BriannaLeo
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Ignoring Cancer
Reading this stuff really makes me realize the differences between leos and cancers.
I am a leo girl with a cancer man. He's pretty typical in a lot of ways and is prone to bouts of moodiness. It's really not all that bad if you come to understand some things. What's hard for us leos is to not take their mood swings so personally. That is absolutely key to getting through them unscathed.
Remain strong and draw from your own reserves of self-love to keep going. I understand how their moods can really bring us down and cool our natural warmth. It's probably not that his feelings for you have changed at all. In fact, he'll probably love you even more as time goes on if you can ride it out with him and stick by his side. It'll feed his need to feel secure.
What helps me when he's in a funk, and I feel it start to rub off on me, is to openly discuss the process. I use a gentle approach and just let him know what I'm going through. If I feel that I need some TLC I just tell him and he is there for me. I have come to realize, as a leo myself, that I can go for a while with just a little bit of good lovin'. Also, I keep myself busy and turn to my other adoring fans for the ego boost 😛 I won't lie, it truly does me a world of good to just go out and receive a little attention from others sometimes. I don't need a whole lot of it like some leos do because a little goes a long way for me. It still helps immensely and keeps my warm, loving side firmly in tact.
So don't play mind games with him. It's a huge turn-off and cancers are much better at emotional blackmail/manipulation than we are. Play up your leonine strengths. So, yes, go do your own thing and take care of you for now. Don't ignore him, let him know you're still there for him, but don't get sucked into his mood is all. Leave him alone and he should return in no time.
I am a leo girl with a cancer man. He's pretty typical in a lot of ways and is prone to bouts of moodiness. It's really not all that bad if you come to understand some things. What's hard for us leos is to not take their mood swings so personally. That is absolutely key to getting through them unscathed.
Remain strong and draw from your own reserves of self-love to keep going. I understand how their moods can really bring us down and cool our natural warmth. It's probably not that his feelings for you have changed at all. In fact, he'll probably love you even more as time goes on if you can ride it out with him and stick by his side. It'll feed his need to feel secure.
What helps me when he's in a funk, and I feel it start to rub off on me, is to openly discuss the process. I use a gentle approach and just let him know what I'm going through. If I feel that I need some TLC I just tell him and he is there for me. I have come to realize, as a leo myself, that I can go for a while with just a little bit of good lovin'. Also, I keep myself busy and turn to my other adoring fans for the ego boost 😛 I won't lie, it truly does me a world of good to just go out and receive a little attention from others sometimes. I don't need a whole lot of it like some leos do because a little goes a long way for me. It still helps immensely and keeps my warm, loving side firmly in tact.
So don't play mind games with him. It's a huge turn-off and cancers are much better at emotional blackmail/manipulation than we are. Play up your leonine strengths. So, yes, go do your own thing and take care of you for now. Don't ignore him, let him know you're still there for him, but don't get sucked into his mood is all. Leave him alone and he should return in no time.
We ALL understand you so well here!!
All us ladies dating Crabs know too well that feeling of being ignored, or not feeling totally loved or recognized by the other...
Unfortunately there is not much you can do, apart from accept the fact they will make you feel like that from time to time and that is just the way they are, and trusting they love you and it is not meant to hurt you though it does.
It helps not to become obsessive and take it so personal, and just do your own thing...
If your relationship fulfills you then you will be able to get through those bumps...I know they hurt like HELL, I am there myself too, I can totally understand you, but try to focus on all the good things that keep you going on with him...
All us ladies dating Crabs know too well that feeling of being ignored, or not feeling totally loved or recognized by the other...
Unfortunately there is not much you can do, apart from accept the fact they will make you feel like that from time to time and that is just the way they are, and trusting they love you and it is not meant to hurt you though it does.
It helps not to become obsessive and take it so personal, and just do your own thing...
If your relationship fulfills you then you will be able to get through those bumps...I know they hurt like HELL, I am there myself too, I can totally understand you, but try to focus on all the good things that keep you going on with him...
Posted by BriannaLeo
Can ignoring a Cancer get him to choose if he's in or out in relationship? My Cancer does it to me all the time, crushing my Leo pride. I'm sick of one day him being in love with me and the next day acting like he never confessed his love the day before. I don't want to keep replying to his texts never knowing which mood he's in.
I want to go into my own shell and take care of myself instead of letting him use my heart like his personal volleyball. If I stop replying to him will he run away forever or seek me out somehow.
Water douses fire, and everything burns. It is one of the ultimate elemental paradoxes. Must be fun though!
~GM
Is it time to walk away from this cancer man?
752#2228193">Posted by JusMe
Is it time to walk away from this cancer man?
Is it time to walk away from this cancer man?
You won't have to. He'll walk away first.
~GM
~GM
From my experience the more you ingore the more they cling and contact you!
Posted by JusMe
Is it time to walk away from this cancer man?
Why do you say that? What I've learned from these boards is this is normal for these guys. They need time to process their feelings...they're moody...they move sideways like a crab...
