Is it common for cancers t threaten to leave?

I am an Aries and my boyfriend is a Cancer, we've been dating for one year and a half and he is my everything. Well the problem is we fight a lot. And each time we fight, he threatens to leave. I know he loves me because he shows it, and even his best friends tell me he is madly in love with me, but I just don't like that aspect. And he overreacts A LOT.

Today we started arguing again and he said he knows I have strong feelings for him but i dont love him, and he tried to break up with me again. He has this sneaky way of making me feel guilty for his mistakes and as an Aries I dont really take that. As i said, he threatened to leave again, I asked him not to multiple times (did I make a mistake there?) and after he calmed down I asked if everything was going to be ok between us. He started overreacting again "Oh so you want me to change my mind again? It's not too late."

Do you think he talked like that because he felt insecure? Or he wants out? Our relationship is pretty much amazing and he shows me a lot of love, except those momements when we fight and he turns into this really cold person who just doesn't care about anything. Is he manipulating me?

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im sorry.

I remember a month ago we got into an argument and the nexy day he told me he was going to break up with me but he just couldn't do it when he saw me. He looked like he was about to cry.

And you know, I'm always there for him. No matter how angry I get I never insult him, but he always tries to put the blame on me. I know he loves me a trusts me because he tells me a lot of personal things but I can't stand being taken for granted.

again though....why the hell are you fighting so much?

An Aries mom, an Aries daughter and an Aries sister in law, i concur they LOVE to argue. LOL! It is like mental stimulation for them.

He doesn't mean it if he's threatening to leave you.

Cancers are clingy...you'll KNOW that something's up when the cancer starts disappearing...

he's doing it for reassurance. He's probably doing it because he feels insecure about your feelings for him and the relationship.

You're going to have to be straight up with him (you're an aries, this should be no problem for you 🙂---I know that you probably are hesitant to tell him how you really feel, but you have to at least tell him that you hate it when he threatens to leave, and to stop. After that, you have to say something like 'I'm not leaving you anytime soon...' if you don't want to reveal everything...

i s a m u,

I totally agree. He got insecure, I remember a few weeks ago he told me only me and his mom can make him be so vulnerable. I am very hesitant, and I always tell him how I feel but when he is mad it's like he emotionally shuts down. I know last night when we were fighting he keept saying he was going to leave, and when I said maybe he's right he suddenly changed his mind saying "I won't break up with you if you don't want to". Every single time we argue he ignores me for a few hours (maybe a day) and then comes back around.

This morning he texted me around 10 and I kept it simple because I wasn't in the mood. I remember a month ago we argued and he left because he was really mad but after one hour he came back, hugged me and apologized. It's always like that.


virgogotme,

I don't live with him even though he always talks about moving in together.


krobe03,

We argue over stupid things. He is pretty insecure, and I am the outgoing kind of girl with a lot of friends.. especially guy friends. We usually fight when he is moody, and he is almost always moody..

why do you take that? and why are you arguing so much? in a loving relationship, aries don't argue or anything... cancer doesn't either... anyone that constantly does this will eventually go over the edge.

Today we started arguing again and he said he knows I have strong feelings for him but i dont love him

well aries and cancer are on very different levels with expressing intimacy. This is something that cannot be resolved no matter the amount of threats or manipulation...

whatever you do, do NOT move in with him until some insecurities are resolved! do you give up your lives or friends either... phss

"he is saying that because he knows that you are desperate and can make you apologize and take things back when he is wrong"



What? ^^^^^^^^^^ wft is that, teddybear?



Yes, he is manipulating you, he is laying a guilt-trap on you so that you will provide emotional security to him.


Look at what is, rather than what you want .. you say he is your everything, that is what you want .... what is, is that your everything that you want is putting you in emotional distress.

My brother used to pull that shit on me.


You don't love me, I'm so shunned *** boohoo*** Nobody loves me.


Now he's alone, he finally did push the family way.

Careful what you put your energy into .. it might just come true.

Of course, he has a Pisces moon .. maybe that has something to do with it.

lol! ^^^ that was pretty funny

whatthe, you described the perfect scenerio there... I can take it for all of 1 day and it's just too much work... Get to the point dammit!

Yes--we do that so you will say to us "Baby, I will never leave you." If you haven't figured it out yet...we need constant reassurance--get used to it. Insecurity will rear it's ugly head once in a while.

Having said that...cancerians are EXTREMELY intuitive--especially the women. So there's usually a reason if we start getting all crazy.

Yuk. I used to do this to a Scorpio Ex. I would always threaten to leave him during an argument.

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He doesn't mean it if he's threatening to leave you.

Cancers are clingy...you'll KNOW that something's up when the cancer starts disappearing...

Yup!!

Yes make sure they we are wanted..hahah..thats bad but its true