How to deal with a Cancer man early on and for the first time.

I met a cancer man and have been talking to him for about two months. I've never dated or gotten to know a cancer man before so I honestly had no idea what I was getting myself into. I am a Pisces woman.

We met through work and only talked on conference calls for well over a year, never met. Turns out he was drawn to me by my voice and personality just from the conference calls, as I was him... Well he told me a couple of months on a call that he was coming to my city to do some work at this office (his branch often does). I felt like my heart fell to the floor.. I was like ok I have to make sure nails are done, hair etc., for the week he is going to be here, I can't be looking crazy. lol.

Well, I'm trying to make a long story short here... he was even better looking than I imagined.. so I was kind of shy in talking to him lol we didn't talk much as we were both working and on different sides of the building, but i WANTED to talk to him. I ended up making the first move and texting him, we met for dinner and drinks. There's one nugget here, I'm married but going through what might be a separation or a divorce - it's been really bad. So I told him this during our dinner when he asked a question I answered and told him "Well I am married" It seemed his whole facial expression just changed like it was the most shocking news he had ever heard. I ended up moving out of my house and in with a friend as anticipated and me and the cancer continued talking. He opened up about having two failed marriage and explain what happened a little, his last marriage his wife caught him talking to another woman so she divorced him. He told me that he is a very guarded person and protects himself (his emotions/heart I'm assuming). We have had A LOT of back and forth, he will have these moments where the smallest thing will just make him say "I'm done talking", "goodbye", "I'm blocking your number"., etc., but then we always end up talking again. About a week ago, on a Saturday, I don't remember what we were talking about but he pulled his old "I'm done, take care, etc." So I said goodbye back, but we never really stopped talking that day lol. My feelings were hurt and I even cried because he can be very harsh and I am a sensitive fish. Well that night we were texting and he randomly says "Who else are you talking to and DO NOT lie", I was shocked!! He has said something like this before when we stopped talking "You probably already have some other dude you are talking to" All i said was "wow" and he said "Yep. That's what I thought". I mean, I really just couldn't believe it because that was not the case AT ALL! Totally interested all in with this man! So, back to Saturday, he asked and I told him that I had JUST downloaded a dating app THAT day (which was the truth because this man has told me so many times he is done talking and honestly has made me cry more times than I can count for doing that). At first he was like "Oh well that's good to know, I bet your getting all kinds of hits so far" and I just responded "Yeah" and he said "Well let me know when you really start talking to someone else". I asked him why did he want to know, because he hasn't even expressed how he feels about me. He said "I just think I should know. It's just courtesy to tell me if you're talking to someone else"... Then a couple hours later he brought it up again saying "What if i don't want you to talk to anyone else...." I said well all you have to do is tell me... and he never responded back to that statement (we continued talking he just didn't acknowledge that I said that) ..so whatever.. I had the app for not even two days. The second day he brought it up again "Any hits on that dating app" I told him no and that I was going to delete it he asked why and I said because I liked him.. and he said "Well I am telling you right now I don't care that you're on there" and i said "oh" (and actually started crying). Then he proceeded to say "And don't take that the wrong way, I'm just not going to stress about it or hold your hand over the coals and make you do something" I told him i was going to go for awhile because i was upset. So the next day I had told him I deleted it and he asked why, well, i had talked to guy on the phone for 15 minutes and he was wanting to meet me and expressing himself etc., and i just realized it was too soon and I didn't want that, I explained to him a little in detail about all of it and HE FLIPPED OUT! Immediately! Said he was blocking my number and deleting the app that we talked on., etc., I mean it was horrible how he reacted. A little caveat.. I also noticed how early on if I didn't respond to him quick enough he would get an attitude and say things like "Oh you must be busy etc" and you can tell when each other is active on this one app so he would sit there and watch and wait for me to respond. Anyway, so it's been about 6 days since the whole telling him about the app and 4 since he FLIPPED out.. we've still talked but he WILL NOT stop bringing that up... this morning i wake to "If you really want to talk to other guys while talking to me then just tell me"...etc..etc... I ended up just telling him i'm tired of putting in the effort when he can't even tell me how he feels...says he doesn't care about the app then when i told him i had a conversation with someone he flips. that didn't make sense to me...if you feel a certain way why not just say it. anyways, I've been confused if this even means he likes me? He hasn't told me. Today he said "I don't know what to do, because I know I can't give you everything you need/want" I asked him what he meant by that and he didn't respond... I even tried to guess... and he was taking some time so I just ended conversating with him... I told him to take care.. and right now I don't even want to talk to him.. but this always happens, i'm sure i'll want to in a couple of hours or days.. it's just hard because I really really like this man. He is just the most confusing man I have ever met in my life.

Hey Bella

You giving him the power to control you.. he is will never finish I’m Pisces I was in the same shit until He harmed my self esteem.. he is insecure man.. the remedy is one thing be realistic and stand your ground and tell him that you don’t want for your self and you want a real man who knows what he wants.. and you think you both don’t match and wish him good luck in a nice way and disappear vanish.. block him or do anything be strong.. completely strong Strand up and feel it.. this playing games is useless.. be direct and straightforward and value ur self and respect ur self.. let him see the strong part of you that will surprise him.. and go NC for a month until he behave like a proper man.

You’re still married. Didn’t tell him you were married. Pursued him while you were still married. Dating app or not, his insecurities and trust issues with you started when you didn’t tell him you were married and still pursued him while still married and living under the same roof with another man.

I would have trust issues too, wouldn’t you?