Shoot from the hip on this one...

Ok Cancers:
I need you to be completely honest on this question ok- will a Cancer stay in a relationship out of pity or guilt or perceived obligation?

The reason I ask is because I just feel with you all that you are more prone to doing something like this than others because you are more sensitive and more feeling and sympathetic to the other person.

Hey PP:

I know, this would be the worst thing for anyone to do but I just wanted to hear from the Cancers because of what I also read about them not wanting to leave a relationship but will stay in it for these very reasons. Also about how they will do things in the relationship that will make the other person end it instead of them having to directly do it.

Cancers- come out, come out wherever you areeeeeee

Ugh..I hate to say this...but yes, it's possible. I have only had one long term relationship in which I stayed WAY LONGER than I should. The reason was because I was so in-love that I couldn't face the fact that the relationship was over. I fought very hard to avoid the in-evitable. I was deathly afraid of letting go, even though I KNEW I had to. It took me 2 years to admit it to myself that it had to end. I can't say I stayed out of pity, but guilt or obligation may have had some impact, but our relationship was special in the fact that he had major problems (depression, family issues etc..)Ending a relationship for a cancer is like watching someone die...it's that traumatic (for me anyway). One of my close friends who is also a Cancer, had a similar experience with her ex-husband. She stayed with him years longer than she should have because she felt obligated to him and guilty about wanting out of the relationship while he was still content.

I stayed with my (soon to be) ex husband even though i was no longer in love with him, i just could not bear the thought of hurting him. I still cared for him very deeply and he was my best friend. That is really hard to turn your back on. The physical side of our relationship was almost non existent and i was unhappy deep down but tried to kid myself everything was ok. I did try to end it once but he begged me to stay and i did, although in the end he cheated on me.I found it really hard to blame him for this as i thought it was my fault as i had rejected him physically for so long. We are friends now and are both in relationships with someone else.

Looking back in hindsight maybe i did reject him physically thinking he would go elsewhere and i would have an excuse to leave the relationship although this was not calculated maybe just an unconcious thing. Not a good way to go about things i know but i just could not bring myself to end things or hurt him. I have learned from this though and would never stay unnecessarily in a relationship now. I do believe honesty is the best policy, us cancers just find it really hard to inflict hurt on others feelings.

I knew you all would come out sooner or later🙂

Man this is making me tear up just from the honesty and from the fact that unfortunately it is true. I appreciate yall sharing this. Man I'm getting really sad now...

I read too about how it can be unconscious thing for you all to do things but this one really is hard for me to understand. I can see it though but I don't understand it. I just always thought that every person- a logical, thinking adult is always aware of what they're actions are even if it hard to admit that you are doing said actions. I'm not saying this in a mean way. I guess I'm just looking at it in a logical sense instead of the sense that this is just how someone could be- just the nature of who they are.

So answer me this too Cancers will you deny it back and forth verbally if this person keeps asking you if this is what you are doing instead of being direct and admitting to them that you are? I hope that question is not redundant.

And if yes to above question, if the person senses deep down that this is the case will you easily accept the person breaking off the relationship if he/she goes ahead and does it despite your verbal denial?

out of obligation? yep. especially if there're children involved.

would we lie about it? yep.

oops, forgot to answer the last part: would i easily accept them breaking it off? it depends. usually there's a bond in any relationship that keeps me clinging, even if it's out of obligation... so it's difficult to end any relationship

Yeah, I've stayed longer than I really wanted to. But I definitley became more distant and stopped returning phone calls so much. I'm not proud of it but yes I think this is a Cancer thing.

a cancerian is likely to cling to a relationship and avoid breaking up at all costs, even if they have to lie to others...even if they have to lie to themselves. we want to resist that kinda hurt, it's hard to leave what we percieve as security...even if it's not an ideal relationship at all. it's just too much of a risk.

Hey PP:

Actually everything is fine. I read this about Cancers while surfing one day and I started thinking to myself how I would never want my Cancer to do this to me (hence the getting sad part- thinking of "what if"- not "what is" Tanya023) which I should have clarified after making said statement.

He acutally got really mad at me for doing that and forbade me from reading about that sort of thing for fun and to not to take it so seriously. I know my Cancer, he will without a doubt, let me know if he wants to end our relationship. He isn't too keen on being "labeled" according to astrology anyway.

He is the one that keeps pushing marriage why I, on the other hand, am a tad bit nervous about it but I know in my heart that he is the one. Just cold feet on my part.

PP it's usually hard for me to respond back quickly because of demands on my time from my little one. Gotta steal it when I can🙂

yes!!! i have done this sooo many times..we believe in the happy endings. we stay, because we look for the good, even if it is never there..it isn't pity..it is we believe things will work out in the end. so we hand on...and on...and..on. till one day we realize it is better to be alone, then with you.

hand..i ment hang...lol