Cancer (little) girl antics

..how do you handle them?

One of the little Cancer girls I know is the strangest kid I have come across. When she gets emotional, it's a gone case. She can behave like a demented soul out of an asylum. This kinda thing is new to me; Cancers have never shown me this side of them.. at least Cancers I know.

Now, is it controllable.. and how do you get a Cancer to behave without resorting to manipulations (which I ABHOR?).
This little girl is one of the most bossy, domineering and crazy kids I have had the fortune to meet.

Now she is more difficult than even a Piscean!

Now I just want tips on how

*I can gently get her to behave
*Get her to stop her manipulative antics

or

*just tell me it's part and parcel of cancer and I should just accept it.

Thanks!

Posted by THEKingofLibra
My philosophy on kids is simple. Beat them.

I can't do that.. that is not my kid. I tried scolding her and she became more insane than ever.
It dies down, though, after some person emotionally manipulates her.. but I refuse to do that for her because I feel nothing!

*Not that I don't feel for this girl - I do like her as a kid.

Dude you obviously don't understand a Cancer woman.

I scolded her and she became more insane. Only an optimum level of emotion will make her behave. I just don't have that skill.

I will NEVER lay a hand on this one; not my cup of tea.

If I don't make it with this one, I swear I don't want a Cancer girl kid. It requires a special skill for a Cancer girl. I'm pretty sure a Libra doesn't have that.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Yeah you lack discipline 😄

You need to dominate these bitches. An iron will, an unwavering, unfuckable ideology. "You do what I say, how I say, and no alternatives."

Take no prisoners. Kids respond to authority figures, not sissies. And Cancer bitches put on all sorts of sarcasm against you. That can't be changed.

Yeah I think she only listens to men.. 😛

Posted by Claire
Maybe her parents are spoiling her or something??

I doubt very much this has anything to do with her star sign really, as girls of all signs can be little divas. 🙂

Yes you're right, but I can tell you I can't handle her when her emotions run havoc. It calms down again and disappears but I cant control that side of her. And I tell you; pisces I can do fine with..

I'm just saying.. this one.. is stronger than me. Cancer is stronger than Libra emotionally. Cardinals are the boss, but Cancers got an edge 😄. I think she responds to people she knows. I'm just a stranger who refuses to bullbutter her with sweet words! lmao!

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Pisces are easy. You show them kindness and they love you back. Cancers are violent.

The first day I met her she showed me her most insane side. I asked her, wtf? Why are you like this? She said, don't worry, as I get to know you more, I will be a good girl.

LMAO!

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Girls have emotional waves. Ups and Downs. Wait till she is weak, at her low, and attack her strong spots. Drive into her psyche like a corkscrew. Break that bitch down.

dude I can tell you you need some therapy for your unresolved hatred for a few Cancers. Try those at your school; it is free.

As for me; I have no interest in breaking her down at all. I just want to know what to say to her or etc. so I can get my job done. Her mental psyche is not my business at this time. Sorry but I am matter of fact.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Girls have emotional waves. Ups and Downs. Wait till she is weak, at her low, and attack her strong spots. Drive into her psyche like a corkscrew. Break that bitch down.

And Cancers especially show that tide.. apparently you're addicted/ fascinated by it.. a Cancer is the most womanly woman.

Hmmm, I don't really know if that's a Cancer thing. As a child I was very shy with people I didn't know and only really opened up with people I knew well. With my parents I can remember showing my a $ $ a few times, but as I got older I figured out that I got better stuff when I was nice. Sounds like this kid is just a brat, probably just a result of bad parenting.

Posted by wineaux
@spica - how old is she? i know a 6 year old who might as well be the demon spawn who behaves like this...but i know why she does it so i'm wondering what the background might be. age, parental unit(s), etc..

I think she is 10. She's the most difficult of all the little kiddos. It's not that she's mental, or anything. It's just her personality - very strong and emotionally overriding. There is a special recipe for that. I think it's her family members. Oh, and she gave me a sticker the other day. So, and she's getting *much* better.

I just wrote it because it's new to me, is all.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
BTW spica I keep telling you this but nothing is registering.. what is the deal with those anal beads in your profile pic??

Those are *bag charms*. For external use; not internal. Which part of B a g c h a r m s don't you understand? You need some of those??

Posted by PurrHiss
I'm just curious, because when I hear words like "demented", I think of little sociopaths running around killing animals and starting fires. The truly sick, cruel kids.

Yeah. I used an exaggeratingly cruel term which I shouldn't have. But she can do insane very well. She said she acts insane - to scare me away. No, doesn't work 😄

@Spica: I know a Cancer little girl who acts just like what you described! I thought I was mean to think those things but she is CONSTANTLY demanding attention. Cries when things don't go her way. Demands that the adults in the room listen to her and only watch what she wants on TV. Her grandmother spoils her and I think that is her problem. When her father is home (he doesnt live there), she is not as bad. She is 8 years old. For her age, she really acts very babyish. My Taurus daughter NEVER acted like that and would be mortified if she embarrassed herself like this Cancer girl does. I sometimes can't take it and have to go home and take a pill...lol

Posted by spica
..how do you handle them?

