I'm so ticked off right now!

This really isn't astrology related, but I just need some feedback.

Almost a year ago I had a falling out with my ex friend (Capricorn), it really should have ended long ago. Since then I've grown closer to my best friend (Capricorn). The ex friend and best friend's daughters go to the same day care, but other than that they have no connection other than they both know me. After the falling out, I didn't expect my best friend to stop talking with my ex friend completely, but I thought that she understand how much pain I went through with her and that she would be mindful of that when dealing with her on a limited basis.

Well today my best friend texts me and tells me that she extended an olive branch to my ex friend to come to a purse party that another friend of hers is having. My best friend talks crap about my ex friend all the time not to mention all the things she's said and done to me over the years. Also, she's the epitome of white trash. I feel betrayed that she asked her to go to that. I did move to another state and I'm not saying I want to pick who her friends are...but I feel like she's not even considering my feelings. I would understand if they were previously really good friends, but they were only acquaintances before all this. Why she feels the need to pursue a friendship with a person who did me so wrong, not to mention the fact that she doesn't even like her very much. My feelings are just really hurt right now and I feel guilty even feeling that way because I know I have no control.

Am I wrong to be offended and upset about this?

Hmm... I used to have a Cappy bestie. Lots of drama. In my experience she would befriend anyone but also talk smack about that person so her friendships never lasted long. I don't think your feelings on this are unusual, I just don't think you Cappy friend sees it like you do. Kinda oblivious in the 'emotional' realm. I'd be ticked off too... especially if they'd be talking about me.

You could always let her know how you feel? Indirectly, of course...

Yeah sometimes she's just so oblivious. She does the stupidest crap all the time and then is totally shocked when it comes back to bite her in the a $ $ . I don't understand why she'd want anything to do with her, she caused me a lot of trouble and I was really upset for a long time after the fallout.

I was thinking that if she mentions it to me again then at that point I'm going to say something like "why would you even want to hang out with her?". I've been avoiding her tonight because I don't know how to approach the situation, when I'm hurt like this my initial reaction is to hide but then almost immediately I feel the need to lash out and tell her just what I think. I'm trying to let it die down before I open my mouth.

Posted by LunarLady720
when I'm hurt like this my initial reaction is to hide but then almost immediately I feel the need to lash out and tell her just what I think. I'm trying to let it die down before I open my mouth.

The least amount of pain inflicted, while yielding the most favorable results, is always a good plan of action

Hi Lunar! You dont know me but I've read a lot of your posts over the last several days & I think you sound like a very nice person. I hope my post will help you to seen this from another perspective where you wont feel as hurt and betrayed.

I'm a Virgo and my bff is a Cap and we are very much alike so here is my take: I disagree w/ your friend reaching out to the ex friend if she really wronged you many times in the past and has proven she's not a nice person AND your bf knows this and has witnessed it for herself. However, I do not believe in jumping in and taking sides based on one person's 'story' if I think I genuinely like both people. If someone has warned me about someone I may be a little less trusting w/ that person but I do not take sides in other peoples squabbles on the basis of heresay. I let my own experiences w/ a person shape my opinion of them.

I understand your feelings of betrayal and I dont know your friend so I cant say what her motivation is (if any). Maybe she is just seeking some ~drama~ in her life, some people do that (altho my Cap friend HATES drama) but she may have the same attitude as I "live and learn".

Thanks to everyone for the good advice.

Seems to me that the universe took care of my problem for me. 45 minutes before the party, my ex-friend bailed on my friend. Is anyone surprised? not me. At that point I said to my friend "I don't understand why you would ask her in the first place, you know what kind of person she is" and she said something to the effect of "I just thought she may want to be included and mingle with some of the other moms". After that my friend pretty much felt like a dumba $ $ for reaching out.

Actually when my ex friend and I stopped talking last year, my friend tried to be befriend her but my ex friend pretty much told her she didn't want to be involved with her if she was still friends with me. Wouldn't that turn most people off from trying to make a friendship with someone? Apparently not.

I'm so discouraged about all my friends right now. I don't feel like any of them are truly there for me, unless it suits their purposes. Every time I meet someone new I feel like what's the point? I'm just gonna get screwed over by someone else. I try to be the friend that people would want, I send cards and little gifts to them, I check in with them to see how they are, and it takes me a long time to feel like I can be open but after I open up I end up regretting it almost immediately. 😢

u have eery right to feel that way, but ur cappy bff also has every right to be friends with whomever she wants. u should tell her how u feel if u feel its tht big of a deal, or u should let it. all i can say about this is that ppl change...