Move where—!!!

Me (Aries) been with my cancer man off and on for almost a year. We broke up like 5 times! Last night this man asked me to pack up me and my kids and move with him to a different state. We don't live together now, and when I asked him if he loves me (never said it before) he wouldn't answer! Why would a man ask you to live with him, but wont tell you he loves you—?!!!!!

Scares the shit out of him but deep inside he knows he loves you and knows he wants a life with you. Sounds like a new fresh start life. I used to be nervous to say I love you when I thought saying it would change the relationship and put more pressure and expectations on the relationship. But soon you learn that not saying you love a woman makes more problems them it would if you just said it.

I'm afraid. I don't want to pack up and leave for a man who won't tell me he loves me. But I truly love him with all my heart ??_

It should be a easy fix. Just tell him you need to hear it. Some men don't know it's that easy.

I wouldn't trust it...sorry, seems they things and then turn around and do the opposite...

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I wouldn't trust it...sorry, seems they things and then turn around and do the opposite...

I was told that's how cancers were. SMDH

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I wouldn't trust it...sorry, seems they things and then turn around and do the opposite...

What?


To the OP, little darling you need to put that cute hoof down and say "I'm not going anywhere with you unless we talk about this relationship. I want that L word and I want you do mean it and we need to discuss it. Do you not realize how big of a step moving together is— And to another state—"

This could also mean he's running from the law and he freaked out over some not paid parking tickets. The main thing is to sit him down and have a talk. Not a talking to just a "Dude we REALLY need to discuss this!" conversation.

Good luck!

^exactky

I tried talking to him but he only responds with "trust me. I wouldn't be having this conversation with you if I didn't care. We will be happy. We're like peas in a pod (think I said that right)!"

I'm so confused

He needs to learn that you need to hear those words. That is causing stress to the relationship-he doesn't understand this and you need to tell him he is not giving you the type of reassurance your brain needs. But he does love you and I don't really know why he won't say it. Maybe he's insecure or as a kid his parents was not the type to vocally say the words I love you. Maybe it is legit hard for him to say. I used to be that way until I met my cancer. She really taught me what love is really all about and taught me not to fear love or withhold it from people me or deny it from people. What helped me most with her is when she selflessly would love me-even as friends. She payed attention to my needs and she met them. She taught me how to laugh more and pay attention to the finer things in life. She taught me how to lose the fear that love brings by teaching me to love myself above all people. She taught me how to nurture and be nurtured. Maybe this is something that words can't help. Maybe you could teach him. Tell him you love him when the feeling comes.

^mine taught me that at any moment he could rip the rug out from.under me, after saying things like "I'm so grateful I met you", " it think about you all the time" meanwhile he was really thinking about his ex and how to get her back..i did nothing to bring any of this on...nothing.

Posted by ariesheart
I tried talking to him but he only responds with "trust me. I wouldn't be having this conversation with you if I didn't care. We will be happy. We're like peas in a pod (think I said that right)!"

I'm so confused

Here's the thing he can't make you do jack shit. You're an ARIES. BE ONE! You're alive. Get stoked about it and fight for your well being.

Stop listening to the butt hurt ones in this thread and listen to your inner gut that convinced you to post this topic. Red flags are should be taken seriously.

You need to ask him the tough questions, everything you need to know to have peace of mind. If he loves/cares about you he will have no problem answering them because he wants to reassure you and doesn't wanna lose you. If he's unwilling to do that, then I wouldn't trust it one bit. That's a big step you're taking and he needs to step up to the plate to make you feel secure. Good luck.