- Fall in love with someone new
Posted by Chessmess
Posted by pinkbird03
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Posted by LuxePurr
Welp, 2 days of silence and I wake up to a message from him saying "Good morning. Wish you have a great day."
*sigh* I don't wanna settle for crumbs. 😔
give him crumbs.
as an Aries myself, we like the chase. let him chase you.
Is chasing done throughout the whole relationship or just in the beginning? I’ve been dating one for 4 months. I don’t see him chasing me as he already has me. Relationship is good. I guess I’m just asking you to explain this more to me.
You said your relationship is good...click to expand
Yea so it’s just a chase mentality when things aren’t good. Ok good to know hahaPosted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
How much do you actually like him and want to be with him? I’m not sensing it’s a lot.
Communication is what you both need to work on. That’s how you get what you want. You didn’t understand what was going on when he was quiet. How can u expect him to understand u when your quiet?
I'm in love.
We agreed before that we have terrible communication. Whenever I try to bring up something, he thinks I'm starting an argument when really I'm just trying to discuss something with him. I think he's a little sensitive and kinda acts like a kid at times.
I find that with him, I have to be very independent and allow him to come to me. There are days when he wants to be affectionate and spend time with me. There are also days when he wants to be by himself or do his thing and be with friends. I just proved it today. I was quiet for a couple of days and so he reached out. He rang me up 3 times but I was out and so I didn't hear my phone. I called him back just earlier and he was excited lol.
I think I'm just overthinking things and need to go with the flow. I have a tendency to overthink because Cardinal sign lol. Controlling.
I’m that way too so don’t feel bad. My advice- stay confident even when he’s taking his freedom. It seems like aries are very loyal and never leave you when in love. So there’s nothing to worry about
Thanks and you're right. I feel like I have nothing to worry about. And as my Sag friend used to say, if someone wants to cheat on you, you can't do anything about it. No amount of overthinking or investigation can stop infidelity. So just go with the flow. Damn I love mutable signs.
It's just that I've been cheated on a couple of times in the past and Aries men are just so hot and get a lot of attention from the ladies. They just ooze sex. Lol.click to expand
Do you trust him with other girls?Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
How much do you actually like him and want to be with him? I’m not sensing it’s a lot.
Communication is what you both need to work on. That’s how you get what you want. You didn’t understand what was going on when he was quiet. How can u expect him to understand u when your quiet?
I'm in love.
We agreed before that we have terrible communication. Whenever I try to bring up something, he thinks I'm starting an argument when really I'm just trying to discuss something with him. I think he's a little sensitive and kinda acts like a kid at times.
I find that with him, I have to be very independent and allow him to come to me. There are days when he wants to be affectionate and spend time with me. There are also days when he wants to be by himself or do his thing and be with friends. I just proved it today. I was quiet for a couple of days and so he reached out. He rang me up 3 times but I was out and so I didn't hear my phone. I called him back just earlier and he was excited lol.
I think I'm just overthinking things and need to go with the flow. I have a tendency to overthink because Cardinal sign lol. Controlling.click to expand
I’m that way too so don’t feel bad. My advice- stay confident even when he’s taking his freedom. It seems like aries are very loyal and never leave you when in love. So there’s nothing to worry aboutPosted by Chessmess
Posted by LuxePurr
Welp, 2 days of silence and I wake up to a message from him saying "Good morning. Wish you have a great day."
*sigh* I don't wanna settle for crumbs. 😔
give him crumbs.
as an Aries myself, we like the chase. let him chase you.click to expand
Is chasing done throughout the whole relationship or just in the beginning? I’ve been dating one for 4 months. I don’t see him chasing me as he already has me. Relationship is good. I guess I’m just asking you to explain this more to me.- How much do you actually like him and want to be with him? I’m not sensing it’s a lot.
Communication is what you both need to work on. That’s how you get what you want. You didn’t understand what was going on when he was quiet. How can u expect him to understand u when your quiet? Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Posted by pinkbird03
He may have realized your schedule doesn’t work with his.
But the fact that he’s going to the doctors may be him hinting at something is wrong and he’s dealing with it. Perhaps he got hurt at work? Could be anything though, including a bs excuse.
You should ask how his doctors appointment and if everything is okay. Maybe you’ll get answers.
I thought about that, but at this point I feel like I’d come off as desperate if I kept contacting him.
At this point, what do you have to lose?
True....it just feels weird after my last words to him were wishing him well since I assumed he lost interest. I mean what am I supposed to say? Sorry, I know I kind of ended things....but I may have jumped the gun and just wanted to see if you were ok after your doctors appointment and all?click to expand
No!! Lol don’t say that. Just say -Hey, how are you doing this week? Keep it simple and emotional. Don’t bring up your mistake and make it awkward- Are you aries?
Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
He’s busy. Why are you being insecure about that? He loves you, but you’re going to ruin this relationship with your overthinking. He wants u to initiate because it makes him feel wanted.... by you. He wants u. Isn’t that obvious? Love isn’t a game yet you’re treating it like it is one.
He and I established that I want him weeks ago. I dunno. I don't feel very safe with what's going on right now and my feminine senses are telling me I need to pull back. All the way back.
Seems to me you’re sabotaging your relationship in a weak attempt to get his attention. There’s much better ways to rekindle your relationship. You need to excite him again.
