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Stop giving hope, you!


Well i do admit my resilience gives me the option of approaching any such situation from an (overly)idealistic perspective.

Still, if he actively sought her out after being blocked on everything but snapchat, idk, sounds like it was done with intent.....idk, best of luck to pinkbird.




Yes, intent. I agree with that. I always felt like he was doing this on purpose. I personally don’t think he wants me to let go of him. But at the same time, he doesn’t want to let go of me. The reason why? I don’t know.


No, it’s that. Its that he’s had it a bit easy. When you block him and don’t even pick up he’ll realise he’s lost you and either step in or step aside.
If you still want him by then , ok. No big deal you just handle it like adults.

I also can tell that you might want him too and its not a bad thing, however the approach needs to change.

Really hate it when people on here judge others for wanting someone or something else like they’re not secretly stalking their person checking if they’re online on whatsapp. Eishh!
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I hate that too girl. Thanks for being understanding. I basically put the ball in his court. If he really wants me in his life, he’s going to have to message me and start trying in big ways. If not he needs to step aside so I can definitely move on. I hope this works either way. I don’t want to be stuck anymore.
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Posted by HoneyXx
the fact that you still check to see who "views your stories" leads me to believe you are still holding on to hope, otherwise you would block him completely on there and not just delete him from your list of friends.

if a dude wants to be with you, he will be.
point blank.

stop allowing him to live rent free in your mind.
it's time to move on completely.


There’s a notification on there that tells me when someone looks. I wasn’t expecting to see him honestly.

I do have issues with attachment. I do not just let go by snapping my fingers. It takes me time. I’ve been moving on though. Talking to two guys. Dating one.

I’m just curious about his behavior. Not mine


Venus Pisces got you hooooooked



Lol I know. It’s hard to unhook myself.


Struggle is real. He feels the same tho he’s just a dik.
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Yep. I think we are both addicted to each other at this point. But yes I think he’s a jerk.
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Posted by pinkbird03
I’m just going to go with yes, they are selfish. I mean all the ones I dated were.

You do a lot for him. Maybe find something he can help u with.


I’m just not reaching out right now. I did a lot of that before vacation and it backfired. So I’m quiet. Plus he’s got too much going on right now. Trying to finish up the moving, and taking on extra day at work cuz he’s all worried about money with vacation, the move and more.

I’d rather get back to where he checks on me & my day cuz he’s wondering how I am. He knows damn well I can be verrrry quiet if I’m not thrilled with him.
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Do you want to talk to him about it so you’re not upset?
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I agree it’s an ego boost for himself. I’ve strung along a poor dude for 18 years. He’s fully aware of the situation and I’m honest about my intentions.

Boredom and validation that I’m still desirable keeps it going..

Block the dude and move on. He’s not into you, he’s into you liking him.


I get so uncomfortable when someone likes me and I don’t feel the same way back!! It’s hard for me to relate to that.



I can’t speak for everyone, but I dated this guy years ago. We have a past from when we were teens.

I’m also a Libra... supposedly we do evil things like this


I have a libra guy friend who does this with his ex. I don’t understand him either!! Lol you must be detached a bit


I’m super detached.

He’s a Taurus dude and he’s not looking for a deep meaningful connection. I never promise him anything but he knows when I come around I’m looking for attention. He’s not stupid. We’ve known one another too long.

Yeah I understand wanting attention. I’ve had friends like that in the past. For me, it was fine if they were cool about it. When they got emotional or requested more of me, I got uncomfortable and backed off completely.


I think everyone does this on some level! Flirting with someone you’re not actually attracted to. I mean this forum is full of women who don’t understand why a guy will text them all day but never want to hang out. Because he’s leading you on, you’re boosting his ego.
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Yeah you’re right. I’m totally guilty of this too.
I don’t know why I thought my aqua was different. I guess I thought he had feelings. Or at least would not play on mine for 4 long months just because it satisfies him. But you helped me see it from a different perspective. Thank you!!
I’m just going to go with yes, they are selfish. I mean all the ones I dated were.

You do a lot for him. Maybe find something he can help u with.
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I agree it’s an ego boost for himself. I’ve strung along a poor dude for 18 years. He’s fully aware of the situation and I’m honest about my intentions.

Boredom and validation that I’m still desirable keeps it going..

Block the dude and move on. He’s not into you, he’s into you liking him.


I get so uncomfortable when someone likes me and I don’t feel the same way back!! It’s hard for me to relate to that.



I can’t speak for everyone, but I dated this guy years ago. We have a past from when we were teens.

