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Okay, so I??ve posted on here about my Cancer before, so long story short is we've been dating on and off for the past 3 yrs. I'm a Libra (Sept 23rd) He's the cancer (July 5th). We are 100% different. I mean completely, and as you can imagine we have issues coming to common ground. For the past 2 yrs, we argued and would always end up promising to be together at the end of the argument, but the minute I don't do what he wants the whole thing starts all over again. I??ve often told him he wants me to be an open book while he remains closed shut, and that will never work. I have a right to protect my heart just like he does.
So fast forward to the present, we went on our 1st date last month. We went to the movies. And it was cool for the most part, but things were sort of awkward. I'm used to the guy at least trying to hold my hand or wrap his arm around me in the movies, my Cancer didn't budge. I felt like I was there by myself almost. I like a man to lead in the mushy department because I don't like rejection so if he initiates then there's a lesser chance of me having to face it. So after the movies he dropped me off to my car at his house and I didn't hear from him until 1 week later when I contacted him saying —SMH?? (SHAKING MY HEAD) He goes —Why bae— I said —Well, I haven't heard from you. He made a silly face like it was funny or something so I texted back like —Oh okay..?? he goes —I miss you.?? I said —Yeah, miss you too.: And that was it. No contact since then, and that was a month ago. Now today he text me with a sad face, I said why the sad face? He says —I don't know, I guess.?? So I said —Okay.?? He said, —Do you miss me— I said yes. He said —Love you.?? O__0 I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT. That was the last thing I expected him to say, since he doesn't act like it. I said, —Love you too??. Because I do love him but I'm not sure what kind of love it is yet, because we don't get along long enough or spend enough time for me to ever really explore what, my feelings for him really mean. So he texted back —In love— I said —I don't know to be honest. We haven't spoken or seen one another. But I know I love you like I care a lot tho.?? I asked what kind of love he has for me and he said —It's hard to describe or tell, but I know for a fact I love you.

Continued:

—It's hard to describe or tell, but I know for a fact I love you. But there's this trust thing.?? I said —You don't trust me or you have trust issues in general—? He said —I have trust issues in general.?? I told him —I don't know what I can do to help you learn to trust me unless you really truly want to trust me, and you not trusting me makes me not trust you. Plus you openly flirt with other girls which makes me fall back.?? He got mad. I said —See this why I don't tell you how I really feel because you always get mad, and shut me out.?? He said —Because you always falling back and that shyt is so weak.?? Sooo, All you cancers please help me understand this one before I yank my hair out. What the hell does he want from me?! I cannot be a doormat, and I refuse to open up while he stays shut.

he is a bit shy thats all! i m too and i did a similar thing at the movies first time i went on a date. :p

he must be insecure with initiating and thinks that if he shells up you would approach him and kinda give him an ego boost and make him feel like connecting with you emotionally. you need to tell him that you trust him and wanna spend more time with him. show him some love and when he feels comfy enough to share his life with you , you are promised a ride of a lifetime! all things patient are sweet in the end.

he must have been hurt over some old gf of his who maybe broke his heart. see we dont give our hearts to just anyone. there are standards and you are lucky you meet them. only thing is maybe you need to take a step first in initiating in the mushy department and hell do the rest. good luck!

Thanks Krebbsman. I really appreciate the advice, and I hope your right. It's hard for me to step out there, because sooo many girls like him and he's such a huge flirt that i'm afraid he will play me if I let him get too close. I'm petrified even. There was a time when a man could tell me he loved me and i'd melt, like awww. But after my Ex (sagg) said it and truly fooled me into thinking he meant it, i'm very shy myself. I'm thinking of doing something very special for his birthday in July. He will never suspect it, which makes it all the more sweet.

Posted by pinklibra
—Because you always falling back and that shyt is so weak.??

I didn't like my cancer flirting with girls and because of it, I let him go... hurting to see him do it. I guess because I never seen my family flirt with other people, finding a reason of having an ability to find someone who can treat good and have respect by. Some girls are okay with it... a woman is not. A woman has well respected needs...

In 1950's, some areas of life were much sincere and innnocent back then...




...In general, defend your heart if you have to, especially when it's hurting...

There's no rush in love... take your time and patience.

Posted by krebbsmann
he is a bit shy thats all! i m too and i did a similar thing at the movies first time i went on a date. :p

he must be insecure with initiating and thinks that if he shells up you would approach him and kinda give him an ego boost and make him feel like connecting with you emotionally. you need to tell him that you trust him and wanna spend more time with him. show him some love and when he feels comfy enough to share his life with you , you are promised a ride of a lifetime! all things patient are sweet in the end.

he must have been hurt over some old gf of his who maybe broke his heart. see we dont give our hearts to just anyone. there are standards and you are lucky you meet them. only thing is maybe you need to take a step first in initiating in the mushy department and hell do the rest. good luck!

They're Wimps :-)
And OMG How do I hate that Midget Tom mothafuckin Cruise... LOL 😄 Actually it's pretty funny you got a Picture of him as your new Avatar. He's like the biggest Douchebag ever 😄
So glaaad my Gurl Katie left this selfish Ego - Maniac with control issues 😉 But then, aren't all cancers like this? :-)

Sorry my first message got erased so im writing from memory lol

At the movies he was in his shell. He didn't want to make a move and get rejected . He wanted you to initiate something to let him know it was OK lol like a green light .

The MIA thing you know I can't stand that lol to me there's no excuse but when he dropped to L bomb he probably does love you he just has trust issues in a previous relationship or even in his childhood something happened to him that made his back off from people. He seems like he likes attention which is why he flirts with other chicks & whatnot. He also seems insecure which can be another reason.

As for him lashing out at you he was a jerk for that but I see he probably has that typical "ima blame you for what I did " attitude you called him out on his actions and he has no other way to deal. Seems like he has that "I'm gonna hurt you before you hurt me " attitude. He is playing games like he does love you but since he feels he can't trust you he won't get to close.
Sounds like he's the one that can't be trusted tho.

Hope I helped (:

Sorry my first message got erased so im writing from memory lol

At the movies he was in his shell. He didn't want to make a move and get rejected . He wanted you to initiate something to let him know it was OK lol like a green light .

The MIA thing you know I can't stand that lol to me there's no excuse but when he dropped to L bomb he probably does love you he just has trust issues in a previous relationship or even in his childhood something happened to him that made his back off from people. He seems like he likes attention which is why he flirts with other chicks & whatnot. He also seems insecure which can be another reason.

As for him lashing out at you he was a jerk for that but I see he probably has that typical "ima blame you for what I did " attitude you called him out on his actions and he has no other way to deal. Seems like he has that "I'm gonna hurt you before you hurt me " attitude. He is playing games like he does love you but since he feels he can't trust you he won't get to close.
Sounds like he's the one that can't be trusted tho.

Hope I helped (: