Intimacy issues/Crabs

Reading up on intimacy issues, I've noticed the behavior being very similar to so much I see written on the internet.

So how does one differentiate whether it's intimacy issues or Cancer guy behavior? Obviously not all Cancer men do the push/pull/running away, etc, yet I'm having a hard time ignoring so many posts with similar behavior taking place.

** I've noticed the behavior being very similar to so much I see written on the internet about Cancer men.

Posted by KittyKnitter
with a Cancer man, if they have emotional baggage, they tend to retreat there when feeling stressed.
feeling vulnerable, they can be moody. not that they aren't lovable, it just takes a while to get to know them. it helps if you can read in between what he says..a man's Mars usually shows how he behaves when dealing with sex and love. It's how he acts towards other people. And you can read a lot about a person if you know a person's Mars and venus. sometimes they seem to be contradictory. ie. taurus sun, cancer moon, cancer venus, taurus mars,this is a man who loves deeply, swings back and forth emotionally and has conflicts between thought and feeling. he watches and waits, uses misdirection or other ploy to put off questions about his feelings and his plans til he is sure of himself and his partner. he also needs to feel like he is in control, like he can handle whatever happens and that takes time. my guy would go out of his way to avoid saying he was crazy about me but would show up wherever i was and call often out of the blue just to chat. when he was sure of himself, he sent mushy emails. i have since learned that what he thinks is confusion is conflict. he knows what he wants to do but is afraid or feels restricted. allow a cancer man room to come and go and give him alone time when he asks for it, he needs it to recharge. how you know if it's particular to the man is to hold him accountable for his actions but show him you like him and see him thrive. i haven't met a cancer guy yet who didn't need love but wasn't afraid of it. consistency from you helps. as he gains confidence, he shines.

What you just said makes so much sense and is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Would your Cancer go out of his way to admit feelings even if you were admitting yours to him?

"Haven't met a Cancer guy yet who didn't need love but wasn't afraid of it." This has my Cancer guy written all over it. His sun is in Cancer, his moon is in Libra, his venus is in Cancer and his mars is in Taurus...lord.

Silentkiller, I would love a Cancer man's opinion on that as well lol.

Well it depends on the Cancer guy himself not based on an online description. You have met one for yourself as we all are different & require different things. But I think communication, good communication can help a lot. You can't be selfish, you gotta be sweet, assertive, but classy at the same time. Talk to your Cancer guy, & make him feel loved & safe at all times. Do give him space if he's down/very sad but let him know you are not going anywhere. This should help out a lil bit right 🙂

Well, I've been trying to figure out if the problems I'm having with the man I love are related to intimacy issues. It's just so hard to tell if they are "characteristics" of someone with intimacy isues or of "Cancer" men as they go hand and hand.

We both messed up in the past, now, his guard's up more than ever.

I miss the sweet, sensitive, gentle loving guy he was. I desire to be with him again one day, but am losing hope and again I cannot pinpoint what it is.