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signs of an immature cancer or is it just the person?
Based on his birth date of 13th July,his rising is Scorpio,his sun is in cancer,moon and mercury in leo and his venus is in virgo.
I think what you said about him wanting to feel in control and power makes sense. Few more things to consider is the fact that he always had this dream of pursuing this degree called CA which is the most prestigious finance degree here. He failed the the final exam the 5th(or 6th) time.Not because he's not capable but because he never put in the required effort due to his hectic job and laziness when he took leave from job for studies. I think he gave up his dream of re-appearing for the CA exam and actually qualifying it again this time. I really wish to tell him to not give up on his dream but I am reluctant because I don't want to bruise his male ego since we are no more on sweet loving terms anymore. So his exam results which got out last year in mid july really changed him as a person. It happened 3 months after we broke up and we brokeup because I had betrayed his trust with a lie. He never disappeared on me even after we brokeup.We would still talk just the same way and instead we started emotionally reconnecting 2 months later.Things were improving until his CA final results got out and he disappeared saying he needs some time off to reflect on things.He came back after he got a temporary job a month later but he significantly changed.He was completely emotionally shut, and would get highly irritated and fumed whenever i asked him "why dont we talk as much anymore" " why are you so emotionally closed off" etc. But he would and still checks up on me every weekend. One day he'll get so pissed and snap out saying "i realized how foolish i was during our relationship. The person i am now,who speaks less and only relevant things,is what I am in real. I am not the affectionate,lovey dovey emotional fool I was with you". And then 2-3 days later he'll say "you're my long term investment.In long term investment,you invest a bit and then don't give a s**t about it since you have to focus on short term investments for the time being.Then you renew the long term investment later and it grows only stronger with time". And then a month/day/week(s) later when he behaves cold with you again he says "I don't hate you or dislike you.It's just that the feelings I associate with you are not pleasant anymore" but still he'll check up on me every weekend. When I question him "why" or"how" he will get pissed and either reply rudely or say "that's a nonsense question" and end the discussion. This is how it has been.
I think what you said about him wanting to feel in control and power makes sense. Few more things to consider is the fact that he always had this dream of pursuing this degree called CA which is the most prestigious finance degree here. He failed the the final exam the 5th(or 6th) time.Not because he's not capable but because he never put in the required effort due to his hectic job and laziness when he took leave from job for studies. I think he gave up his dream of re-appearing for the CA exam and actually qualifying it again this time. I really wish to tell him to not give up on his dream but I am reluctant because I don't want to bruise his male ego since we are no more on sweet loving terms anymore. So his exam results which got out last year in mid july really changed him as a person. It happened 3 months after we broke up and we brokeup because I had betrayed his trust with a lie. He never disappeared on me even after we brokeup.We would still talk just the same way and instead we started emotionally reconnecting 2 months later.Things were improving until his CA final results got out and he disappeared saying he needs some time off to reflect on things.He came back after he got a temporary job a month later but he significantly changed.He was completely emotionally shut, and would get highly irritated and fumed whenever i asked him "why dont we talk as much anymore" " why are you so emotionally closed off" etc. But he would and still checks up on me every weekend. One day he'll get so pissed and snap out saying "i realized how foolish i was during our relationship. The person i am now,who speaks less and only relevant things,is what I am in real. I am not the affectionate,lovey dovey emotional fool I was with you". And then 2-3 days later he'll say "you're my long term investment.In long term investment,you invest a bit and then don't give a s**t about it since you have to focus on short term investments for the time being.Then you renew the long term investment later and it grows only stronger with time". And then a month/day/week(s) later when he behaves cold with you again he says "I don't hate you or dislike you.It's just that the feelings I associate with you are not pleasant anymore" but still he'll check up on me every weekend. When I question him "why" or"how" he will get pissed and either reply rudely or say "that's a nonsense question" and end the discussion. This is how it has been.
This loser sounds EXAAAAACTLY like my cancer x husband.
cut off all contact and stay away is my advice.
cancer men can go psycho, being such emotional pansies has a negative effect on their psyche and some go loopy banana loonytunez.
cut off all contact and stay away is my advice.
cancer men can go psycho, being such emotional pansies has a negative effect on their psyche and some go loopy banana loonytunez.
Posted by CancerLeoDynamitecan you describe your ex husband a bit?
This loser sounds EXAAAAACTLY like my cancer x husband.
cut off all contact and stay away is my advice.
cancer men can go psycho, being such emotional pansies has a negative effect on their psyche and some go loopy banana loonytunez.
Extremely shy and quiet, fell in love at the drop of a hat with internet girls, would buy them an engagement ring before even meeting them. Sexual deviant, messaged random women online asking to lick their pussies, until some fifteen year old replied, he was in his 20s at the time (I found out most of this stuff later) Broke into some chicks apt, and jerked off into her underwear, Used to grab at his sisters breasts.,but if you met him he just seemed like a quiet shy guy.
He could justify ANY behaviour and changed his mind drastically whenever it suited,.
He once decided to travel to india but as soon as he got there he was so overwhelmed and scared he took the first flight home.
passive agressive to the extreme, (such a femme thing to be, yuck)
Thought of himself an as intellectual, and read philosophy books but actually pretty fucking stupid.
lot of anxiety attacks and secret anger
never ever ever lets go of a grudge, and revenge is as nasty as he deems fair.
Reallllly cheap
Liar. especially to family.
Really loyal to people he considers in his circle, but he can kick you out with any justification so the loyalty thing doesnt really apply in that case.
cant let go of the past
totally hung up on how 'things used to be'
always mopey and sad
nostalgiac
very oral, but a dead fish kisser.
He could justify ANY behaviour and changed his mind drastically whenever it suited,.
He once decided to travel to india but as soon as he got there he was so overwhelmed and scared he took the first flight home.
passive agressive to the extreme, (such a femme thing to be, yuck)
Thought of himself an as intellectual, and read philosophy books but actually pretty fucking stupid.
lot of anxiety attacks and secret anger
never ever ever lets go of a grudge, and revenge is as nasty as he deems fair.
Reallllly cheap
Liar. especially to family.
Really loyal to people he considers in his circle, but he can kick you out with any justification so the loyalty thing doesnt really apply in that case.
cant let go of the past
totally hung up on how 'things used to be'
always mopey and sad
nostalgiac
very oral, but a dead fish kisser.
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