious?that's how she can express herself try and get something from it..don't rub it in.

LOL you're in the astrology section, deer. If you're looking for Oprah, you're in the wrong building. This is Jerry Springer.

You also sound extremely biased so you're most likely not looking at this objectively. Maybe you were recently cheated on or something. Either way, you're the last person to be encouraging clingy behavior.

Everything the OP says just screams clingy, and she's not taking a hint. What, is a guy not allowed to speak to another woman just because he has a girlfriend? That's fruitloop territory. What is he supposed to do, cower away from every female within 50 feet?

Deal with your trust issues BEFORE embarking on a relationship because it's YOUR problem, not his. The guy shouldn't have to suffer because you're not mentally stable.

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy

Posted by Udylaw
This isn't a clingy cancer or a popular male bull thing,the guy is a Jerk that's who he is it has nothing to do with astrology.You can't always want to be with a girl in private then disrespect her in front of your friends.he can't be faithful because from what I read he doesn't love her IMO...and you didn't have to say *speak properly so we can understand you*why state the obvious?that's how she can express herself try and get something from it..don't rub it in.

LOL you're in the astrology section, deer. If you're looking for Oprah, you're in the wrong building. This is Jerry Springer.

You also sound extremely biased so you're most likely not looking at this objectively. Maybe you were recently cheated on or something. Either way, you're the last person to be encouraging clingy behavior.

Everything the OP says just screams clingy, and she's not taking a hint. What, is a guy not allowed to speak to another woman just because he has a girlfriend? That's fruitloop territory. What is he supposed to do, cower away from every female within 50 feet?

Deal with your trust issues BEFORE embarking on a relationship because it's YOUR problem, not his. The guy shouldn't have to suffer because you're not mentally stable.

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I am sorry that if i have mental problems but i no think when he is flirting the girl front of me and challenging his friends whos the one will speck with her first its too easy for any girl to handle and if I scream or do any action that mean its i am crazy

Anyway i am angry because of that because who want to cheat he will do it front of me or behind me

In the first place i am just ask about the Taurus way of thinking

And as i read in the comments i need to be more care about the details

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@Udylaw
10 Years

I am trying to make sense of all you have wasted your energy to post but I can't ,just because this is an astrology forum doesn't mean everything should be based on that..people like you look for relationships based on astrological compatibility..and every other thing.

You don't have a sense of humor so don't even try being funny with the Jerry springer shit and it doesn't always have to be the "clingy cancer" or the depressed pisces when some people are just jerks just like you.

You sound like a 5yr old and its not everybody that has "issues" like you,.and why would I be biased?when i don't know OP personally and we don't even share the same sun sign.

Pls don't be delusional,everything in life isn't based on astrology some people are just stupid like you.

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@Dali87
10 Years

Hahahhahaha its not that much too personal that things

Its like all of you saying its not programs for relations

I was just want to know the Taurus personality from real people not like what writing

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@M143
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Dali,

I dealt bunch of taurus men.

That is really their behavior.

But you can either confront him in front of those

Girls or tell him in a private way. Just fight back.

Tell him how he behave and you dont accept that

Doesnt mean you are a jealous person but his

Provocative behavior will only categorized him as "insecured man" trying to make you jealous so he can validate himself as good looking and a good catch. This is how I speak my man. Trust me.

It will hurt your man when you insult him but you

Have to set your boundaries where he can shows disrespect in front of you 'cause if you dont he will be the one to act like it is ok and he keep repeating on that and you will be the one who feel you were wrong. Prepare for yourself he might end it if you call out all his bs but make sure dont just leave. Atleast bite. I had go back and forth thing this bull of mine. When he said get out my house, I told him to packed my things and pay all the damage. He did that. I walked thru exit door and he was blocking the door professing his lover. I still continue. So everytime we have fight now, he dont

Bring up the pack my stuff. Lol

He learned how to communicate with me even I insulted him a lot of times and I am willing to throw myself out if he say so. Sometimes we dont allow people to just take advantage on us. We have to let them know we have enough respect for ourselves.