I’m also a Libra... supposedly we do evil things like this


I have a libra guy friend who does this with his ex. I don’t understand him either!! Lol you must be detached a bit


I’m super detached.

He’s a Taurus dude and he’s not looking for a deep meaningful connection. I never promise him anything but he knows when I come around I’m looking for attention. He’s not stupid. We’ve known one another too long.
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Yeah I understand wanting attention. I’ve had friends like that in the past. For me, it was fine if they were cool about it. When they got emotional or requested more of me, I got uncomfortable and backed off completely.
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I deleted my Snapchat just few days ago because of something similar. Is it really that dramatic? Not really.. there are 500 other apps to post stories on. Every time I’d see his name it’d set me back.

About his behavior? It’s simple. Validation. He wants to see if you still like him even after he’s been awful to you... even though he rejected you. He’d feel like a king every time you entertained him by talking to him again. Like oh she replies? Well I obviously wasn’t that horrible of a guy since she still replies. I’m so great and wonderful and powerful and all women desire me cause my dick is gold plated.


Lol I enjoyed reading your response! Yeah that makes a lot of sense. Validation to know he’s not a terrible person? He’s had it easy with me. I was rarely mean to him after everything. Do you think he will stop now that I’ve done everything to void him out of my life? Including now making my snap profile private.


You probably had every right to be terrible to him. You did what you had to do. I doubt he stops, people with low self esteem (and he seems like he’s that) want to be accepted and liked so badly and when the source that used to validate them so much is gone they’ll miss it. He’ll keep trying to get noticed until he finds someone else that will validate him.

You closing the door on him from every where will likely rile him up so bad cause we all want to be heard and not shut out, so keep closing it on him! He’s likely not to change any time soon so you’ll never get that relationship you want with him any way (unless he changes dramatically). All you can do now is maintain power,


Aww that’s really sad to read. Makes me feel bad for him. I never wanted to hurt him. I still don’t. But he’s wasting my time so that’s why I moved on. My way now is that I’ll only talk to him if he wants to have a serious conversation about our relationship and future. I don’t want to be friends with him. Therefore there’s nothing else to talk about. But that’s if he reaches out and is willing to change dramatically. I like this power.


Don’t feel bad. These are choices he WILLINGLY thought about and chose to make. He probably doesn’t see they’re even wrong or bad.
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He probably doesn’t. I’ll remember that one when I think of him.
Posted by JadeAlexander
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I agree it’s an ego boost for himself. I’ve strung along a poor dude for 18 years. He’s fully aware of the situation and I’m honest about my intentions.

Boredom and validation that I’m still desirable keeps it going..

Block the dude and move on. He’s not into you, he’s into you liking him.


I get so uncomfortable when someone likes me and I don’t feel the same way back!! It’s hard for me to relate to that.



I can’t speak for everyone, but I dated this guy years ago. We have a past from when we were teens.

I’m also a Libra... supposedly we do evil things like this
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I have a libra guy friend who does this with his ex. I don’t understand him either!! Lol you must be detached a bit
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I deleted my Snapchat just few days ago because of something similar. Is it really that dramatic? Not really.. there are 500 other apps to post stories on. Every time I’d see his name it’d set me back.

About his behavior? It’s simple. Validation. He wants to see if you still like him even after he’s been awful to you... even though he rejected you. He’d feel like a king every time you entertained him by talking to him again. Like oh she replies? Well I obviously wasn’t that horrible of a guy since she still replies. I’m so great and wonderful and powerful and all women desire me cause my dick is gold plated.


Lol I enjoyed reading your response! Yeah that makes a lot of sense. Validation to know he’s not a terrible person? He’s had it easy with me. I was rarely mean to him after everything. Do you think he will stop now that I’ve done everything to void him out of my life? Including now making my snap profile private.


You probably had every right to be terrible to him. You did what you had to do. I doubt he stops, people with low self esteem (and he seems like he’s that) want to be accepted and liked so badly and when the source that used to validate them so much is gone they’ll miss it. He’ll keep trying to get noticed until he finds someone else that will validate him.

You closing the door on him from every where will likely rile him up so bad cause we all want to be heard and not shut out, so keep closing it on him! He’s likely not to change any time soon so you’ll never get that relationship you want with him any way (unless he changes dramatically). All you can do now is maintain power,
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Aww that’s really sad to read. Makes me feel bad for him. I never wanted to hurt him. I still don’t. But he’s wasting my time so that’s why I moved on. My way now is that I’ll only talk to him if he wants to have a serious conversation about our relationship and future. I don’t want to be friends with him. Therefore there’s nothing else to talk about. But that’s if he reaches out and is willing to change dramatically. I like this power.
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I can use Snapchat again without considering him when I post stories. So I start posting! But guess who views them..... yep, him! (I didn’t think he could view anymore)

This isn’t new behavior. It’s been going on for several months. I’m just curious to know why he inserts himself in my life when he knows how I feel about him, yet he doesn’t act like he want a relationship with me. Like seriously, what’s the point??