One of the little Cancer girls I know is the strangest kid I have come across. When she gets emotional, it's a gone case. She can behave like a demented soul out of an asylum. This kinda thing is new to me; Cancers have never shown me this side of them.. at least Cancers I know.

Now, is it controllable.. and how do you get a Cancer to behave without resorting to manipulations (which I ABHOR?).
This little girl is one of the most bossy, domineering and crazy kids I have had the fortune to meet.

Now she is more difficult than even a Piscean!

Now I just want tips on how

*I can gently get her to behave
*Get her to stop her manipulative antics

or

*just tell me it's part and parcel of cancer and I should just accept it.

Thanks!

My only advice is to keep her OCCUPIED!! I try to bring new games or something to divert her attention, also, sometimes a playmate her age will keep her busy for awhile. *sigh*

We are talking about children aren't we? Why is there so much focus on their sun sign when the fact that they are children should be paramount in this discussion? Children of all signs are not fully developed so they will act out
in ways that adults may or may not find appropriate. Is the person who posted this thread a teacher or parent? Who are they to this "demented" cancer child?

Posted by guest1
We are talking about children aren't we? Why is there so much focus on their sun sign when the fact that they are children should be paramount in this discussion? Children of all signs are not fully developed so they will act out
in ways that adults may or may not find appropriate. Is the person who posted this thread a teacher or parent? Who are they to this "demented" cancer child?

Because its an astrology forum?

Posted by wineaux
by the way...i love your lampwork beads. did you do them??

ok, so your typical child will react to an environment that doesn't make them comfortable - so they act out. children don't develop the capability of handling their emotions for YEARS. shit, i acted out at 21 because i couldn't handle things. if there's not a stable parental unit around that can discipline (and i'm not talking like spanking) their children then they will act out. at 10 years old, they are affected by their environment, be it tv or what's happening at home or other external circumstances. it's hard to raise a child - and unfortunately there is no uni or school or class anyone can take to make it work. we're all in a state of higher learning.

the one i know that is the 'demon's spawn' happens to be a cancer, but it has nothing to do with her sun sign. it's a problem of abandonment and people that can't handle her not being unhappy so they give her what she wants, which is what causes her to act out. it sucks...we all grew up with a story. but it's how you write the future and that's the only way to change it. it's all about changing a situation and making it what it should be and not what it is. show me one person who had an amazing childhood and i'll show you a $ 3 bill.

Those are gemstone beads. No, didn't make them.

I don't want to talk about this girl anymore. But her parents are run-of-the-mill working class parents. I really want to know her mum's sign, but I think the mum is a gemini or some air sign. She says her little girl only listens to her father. Father - I saw him.. he looks lie either Cancer or Capricorn - I think he's a Capricorn - the taskmaster of Cancer.

You didn't get what I was saying. I actually know what I am writing about. I have seen all sorts of kids act out, but the Cancer type of huge emotional control is too difficult for me to handle. But I speak from an outsider POV - she doesn't know how to behave in front of strangers 😛

Posted by PurrHiss
Aww, I'm glad to hear that she's doing better! 🙂

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Tell her the devil is going to get her if she doesn't calm the fuck down.

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Posted by TheLadySagittarius
@Spica: I know a Cancer little girl who acts just like what you described! I thought I was mean to think those things but she is CONSTANTLY demanding attention. Cries when things don't go her way. Demands that the adults in the room listen to her and only watch what she wants on TV. Her grandmother spoils her and I think that is her problem. When her father is home (he doesnt live there), she is not as bad. She is 8 years old. For her age, she really acts very babyish. My Taurus daughter NEVER acted like that and would be mortified if she embarrassed herself like this Cancer girl does. I sometimes can't take it and have to go home and take a pill...lol

Sh!!t, I think this is the *same* girl. At least someone on thi thread relates and taps in _directly_! I could think she is 8 too, and yes, exactly regarding her grandmother.. almost the same story.

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
My only advice is to keep her OCCUPIED!! I try to bring new games or something to divert her attention, also, sometimes a playmate her age will keep her busy for awhile. *sigh*

She has a sister! I think she's a Pisces/Aries!

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Posted by spica
Now she is more difficult than even a Piscean!

WHAT!!? =/

Pisces aren't meant to be controlled/possessed we are free spirits😛

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You gotta admit Pisceans are difficult in themselves! 😛
An air sign can't control a water sign - only a dam can - and it has to be a rock of Gilbratar type.
I've seen a Pisces boy soak his mother - Taurus to the skin and smash her Earthy structure to muddy smithereens - you water signs are powerful indeed - the pisces is like the trickling water - it seeps insidiously and destroys things in it's path - slowly 🙂

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
@Spica: I know a Cancer little girl who acts just like what you described! I thought I was mean to think those things but she is CONSTANTLY demanding attention. Cries when things don't go her way. Demands that the adults in the room listen to her and only watch what she wants on TV. Her grandmother spoils her and I think that is her problem. When her father is home (he doesnt live there), she is not as bad. She is 8 years old. For her age, she really acts very babyish. My Taurus daughter NEVER acted like that and would be mortified if she embarrassed herself like this Cancer girl does. I sometimes can't take it and have to go home and take a pill...lol

I think Taurus makes the best daughters. I'd like a Taurus girl next time 🙂.
I've seen that girl's grandma. I mean she is nice, but I think she has a huge role to play in that little girl's behavior.
What you wrote is like some Deja Vu! It shows me synchronicity works in a parallel universe. This girl is born on 1 July (didnt ask her year). I know 1st Julys are big bosses.

