Where to start... I want to understand something about cancer men and would like any insight or advice possible. I've been with a cancer man for 2.5 years. We've made a strong bond with each other and have become very close. During the first year we broke up a handful of times. Always his idea. The reasons for the breakup have always been due to the fact that I angered /hurt his feelings. He has had the tendency to bottle these things up until he can't contain it anymore, then he says he wants to break up. Everytime this has happened, I've always pleaded, cried, and tried to talk to him. He'd stay firm and refuse to budge his decision and he'd sound so adamant about it. Then after around 1 1/2-2 weeks we talk it out, he'd tell me he does love me/wants to be together. During that time we work at the issues, talk about why arguments and whatnot happened. We'd fix the problems and be happy again. We didn't break up for over a year. This past Sunday, it happened again. I was surprised and yet not. Because I was doing things that angered him and made him upset. Nothing like lying or cheating, to clarify. I love this cancer man with my whole heart, the thought of losing him for good almost kills me. I feel like I know him very well at this point, but I'm still learning. I know for a fact he is insecure, sensitive, and immature at times. The fact that he's not the best at communicating when there's some issues or something needs to change, makes it difficult to say the least. This time around I've acted different during the break up. I did plead and try to talk it out during the initial break up, but like always..no budge. He wont hear it. This time, I'm giving him space. I haven't contacted him since that day. Based on what I've read, is the best advice to do with a cancer when they're upset. My question is... Do a lot of cancer men do this kind of thing? I know he loves me and cares deeply about me. Nearly 3 great years together where the good times undoubtedly outweigh the bad/negative. What is the best thing I could do right now? Everytime this happens, I'm scared I've really lost him. I do wish I could send the long email to him explaining my realizations of wrong on my part, my genuine apologies, and me not even asking to give me another chance (I left that part out so no pressure) I don't know how to handle this situation in the best way aside from what I'm currently doing. Any input, advice, etc is greatly appreciated. For the record, I'm a Virgo. He is a cancer with Venus in cancer as well. Surely they don't let someone go who they've loved for years..?
