WHAT MAKES A CANCER FEEL SECURE?

I really need to know.

money

lol they live by it
but more than that, i mean like in a relationship

i know it is important for him that I work with carreer for good money and not labour(which i love cause it keeps me in shape)

Alot of ATTENTION and AFFECTION 🙂

I'm with Moonmaiden..a lot of attention and affection,otherwise we can get reeeaal cranky !!

Moonmaiden said all that needs to be said.....

good thing is once you do that for a while we won't need it as much....its just to let us know that maybe we should consider sticking with you instead of moving on to the next person. We don't like to invest much into people who we aren't going to really be with...

knowing that someone close to you will always be there for you...knowing you are not alone.

money = security

..and of course what moonchild just said.

knowing that you're there whenever he needs or wants you while you're not being clingy. giving him absolutely no reason to think that there's anyone else in your life. being honest.

no... that stuff makes us insecure...

I had a piggybank that I used to keep my pennies, nickels and dimes in..

Never any blankets or teddy bears.. I did have a favorite set of colored pencils that I used to draw with..

thank you
u all have been very helpful

"Do you still have them?"

Of course.. without them I loose all sense of security. 🙂

i asked this to my cancer friend and she said her mama LOL

cancers are so sweet 🙂 makes me want to squeeze them!

lol, are they really? hmmm...i've heard they are kinda moody, but the ones i met are nothing but complete sweethearts so i don't know *shrunk*

I have an unbelievable attachment to my mother. I have no idea what I am going to do when she leaves this earth. I try not to think about it.

I know I can be evil sometimes, but the good definitely outweighs the bad 🙂

I also still have most of my favorite childhood posessions. Some are still in my bedroom! The rest are packed away in a giant crate in the attic. Sometimes when I'm feeling nostalgic, I'll go up there and look thru everything.

I don't even know what can make me feel secure...

I need security, but when I have security.. I feel bored and I run away

mine2u-
i read what you wrote on crudes post...
what is it that you love about this man? I hate to be the one to tell you this, but after 2 years together, if you deside to marry this guy, i fear things will only get worse. it seems like you are in a dysfunctional relationship already..honey, marriage only complicates things, if this is true. i know no one can tell you what to do, you have to deside that for yourself..but i feel the need to speak up here...

"I don't even know what can make me feel secure...

I need security, but when I have security.. I feel bored and I run away"

Yep-know the feeling.

gah that sucks!!!

it's so hard to establish a mixture of comfort and security and UN-boringness. it must be possible though 😛.

It's probably a cusp-thing (gemini), cancer-leo-cusper (leo) 😄

I agree

Where did all the finger-pointing and name calling come from? Just out of the blue..

I want to thank everyone for there spport. Your words found my sanity.
ESpecially
Message posted by: Shaka2 on 3/2/2007 3:43:24 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.232
Cancers are so evil makes me want to squeeze them!
THIS IS TRUE OF ME. I want to hug his so bad when he is speaking what is to me nonsense.

Message posted by: cancimini on 3/3/2007 4:16:18 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.74
I don't even know what can make me feel secure...

I need security, but when I have security.. I feel bored and I run away
THIS SCARES ME, I feel I work hard to make sure he feels loved and secure no matter what. I try to just love him as he is and understand what I don't. I don't play with temptations, I want him to know he is he only man i dream of.

Cancers are so sentive, it is hard to see the line.

menbay12
thank you for your honesty.
I take your words to heart, although he isnt always being the man i love, i know he is not himself, or rather himself with anxiety/depression( not sad kind but mad kind). It wasnt always like this, just since his injury

Hey moonchild I'm back...lots happened...both good and bad
I had a really had a bad week at work with bad performance due to me thinking of her
Then I got flu for another week
Anyway good news I'm expecting a pay rise !

I posted here because I have a new topic at work to examine: a female Cancerian !
So far I can tell you we argue quite some times. I guess because she has the "my way or the highway" attitude that applies to Cancerians.

We both work in customer support so some times customers tend not to listen or want things their way etc. I'm more humanitarian so I work things around without making things worse. But I can often hear her voice rise to customers. We even argue as colleagues cause she always thinks she's right and pass/push it to all.

Btw I'm on my break now ! Brb

"my way or the highway"...LOL, that's funny b/c my aqua always says i think about myself too much and that i am selfish in the relationship...and he seems to think that i think it's my way or no way!!! so, maybe we do come off that way to you aqua boys...!

tas...you must be very attracted to cancer women for some reason...does the new girl remind you of your last cancer girl?

well, my aqua is leaving me in a couple of months...he is moving to the East coast for work and he will be gone for at least a year...so, it has been tough lately with us. don't know what will happen with our relationship, but if it is meant to be, it will be.

money and when a girl cups my balls. JK JK JK

Hmm now that you mention it is true, cancers, leos & pisches I would say.

She's my colleague but I guess her personality ruins the good image I have for cancers ie she's not a quiet/clever/making the best to show beautiful like my gf.

Her attitude I told you before rather starting to make me angry. Seems maybe cancers shouldn't became supervisors, they tend to get a bossy attitude. But I need to come back to you about that 🙂