SAD STORY of my Cancer EX in 2008 (Sharing)

Hi everyone,
Today I am going to share a story about my Ex BF back in 2008 (3 years ago) who happens to be Cancer as well. It was the most difficult break up for me, taking me 1,5 years long to forget him! Perhaps this story can be a lesson for us all and I hope it can be useful for all of us Cancer lovers here.
It was the most hurting..most sad one..one year after my break up, I'm still in tears listening to certain songs

THE STORY
His name is X. We met in Jan, 2008. He told me he was divorced and has one kid. He married young and he looks good. Definitely my type. Plus he's settled financially and run his own company. We live in different cities, so whenever he wants to meet me, he has to drive 3 hours to my city, which is a bigger city. During the time X pursued me, I was involved with a Virgo boy and I was aloof, not paying too much attention to X.

Yet it made him more eager pursuing me. He would call my phone daily and asking what my plans are. If I mention that some good movie is playing in the cinema, he would immediately say "Let's watch it together this evening, I will finish my work early and drive to your place and we watch it." I was put on pedestal. Often when he drive me home and then off to his city (another 3 hours journey), he would cry and he begged "Kristal, it hurts to separate like this. Please consider to stay in my city for 1-2 months, I'll set up an apartment for you,"

I was still occupied with Virgo boy at the moment so I didn't give direct answer. The more I seem distant, X will send me gifts, romantic poems, messages and he will plan trips for us, all to win my heart. He was lavish and grande. But I wasn't fully in love with him at that time, so it made him more crazy pursuing me. Until one day, after I break up with Virgo boy, and when we were dining at a lovely restaurant overlooking the mountains, X proposed and confessed ,"Kristal, my divorce is not final yet. I'm sorry to lie to you, but I am now completely sure about leaving her and having you as a mother to my child. I want to bring you to my mom and we can get married,move to my city and have a baby,"

I'M NOT READY TO BECOME A MOM YET

I was stunned. I'm young and single. The thought of leaving everything, my studies and my life, to become his wife and take care of his child also get pregnant asap is a bit too shocking for me. A bit too fast. Then I said 'I need time to think," I can see disappointment in his eyes. When he drove me back to my city, he said that he will drop me at my place and attend a meeting, after that he will pick me up again and we go to his city together to spend more time. But he never pick me up and..I never called him to ask why..maybe because of pride, because I am still in shock..I don't know why...

After 2-3 days of not hearing anything from him, I tried to email him and I get excuses of work and his good friend dying in hospital. He said that he has to company this friend because they were childhood friends, and he was his business partner as well. Then no news from him at all. I remember he told me, that whenever we argue or fight, I should just go to his city and stay in his apartment (I have the keys), because it means that I truly want him. But I never did it. I had so much regret I just let the whole thing slip away from my fingers.

The hurt stays long after he's gone. I realize he did won my heart, in a silent, gradual way. I resort to avoid places, songs, pictures, notes, so many things. After 1,5 year when I am completely healed, I can look at them again without breaking in tears.
I remember on my birthday, he bought me tickets to visit the beautiful Fiji island and I didn't show up at the airport because I was with Virgo Boy. X was going alone and send me a heartbreaking letter by mail from his beautiful resort. Foolish and fickle me..

HARD TO FORGET

He was the most memorable ex I ever had. A strong Cancer man who offered me everything, when I was too young and it got me freaked out. Last year..during my birthday in 2010, X dropped by at my house when I was not home and left me a letter with his phone number. Asking me to contact him again. He told me in the letter that he went overseas trying to forget me. My friends keep telling me not to contact him because they know how hurt I was when he left me..so I didn't do it.

I didn't want to feel the hurt again, it was DEVASTATING. Like a pinching pain that keeps on pinching, cutting my heart. And it lasts long...in my memory. Today I can say that I am completely healed..but sometimes when I think about him I still sigh.

I hope my story can be a lesson for all of us here, Cancer lovers 🙂
Any questions and comments are truly welcomed

Kristal the Aries Girl

UPDATE
In the year 2011, again I meet another Cancer guy. We got together for 7 months..here's the story :

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=2501758

The cancer man from 2008 sounds like a winner. Too bad things didn't work out with him. Have you spoken or made contact with him since....

Posted by Leo1970
The cancer man from 2008 sounds like a winner. Too bad things didn't work out with him. Have you spoken or made contact with him since....

Yes he was a remarkable guy..and still is 🙂 Problem was I wasn't ready to marry him 3 years ago and be a mother. It seems shocking to me. I didn't realize that I love him..until he left 😢
It took me 1,5 years to forget him ...

Posted by EmotionalMoon
So you have a habit of not relising what you have until he is gone.

Perhaps..when it comes to Cancers..because of their silent approach and moves..I realize it when they are not around anymore...it hurts..but life must go on...

"I remember on my birthday, he bought me tickets to visit the beautiful Fiji island and I didn't show up at the airport because I was with Virgo Boy. X was going alone and send me a heartbreaking letter by mail from his beautiful resort. Foolish and fickle me.."

You weren't in love with him if you could be with someone else when he bought you tix for a trip. Shows how flippant you took him. Like you didnt give a shat.

Spica--at that time, I didn't realize that i was in love with X.But, when he left..I realize that I was in love with him..and it HURTS so much..