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@M143
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Dealing a bull is quite tough. But really they are good one I like to be with. This a@@hole bull of mine been playing many girls in his past even those time we were together but he was denying

And I am lucky enough he showered everything to me which I have nothing to complain. Those girls chasing at him and he even told me we need to prepared together because one of his girl will going to attack. That was long time ago. Then I respond if she is good I will respect her, if she is not then you will see your woman off the ground fighting and after that I will give you to her as bonus cuz am pretty sure I will be the one to win in the fighting. Been with that.. I dont talk alot but absorb the anger to so it comes our when I punch. Hahaha. My bull that time was... oh no M. Dont give me to her. I replied, I have nothing to do with an insecure man who cant handle his insecurity but lifting up himself to lower my standard.':

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by M143
Dali,

I dealt bunch of taurus men.

That is really their behavior.

But you can either confront him in front of those

Girls or tell him in a private way. Just fight back.

Tell him how he behave and you dont accept that

Doesnt mean you are a jealous person but his

Provocative behavior will only categorized him as "insecured man" trying to make you jealous so he can validate himself as good looking and a good catch. This is how I speak my man. Trust me.

It will hurt your man when you insult him but you

Have to set your boundaries where he can shows disrespect in front of you 'cause if you dont he will be the one to act like it is ok and he keep repeating on that and you will be the one who feel you were wrong. Prepare for yourself he might end it if you call out all his bs but make sure dont just leave. Atleast bite. I had go back and forth thing this bull of mine. When he said get out my house, I told him to packed my things and pay all the damage. He did that. I walked thru exit door and he was blocking the door professing his lover. I still continue. So everytime we have fight now, he dont

Bring up the pack my stuff. Lol

He learned how to communicate with me even I insulted him a lot of times and I am willing to throw myself out if he say so. Sometimes we dont allow people to just take advantage on us. We have to let them know we have enough respect for ourselves.

Thanks dear on the sweet way to replay and I appreciate how you explain it in straight way for me to be honest its strength me a lot and help me to understand the way of understanding again thanks

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@Dali87
10 Years

Posted by M143
Dealing a bull is quite tough. But really they are good one I like to be with. This a@@hole bull of mine been playing many girls in his past even those time we were together but he was denying

And I am lucky enough he showered everything to me which I have nothing to complain. Those girls chasing at him and he even told me we need to prepared together because one of his girl will going to attack. That was long time ago. Then I respond if she is good I will respect her, if she is not then you will see your woman off the ground fighting and after that I will give you to her as bonus cuz am pretty sure I will be the one to win in the fighting. Been with that.. I dont talk alot but absorb the anger to so it comes our when I punch. Hahaha. My bull that time was... oh no M. Dont give me to her. I replied, I have nothing to do with an insecure man who cant handle his insecurity but lifting up himself to lower my standard.':

And like you say here they are tougher but they are good and sweet heart i love him and sometimes i avoid to creat problem

For me do whatever you want as long u will be back

But as I mention that the thing bothers me that when he was acting front of me and when we back at the night and i told him what was that he say i have illusion I tried my best to be calm cuz i no like the high voice or to make people angry

Like you told me now I should deal with that and another way

They like to be eye to eye teeth to teeth

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@RemixGeneralFishy
10 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Udylaw
I am trying to make sense of all you have wasted your energy to post but I can't ,just because this is an astrology forum doesn't mean everything should be based on that..people like you look for relationships based on astrological compatibility..and every other thing.

You don't have a sense of humor so don't even try being funny with the Jerry springer shit and it doesn't always have to be the "clingy cancer" or the depressed pisces when some people are just jerks just like you.

You sound like a 5yr old and its not everybody that has "issues" like you,.and why would I be biased?when i don't know OP personally and we don't even share the same sun sign.

Pls don't be delusional,everything in life isn't based on astrology some people are just stupid like you.

Actually I don't look for astrological compatibility when it comes to relationships, I just follow my downstairs fella's whims. (Psst, btw I'm a mutable Pisces, the chameleon of the zodiac, I can make it work with ANYONE if I want)

And here's pot calling the kettle black, resorting to kindergarten-level insults because you can't best me in an argument. Yah a real paragon of maturity you are. *triple facepalm*

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@Dali87
10 Years

It wasn't literally FWB what I meant that we had sex before we committed on the relationship and as Taurus they are too slow to say there emotions thats why I didn't know what to name the relation