Just making sure i guess

Hello i am new to this forum.. Ill try not to talk to much. im a 29 yo taurus and im dealing with a 32 yo cancer man. He basically stays with me, is good with my children, helps out, works every day, sex is bomb, we love each other, but we are not committed.. i asked him about some fb inboxes i saw asking him about females he was conversing with..he says entertainment.. i dont like that.. if we have established that we are exclusive and all that then why do that? thats the biggest thing that bothers me.. im pretty sure he hasnt had any coitus with anyone else, but still... i have been doing a lot of readin and finding out how cancer men are and how they move and think and it gets on my nerves... but i love him a lot and im trying to find out a balance with attention i give him vs space he wants etc.. i try not to be overbearing.. he knows that im here for him ( i assume) and that im not going anywhere.. im willing to stick it out, but we have been doing this for about 9 months now.. i want a commitment..
i have put in the work love and dedication.. if he wants to see other options or feel as if other females attention or entertainment as he puts it is needed, then why be in my face... i could be dealing with someone else to get married by now.. i dont want to put my life on hold for anyone else.. he assures me of us and i know he doesnt like to be rushed.. we have talked about cancer and taurus relationships and what we know and figured out.. i am with him every day.. minus time he spends at work or with his friends..he is so damn quiet sometimes playing on his phone, even when im right there.. i dont mind.. i know he wants his space and time or whatever cancer men do..

i really dont know what im trying to ask.. i guess.. i want to stick it out.. should i? he got to our year mark to figure out if he wants to be with me or not..i havent told him that tho.

i dont want us to be all about sex.. even tho that is the bomb.. we DO talk and have deep discussions.. we are both really big thinkings.. are both emotional.. i try to make sure i dont put him in a place to shut down but not be myself either and not speak how i want to....i try to make sure i dont do too much., i have been hurt and in abusive relationships.. and he was with a girl that basically made him broke and she wasnt doing what she should have so i know he is taking his time.. but how much time do u freaking need and if ur just entertaining ur self shouldnt i be doing that?

sorry

Aw, Sweetie. Pretty sure you do indeed have your answer.

I know it's hard to rock the boat, especially as a Taurus, but he's already rocking it, no?

How would he act if you went and found your own "entertainment" with other men like he is with other ladies?

Good luck, you know best 😉

Aw, Sweetie. Pretty sure you do indeed have your answer.

I know it's hard to rock the boat, especially as a Taurus, but he's already rocking it, no?

How would he act if you went and found your own "entertainment" with other men like he is with other ladies?

Good luck, you know best 😉

i know for a fact he wouldnt like it..i know cancer men are careful and weigh their options and things like that.. he always comes home and im on his dick every nite so im sure he aint put it nowhere else.. just seeing if i should be patient.. we are pretty open... whatever is to be talked about.. he is just quiet sometimes

any cancer men? explain yall strange ways plz lol

^^ Why can't you just be straight and tell him you don't like it. He can either change his ways or go home...

Why are you damaging your emotional stability when he is clearly not??

I did tell him that... and i told him to cut it out.. but i cant go checking his texts and stuff... he already know i saw his fb... *sigh* im sticking it out cuz we do have feelings for each other and i dont have anyone else here with me.. id go nuts.. thats my only hang up.. just making sure im not wasting my time.. i know they can be all mysterious.. wana hammer that shell open lol

but ur right mr cancer... smh

Posted by BullBaby
I did tell him that... and i told him to cut it out.. but i cant go checking his texts and stuff... he already know i saw his fb... *sigh* im sticking it out cuz we do have feelings for each other and i dont have anyone else here with me.. id go nuts.. thats my only hang up.. just making sure im not wasting my time.. i know they can be all mysterious.. wana hammer that shell open lol

but ur right mr cancer... smh

In that case, continue to bang him but keep your feelings in check too. Erect a mental wall, he will get the message and keep trying to break it down. Resisting shouldn't be hard, you being a bullette and all.

ahhhhhh thanks... i think i will keep bangin him, cuz its bomb and we do get along great.. but since i do know what i have seen and have learned... i have def put my mind in a diff mind frame.. dgaf so to speak......good advice...

Yeah everybody got to earn their keep, right?

yea he better get to it tho... taking his time with just almost EVERYTHING.. he such a homebody which is fine.. but i want to go out .. yall dont like to go out? or not with ' her'

Posted by BullBaby
yea he better get to it tho... taking his time with just almost EVERYTHING.. he such a homebody which is fine.. but i want to go out .. yall dont like to go out? or not with ' her'

Depends on the 11th house, I like to go out a lot. I am not someone who would pick staying at home over going out.

what does 11th house mean? im still learning about zodiacs.. im not that deep into them but im willing to learn..he goes out.. we have eaten out once.. partially cuz i got kids and my baby was nursing when we first hooked up... but now im tryn to tell him stuff i want to do with out pressuring him.. but it gets on my nerves... i aint no mind reader!! and i dont want to irritate him with the same stuff

Posted by BullBaby
what does 11th house mean? im still learning about zodiacs.. im not that deep into them but im willing to learn..he goes out.. we have eaten out once.. partially cuz i got kids and my baby was nursing when we first hooked up... but now im tryn to tell him stuff i want to do with out pressuring him.. but it gets on my nerves... i aint no mind reader!! and i dont want to irritate him with the same stuff

http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_dgelevhouse_e.htm

You've been dominated. Suck his dick or GTFO.

Bang bam!!! Thank you. Mam!!! :p

You're screwing him every night and letting him live with you, all the while he's talking to other girls? That's just gross. Nip that shit in the bud girl.

thank u biker chick i do understand what u are saying.. however i must clear up that no he is NOT my ONLY option just the choice i have hear.. i could jump up and move back home and get with whoever... and no we are NOT in a relationship.. i just know how is is what he is been thru and what i know about cancer men im taking into consideration

thanks yall.. ill be putting my foot down more... just trying to figure out these damn cancers... trying to do things is like pulling teeth with them..cuz he dont want me to see other ppl and i KNOW he has feelings... ill figure it out.. thnx

People still use the phrase "thats/its the bomb" lol

I learned pretty quickly with my EX-cancer, the best way to get him to understand how he makes me feel is to behave exactly as he does...and when he gets all bent out of shape about what I'm doing, that's when I make my more gentle point that what he is feeling right now is EXACTLY how I feel when he does this to me. I've gotten the quickest turn around in behavior that way...if nothing else, cancers know exactly how THEY feel...so get him to understand by making him feel the same way. Fair, no?