Posted by GeminiMind
You won't have to. He'll walk away first.
~GM
Oh he won't walk away.
It seems this "adapting" period is a constant in Crabs, until the trusting comes (which can take a looong time)
If he sticks around, it's because he is interested, but he probably doesn't want to show it, as we all know Crabs hide their emotions, specially if the relationship is new or in the first stages.
What is his Moon in?
My Crab has a Capricorn Moon, so I guess apart from his natural Crabby shell, he has an ADDITIONAL CAPPY shell, figure that!!! It is a bunker!!! 🙂
But well they say fishes can get through those walls...hopefully time will tell
Posted by PiscesArgie
What is his Moon in?
How do I figure this out?
Posted by PiscesArgiePosted by GeminiMind
You won't have to. He'll walk away first.
~GM
Oh he won't walk away.
It seems this "adapting" period is a constant in Crabs, until the trusting comes (which can take a looong time)
If he sticks around, it's because he is interested, but he probably doesn't want to show it, as we all know Crabs hide their emotions, specially if the relationship is new or in the first stages.
What is his Moon in?
My Crab has a Capricorn Moon, so I guess apart from his natural Crabby shell, he has an ADDITIONAL CAPPY shell, figure that!!! It is a bunker!!! 🙂
But well they say fishes can get through those walls...hopefully time will tellclick to expand
I'm sorry babe, but he will. The Pisces is always the last to know. It's sad, because Pisces tend to surround themselves with people who make them "feel" good about themselves. These people are enablers, thus they would never say when they smelled a rat. I could tell you about some scenarios that support this. But, do you really want to know?
~GM
I'm having trouble trying to forget this leo man 😢 I'm reading on here that Leos don't play games but this one I was seeing seems to be. He keeps popping up every so often and its so irritating because I'm thinking this is done but up he pops up again bringing back feelings. Is this common with Leos? We only dated about 2 months and by the first month he was telling me that he was falling for me and talked about moving in together. Although inwardly I was happy I was also wary that the relationship progressed too quickly. In hindsight I realize I was kind cool and aloof (a no no with Leos from what Im reading here). I kind of put him through the ringer in the beginning to see if his feelings were genuine. I could sense he backed away a little but was still great when we were together but then he disappears for a week with no contact. He says it was work related and said we??ll spend everyday together as soon as he gets back. Of course I flipped out and when he returned I broke it off with him. I regretted it and eventually contacted him. We met up and I could sense a change in him. He was aloof and distant. We were constantly fighting after this and I was done. But then he says he wants to be together but will disappear for awhile. Do you think he is done? And is doing this to get back at me? WTF I thought Leos didn't play games? I want him back but not willing to be treated like a fool in the process.
Can cancer women on here share their experiences with leo men?
Can cancer women on here share their experiences with leo men?
Ooops sorry I didn't mean to post on this topic.
I can't figure out how to create my own topic. Help lol
I can't figure out how to create my own topic. Help lol
Posted by BriannaLeoPosted by PiscesArgie
What is his Moon in?
How dOK here goes, met this guy (Cancer) great chemistry, etc., sweet nothings etc., then he told me he did'nt think it would work out between us .............. I was very upset at this outcome as I assumed that we had gelled quite well he told me he had never been drawn to or liked someone so instantly as he had with me I was one of the most likeable, interesting people he had ever met ........... confusing signals. We had had sex (which was entirely against my own rules) but hey ho so double whammy for me.
So I am now not only hurt but feeling quite cheap as well!!
Couple of days later he contacts me by text to ask if I am OK - I said GREAT how are you?? He said he had the blues but did'nt want to talk about it ........ would I like contact I said OK however I kept the conversation on a 'friendzone' level as did he - however as I liked him so much my feelings were developing even more over this period of time.
More confusion - he called me everyday - he responded to my text within seconds - however I was concerned he was just stringing me (he is a loner) and I was just someone to talk to. After much introspection and during our telephone conversation I said to him ' I don't know what it is you want from me' ............... he said he did'nt know either he is confused ........... and did'nt want to hurt me again - so I told him I could'nt be his friend, which upset him as he said he loves talking to me but I felt strong enough to say that I was'nt prepared to hang around whilst he sought 'clarity' as I valued myself too much and I had other offers on the table and he was holding me in a place. Finished the call by saying I maybe would call him when I was next in town !!
Few days later feeling sad and sorry 'AGAIN' I texted him to said I missed him terribly and I hoped he was OK ?? ........... he responded by saying he was missing me too but he was so stressed he can't think straight (workload) and probably would be like this until he returns from his business trip which is couple of weeks away - he finished text by saying he Hoped I was OK ??
WTF is going on here - what should I do —
Move on (which is not what I want to do) I want him, and I want to l
Hmmm....
from my experience, they absolutely hate being ignored "intentionally" they will read through it and turn the situation against u (it could be that my cancer ex was manipulative). So u better not ignore him but show him u r busy too (which still annoyed my ex bf, i guees cause he has leo mars and wanted to be the centre of the relationship). what is his mars?
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