Idk if viewing a snap story is 'inserting himself' into your life. Just block his snapchat handle.
If he wanted back in he would call you...js
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Yea I did already. And now my profile is private. I didn’t know I had to do that. But it’s done now. I won’t lie, I’m wondering if he will call now that there’s nothing left of me lingering around right in front of him. But by that time, I hope I’ll already have a new serious bf! I’m working on it 😁
Posted by JadeAlexander
I agree it’s an ego boost for himself. I’ve strung along a poor dude for 18 years. He’s fully aware of the situation and I’m honest about my intentions.

Boredom and validation that I’m still desirable keeps it going..

Block the dude and move on. He’s not into you, he’s into you liking him.


I get so uncomfortable when someone likes me and I don’t feel the same way back!! It’s hard for me to relate to that.
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Posted by HoneyXx
the fact that you still check to see who "views your stories" leads me to believe you are still holding on to hope, otherwise you would block him completely on there and not just delete him from your list of friends.

if a dude wants to be with you, he will be.
point blank.

stop allowing him to live rent free in your mind.
it's time to move on completely.


There’s a notification on there that tells me when someone looks. I wasn’t expecting to see him honestly.

I do have issues with attachment. I do not just let go by snapping my fingers. It takes me time. I’ve been moving on though. Talking to two guys. Dating one.

I’m just curious about his behavior. Not mine




You will get over him in your own time.

It's okay that you still have feelings.

Perhaps you still do because you haven't learned everything you were supposed to with this particular person.


Thank you for understanding. It’s easy for someone to say just stop thinking about him and move on. But my brain and heart doesn’t work like that. I have detached myself from the relationship so I am moving forward, slowly. That’s progress I’m happy about.


yeah do what you need to protect/ bolster your mental health about the situation

self care is the most important thing.

screw what other people think

you know yourself...you have your own process and it's okay
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Thank you wish there were more like you on here
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Posted by HoneyXx
the fact that you still check to see who "views your stories" leads me to believe you are still holding on to hope, otherwise you would block him completely on there and not just delete him from your list of friends.

if a dude wants to be with you, he will be.
point blank.

stop allowing him to live rent free in your mind.
it's time to move on completely.


There’s a notification on there that tells me when someone looks. I wasn’t expecting to see him honestly.

I do have issues with attachment. I do not just let go by snapping my fingers. It takes me time. I’ve been moving on though. Talking to two guys. Dating one.

I’m just curious about his behavior. Not mine


Venus Pisces got you hooooooked


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Lol I know. It’s hard to unhook myself.
Posted by Caramel_Princess
I deleted my Snapchat just few days ago because of something similar. Is it really that dramatic? Not really.. there are 500 other apps to post stories on. Every time I’d see his name it’d set me back.

About his behavior? It’s simple. Validation. He wants to see if you still like him even after he’s been awful to you... even though he rejected you. He’d feel like a king every time you entertained him by talking to him again. Like oh she replies? Well I obviously wasn’t that horrible of a guy since she still replies. I’m so great and wonderful and powerful and all women desire me cause my dick is gold plated.


Lol I enjoyed reading your response! Yeah that makes a lot of sense. Validation to know he’s not a terrible person? He’s had it easy with me. I was rarely mean to him after everything. Do you think he will stop now that I’ve done everything to void him out of my life? Including now making my snap profile private.
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They are independent. He’s going to do what he wants when he wants to do it. They seem to like to be in control. Let him lead.


True...That's why i needa stay cool, and dxp is the place for me to throw my shxtty thoughts out...hahaa

He's needing his time off i know, and he did message me today with all pics, so... I'm cool as fxk now Hahaa


lol something so simple makes our day. If only men understood that


Exactly, tbh my aqua man he does know it, when he's not having the blocking toilet issue getting him crazy

Eh that’s just an excuse. The busy excuse my aqua has told me a million times. Don’t buy into it.


He wasn't busy, he was just going nuts and grumpy as hell, but nonstop texting me anyway, i was ok tho hahaa... just didnt like it made us not able to see each other before he flew this morning : (
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How long is he gone for?
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Well thing is you can’t dictate what he does. So if it bothers you to see, he’s looking, block him or make Snapchat private. Then he can’t see, problem solved.