Posted by spica

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
@Spica: I know a Cancer little girl who acts just like what you described! I thought I was mean to think those things but she is CONSTANTLY demanding attention. Cries when things don't go her way. Demands that the adults in the room listen to her and only watch what she wants on TV. Her grandmother spoils her and I think that is her problem. When her father is home (he doesnt live there), she is not as bad. She is 8 years old. For her age, she really acts very babyish. My Taurus daughter NEVER acted like that and would be mortified if she embarrassed herself like this Cancer girl does. I sometimes can't take it and have to go home and take a pill...lol

I think Taurus makes the best daughters. I'd like a Taurus girl next time 🙂.
I've seen that girl's grandma. I mean she is nice, but I think she has a huge role to play in that little girl's behavior.
What you wrote is like some Deja Vu! It shows me synchronicity works in a parallel universe. This girl is born on 1 July (didnt ask her year). I know 1st Julys are big bosses.

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Lol @ parallel universe

Posted by wineaux
@spica - i wasn't trying to be rude...i'm sorry if i came across condescending. i was just trying to understand a little more about her family situation before making assessments because my little demon has so much chaos in her past that is causing her to act out. apparently we all know the same child because this ^^ is EXACTLY how she behaves. does she live in southern california? 😉

No, not at the same loc. that's why I told TLS about parallel universes - I mean it can exist all on Earth too.

Posted by capeecan
spica,

This little cancer girl sounds like she has a case of the "Helen Keller" (HK) syndrome. HK was a crab. Helen use to make good sport of the teachers her parents sent to her for "learning." She'ld smack 'em, misbehave, etc... until they were gone. This is a cancer's way of saying, "if you aren't going to come and enter into my world and stay and love me then I am going to make your world hell." Of course we know the story, her teacher (name?) smacked little HK back and entered into her world and refused to leave, and the little HK then surrendered to her, slowly.

This is a cancer defense mechanism for not getting their love/security needs met. A libra has a hard time understanding this down-right brutal need for emotional connection that the crab fights for - else she finds other forms of expression/entertainment. You must confront her and then be willing to give her some emotional food - it shouldn't take much. Once she decides to "connect" onto you she will probably do a 180. She probably needs you more as a parent then as a teacher, so try this some so the teacher reltionship has a chance.

You smarty-poo! That hit the nail on the head and it was what I suspected. But whether I can pull off the emotional connection thing instantaneously remains to be seen. Tbh, her misbehavior is putting me off.. I mean logically, anyone would be put off. I did provide some emotional 'food' but apparently it's not enough? You see we air signs take different approaches. We don't like getting too clingy too soon. If we do, it means we're acting.

Today, I finally bothered to key in the ephemeris to deduce some charts. This is the little Cancer's chart.

01 Sun 9 Can 29 Moon 18 Sag 34 Merc 23 Can 15 Venus 9 Gem 38 Mars 4 Leo 29 Jup 13 Vir 21 Sat 15 Can 50 6 Pis 37 Rx 14 Aqu 54 Rx 20 Sag 23 Rx

Man her moon conjuncts my mars. No wonder I never gave up on her. She gave me a blast! Now she is realy a little devil, but now I see her chart and am amazed at the synchronicty at other aspects too.

If anyone's wondering. She's still one of the naughtiest -- natural rebel. Must be that Sag moon!

Posted by spica
Dude you obviously don't understand a Cancer woman.

I scolded her and she became more insane.

Now this I can believe.

Please see the "Don't Tell Me What To Do!" board for further enlightenment.

My little brother is an especially difficult child (Cancer) with behavioural problems. Your girl's situation is probably not as serious. She could just be spoiled or a bit quirky with her personality (or both)
but with kids like my bro sometimes it helps to give them some responsibility. For example if you are their baby sitter you can have your little demon girl help you out. Give her the type of stuff to do that would make her feel important.
Also another thing with my brother is that he listens way more to people who do activities with him as opposed to an adult he doesn't really know just coming into a situation and telling him what to do.
I know another Cancer kid whose mom just waits out his tantrums. She doesn't cave to him or react angrily but she shows him that acting out won't get him results and that seems to work for her.

I was reading up on palace Royals and chanced upon the fact prince William was known as William the terrible. Wow, and I thought cancers were as sweet as they looked, lmao.

Oh, for anyone interested, her mum is a gemini, dad is an Aries.
She walks all over her mum and is scared of her dad. Figures, Eh?

@Alessandra, yup, will do. This is a short stint, but I'm enjoying learning about them and their personalities too.
@Scubafish, On cancer board? Will look for it.
@Virgodreamz, thanks. And I thought I was a bad kid, lol