I've no idea how
He’s aries. He loves adventure. Suggest a high adrenaline activity. Or better yet, entice him with sex. Buy a sexy outfit. Tease him by sending a picture of the box and say can’t wait to wear this for you.
Did all those things already lol. He does respond well to flirting and me making him laugh and all sweet. The other day I told him the cringiest crap and he ended up telling me he misses me and loves me.click to expand
Do it again with a new activity or outfit. I just bought six outfits. My aries can’t get enough lolPosted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
He’s busy. Why are you being insecure about that? He loves you, but you’re going to ruin this relationship with your overthinking. He wants u to initiate because it makes him feel wanted.... by you. He wants u. Isn’t that obvious? Love isn’t a game yet you’re treating it like it is one.
He and I established that I want him weeks ago. I dunno. I don't feel very safe with what's going on right now and my feminine senses are telling me I need to pull back. All the way back.
Seems to me you’re sabotaging your relationship in a weak attempt to get his attention. There’s much better ways to rekindle your relationship. You need to excite him again.
I've no idea howclick to expand
He’s aries. He loves adventure. Suggest a high adrenaline activity. Or better yet, entice him with sex. Buy a sexy outfit. Tease him by sending a picture of the box and say can’t wait to wear this for you.Posted by LuxePurr
Posted by pinkbird03
He’s busy. Why are you being insecure about that? He loves you, but you’re going to ruin this relationship with your overthinking. He wants u to initiate because it makes him feel wanted.... by you. He wants u. Isn’t that obvious? Love isn’t a game yet you’re treating it like it is one.
He and I established that I want him weeks ago. I dunno. I don't feel very safe with what's going on right now and my feminine senses are telling me I need to pull back. All the way back.click to expand
Seems to me you’re sabotaging your relationship in a weak attempt to get his attention. There’s much better ways to rekindle your relationship. You need to excite him again.Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Posted by pinkbird03
He may have realized your schedule doesn’t work with his.
But the fact that he’s going to the doctors may be him hinting at something is wrong and he’s dealing with it. Perhaps he got hurt at work? Could be anything though, including a bs excuse.
You should ask how his doctors appointment and if everything is okay. Maybe you’ll get answers.
I thought about that, but at this point I feel like I’d come off as desperate if I kept contacting him.click to expand
At this point, what do you have to lose?- He may have realized your schedule doesn’t work with his.
But the fact that he’s going to the doctors may be him hinting at something is wrong and he’s dealing with it. Perhaps he got hurt at work? Could be anything though, including a bs excuse.
You should ask how his doctors appointment and if everything is okay. Maybe you’ll get answers. - He’s busy. Why are you being insecure about that? He loves you, but you’re going to ruin this relationship with your overthinking. He wants u to initiate because it makes him feel wanted.... by you. He wants u. Isn’t that obvious? Love isn’t a game yet you’re treating it like it is one.
Posted by Peridot86
Posted by pinkbird03
I don’t believe they lose interest after the chase is over. They just like being excited about you. Show him the reasons why he should like you. Figure out what he likes and dangle it in front of him.
I am wondering why you’re concerned about this. Has he pulled away?
Well we've been talking for two weeks now, I haven't really talked too much about myself because I'm trying to learn him lol. He hasn't pulled away... he's actually already wanting me to meet his family and his son.. which is very soon but I kind of find it flattering. I read that Aries are quick to fall in love and they're quick to fall out of love. I'm not saying he loves me or anything but should I be expecting him to ghost me anytime soon ?click to expand
I’ve been dating an Aries for 4+ months and he’s never ghosted. He did fall in love fast- definitely too soon in my opinion, but he’s never fallen out of love. That was in the first month. In month three, I began doing things for him that he appreciated. He said thank you and other nice comments, but it wasn’t until he was drunk when he began bragging to his friends all these things about me - somethings I wasn’t even aware of. So that’s how I learned what he really likes about me. I’m not sure if they relate to all aries??Posted by Marai
Posted by pinkbird03
My bf works a lot. He worked 15 hours yesterday. So I can relate to her situation a little. My bfs focus is on work. He can’t focus on me too and I wouldn’t expect him to. A persons job takes priority most of the time. That’s just how life is.
Bottom line: woman can focus on multiple things at once and men cannot.
I think she needs to chill and stop overthinking this situation. Be supportive and stop nagging. Feel proud of how hard he’s work to gain success. And in a selfish way- she needs to see how that success positively affects her life. I don’t think she realizes how good she has it.
Still, your bf recognises you. Handwashed your bikini even!
He doesn't, not even acknowledging her and dismissing her existence. Not a peep.
I used to make long hours as well, doesn't keep me from asking how my partner is doing.click to expand
That’s because shes nagging and driving him up the wall. He pulled away because he doesn’t want to deal with it.- My bf works a lot. He worked 15 hours yesterday. So I can relate to her situation a little. My bfs focus is on work. He can’t focus on me too and I wouldn’t expect him to. A persons job takes priority most of the time. That’s just how life is.
Bottom line: woman can focus on multiple things at once and men cannot.
I think she needs to chill and stop overthinking this situation. Be supportive and stop nagging. Feel proud of how hard he’s work to gain success. And in a selfish way- she needs to see how that success positively affects her life. I don’t think she realizes how good she has it. - I don’t believe they lose interest after the chase is over. They just like being excited about you. Show him the reasons why he should like you. Figure out what he likes and dangle it in front of him.
I am wondering why you’re concerned about this. Has he pulled away?