Right. Or just remove snapchat totally. I still don't know what that butter is for. Haha! I really hate that app.
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Lol yea I think I might do that again. Just to stay away from it since I’ve had a bad experience with it.
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Well thing is you can’t dictate what he does. So if it bothers you to see, he’s looking, block him or make Snapchat private. Then he can’t see, problem solved.


Yea. I didn’t realize there were private and public settings. I think I’m in the clear then bam lol my luck sucks lately. But at least I can’t stop thinking of my car. Better than him!!!
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Well, it's men thing, I supposed? They tends to want what they can't have. Just ignore and don't even bother trying to figure out why.

This is why I removed myself from social media. I felt blessed and I don't even have the urge to stalk on my exes. You wanna leave, by all means...the door is always open. Just make sure you poof far, far away. 😬😬


Lol that seems like the only way. Which is what I was doing or trying to do. But he still snuck in every time. It wouldn’t surprise me if he did something else. He’s got lots of tricks. I’ll give him that. But maybe that’s the solution. Delete all my social media.


Yep, he prolly just wanna get your attention so that you will try to reach out, which normally if you do, he might reply but then disappear again. If you don't, he will comes with more funny butter, if ya know what I mean. They love the chase. It's a man thing.

And eh, that's the key to happiness. No fb, no Instagram, no snapchat, no nothing. I love it and those curiosity or urge that I've had, they go away the moment I have none of those. It is so damn peaceful!
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Lol I need peace. No more games. I mean i haven’t been hard to get. I’d think I’m the worst chase ever because I hardly ever run away. I kind of think he wants me controlled in his bubble. Lol ugh I feel good to get away!!
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If an Aqua wants anything, he will make it known. This Aqua doesn't want anything. He is just addicted to social media, a thing that many hard working people do. He may be "stalking" a lot of other people as well.


He’s definitely stalking. But why do it for 4 months?


I do this with my exes as well. It means nothing. We are curious, that's all.

Wouldn’t u stop if you knew the other person was uncomfortable with it. If you knew they deleted you?


Did you tell him this? No. He is curious, that;s all. Anyway, he simply ghosted you. That's cowardly, but it should be clear enough for you that there won;t be any turning back. Keep this in mind.

He didn’t ghost me. I can text him right now and he’d answer. A month ago, I got emotional on his ass and drunk texted him a lot because I was pissed about how he’s handling the relationship. I told him how I felt. I did text an embarrassing amount. 😁🙄 He blocked my phone number. This was a good thing for me actually. Still stalking all of my Snapchat stories though. He unblocked me within the week. Soooo he doesn’t stay away when he can and should.

The thing is when I make it clear, when I’m gone for literally 4 to 5 days and i mean completely out of his life, he reaches out one way or another. Maybe block is my only option. But still goes back to Why. Why won’t he just go away if he wants nothing to do with me and I’ve been trying to make it clear to him that I don’t want him in my life anymore??


He blocked you. He is not interested. Your relationship was over months ago. Unless he is contacting you voluntarily, please don;t assume anything else. Focus on yourself.

He unblocked me and started talking to me as if nothing ever happened. I’m not trying to hold onto the relationship. I’m explaining his behavior. Someone not interested would not bother with me soooo much. So it still comes down to why is he still doing these things. I want him to stay away if he’s not interested in dating me. But he isn’t. It’s bothers me.


You cannot explain his behavior as long as you don't understand his way of thinking. He is not interested in having a relationship with you. He blocked you because you were "dangerous" to him. He's cooled down now. You don't want him by far to stay away from him, because you are still here on dxp, wishing to see more on his behavior than it is.
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I do feel differently than you. I think his behavior goes deeper than that emotionally but it’s not because I want him to be that way. It’s a mind game. Some sort of mental issue or block or disorder. Something way more than I can figure out. That’s my biggest guess honestly.
Posted by Senorita_LL
Well, it's men thing, I supposed? They tends to want what they can't have. Just ignore and don't even bother trying to figure out why.

This is why I removed myself from social media. I felt blessed and I don't even have the urge to stalk on my exes. You wanna leave, by all means...the door is always open. Just make sure you poof far, far away. 😬😬


Lol that seems like the only way. Which is what I was doing or trying to do. But he still snuck in every time. It wouldn’t surprise me if he did something else. He’s got lots of tricks. I’ll give him that. But maybe that’s the solution. Delete all my social media.