GalOnTheCusp
@GalOnTheCusp
10 Years
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Posted by GalOnTheCuspThe sex is what makes it worth it.
And we never got around to the sex.
Posted by rabidtalkerYou ain't kidding!Posted by GalOnTheCuspThe sex is what makes it worth it.
And we never got around to the sex.
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I'm separated. Not divorced. He's single. He jumps around from being totally invested, wanting something, to backing off and cutting off contact, saying he's doesn't trust I'm going to leave, then comes back and says he doesn't care if I ever get divorced, to jumping back saying this doesn't feel very moral to him, he's not "that guy."
We have these infrequent, long, intense, for-hours conversations, one of us cries, usually, and it's scary how similarly we view ourselves/the world/how the world/family/people see us. And then poof... he's gone. Emotional outpouring, then heads for the hills, and here I am thinking we're closer after the talks and waiting for the call or text he promised that then doesn't always come.
That silence kills me. He knows it. I've told him. It's not three days, or a week. It's a month, sometimes more. I start to do my own thing and it's like he senses it, and he's back. I lash out because I'm hurt - I'm sarcastic or snarky to his advance to smooth things over and pretend like he was never gone - and off he goes again. And we mirror each other, which is stupid, because we're not being 100% authentic.
We're just too sensitive for each other, I think. On the same page too seldom.
And we never got around to the sex.