hullo

hay Im an aquarius guy and I moved in with my ex recently who is a cancer.....I think hes an amazing guy but i have a hard time showing him sometimes.....because he condescends alot to me and he acts like his older and wiser and I have this huge complex that I cant let him get his way.....I'm always trying to prove a point to him....like he asks me to come to bed with him but i hate being asked like its expected of me but I'm like you ont own me were not in a relationship so i stay up late on the internet because i feel like hes trying to own me or something....

I am a weird person......but he is soooooo weird and I find it really hard to explain it or get my head around it especially sometimes I think hes manipulating well I know he does....but I cant keep my cool...I always try to act like an adult but in the end I turn out like the kid or something.

he acts so pretentious when he courts me to have sex with him he acts sleazy and stuff like its a turn on but it isnt.

also he always makes out he pays my way....yes he does alot of the time and I'm grateful but he never lets me pay for him sorta I got paid and he had no money he takes $ 20 out of my wallet and we go to have dinner with his firend and asks me what am I drinking and to me I think hes making out to his friend that he pays my way...... and like tonight I spent $ 30 on chinese but he cooks himself burritos! he always has to decide what we do like where we go out what leisure activites we do and he wont do anything i want to do.....he cant even watch a dvd with me that I have picked....he says I'm cold for not being all cosy with him....but I want him to just do things my way for a bit and it would make me more in the mood or something. Its like the situation has gone way out of hand for who is in control....he wants me to give in and make me see that Im stupid and he is right but I cant because I'm not.....i talk about astrology alot and he thinks Im stupid for it becuse he saw me on this site and on the hot topic banner it said "geminis and cooking" n he laughed at me

anyways i want to know whats going on with him if u guys can help i can provide more information I want to arm myself somehow and not let him get the better of me

first of all im not gay but i can see where yuh cominq frm...but i truthfully dnt see a solution but hopefully one of these cancer people mite help you out..quickly

Dear, I guess you are portraying here a power struggle. Is this love? are you happy in the relationship?
Why do you stay with this crabman?
I guess the crab has a control issue, crabs can be quite possessive and love things their way. Aquas are more rational and not so emotional...I have the feeling from what you tell that it is some sort of power thing..he is testing to see how far you go standing his ways..
Are you in love?
What are your expectations?

personally..i thnk you just stay with him for shelter & sexual pleasure (no homo) until you get yourself situated...lo siento..my cancer side is talkinq

yeh I'm just staying with him till i get my shit sorted and a place which will be in a few weeks I am not with him for the sex Its hard for me to have sex with guys initiate with me because I want to be the one in control I want to have it badly so I come to them not the other way round and hes always hitting on me trying to make him sleep with him hahaha not gonna happen......I love him like a brother but I am not in love with him I know he loves me too he stares at me and combs his fingers through my hair and when he gets too intense i back away....I told him that he doesnt know how to love me ..... if he loves me then he would try and take interest in the things that i like and just be my friend....his idea of love is totally different to mine....he doesnt know how to love me and I make it clear its never gonna be the way it was
but we do like each others company.....most of the time. well recently not so much because we have been aruging

I was in my home town and he contacts me on facebook when he just got back in from living in america saying he got a new pad and wants me to come visit him and I said i cant afford to just come visit and that im moving to a different state for work and then he said i can live with him for a while if i want anways the job fell through at the other plce and i took up his offer.....

anyways everytime were around his friends he ignores me......which to me i don't give a fuck....cos from now on when he wants me to go have dinner with them I'll just say no....but its never that simple he always has a way of getting what he wants and he openely admits it which is why i need to give him a taste of his own medicine and put him in his place.

usually I'm good at mind games but he doesnt have a conscious lol Arguing with him just emotionally drains me because he has this way of making me feel shit about myself whether its dissapointment tactics or bringing out the stubborn person in me...I can attack his ego if i wnt or offend him but its always at the point when I'm angry and I go overboard....which is not what i want to do.

I need tools so I can diffuse, tame and make him comply lol

I don't know if you can be taught how to emotionally manipulate... that's what he's doing to you.

He's coming at so many different angles and getting you so pissed, he's forcing you to loose your cool and strike back in anger. Thus... he wins

He's undermining your choices... taunting you by asking your opinion, then rejecting it. He wins.

You need him,(place to stay)... so he thinks he can pretty much do whatever he wants to you, like being a sleaze and chasing you for sex. He wins again.

The only thing you can do is leave. Even if you threatened to leave, he'd see through it and start a whole new game. It's kinda pointless trying to beat a Cancer at this. I used to do this kind of shit... only one who could best me at it was a Scorpio.

Nothing for you... I'll pass you on to another Crab.

well i guess its alright knowing i have a scorpio moon i guess

^^ sounds good so i need to compare our mars and venus signs eh?

Negative aspect: Their style s in expressing love, and their preferred way to receive love, are at odds. This can be a real nuisance because there can be a lot of misunderstandings and wasted energy trying to explain oneself.


egative aspect: Their relationship will sometimes be agreeable, sometimes disturbed. They will like to share their ideas which are not always to the other's taste, so that they may have interminable discussions in order to convince each other of their mistakes, lack of judgement or lack of taste.


lol look at what came up and its so true

Aww 11th sign, I understand your confusion......there is no way you should be with this guy because he is just trying to control you to do what he does and he wants all the time.

Providing shelter is his way of keeping you under his thumb. That's all it is. There needs to be a shift in power because he just gonna manipulate you till you leave.

Plus you don't want this guy anyways......just do what you have to do till you can get out. :-)